Why do some men date woman that are unattractive?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know a 300 pound woman who is mentally challenged and a pathological liar with a bad temper and never takes responsibility for her actions and she is dating a guy who is tall and average weight and has a car and decent looks - his personality is terrible but visually and financially he has higher status than her. Is he dating her because he wants somebody he can control? He wants somebody who will never say no to bed side contact? He wants somebody he can be weird with? He wants somebody he can abuse? He wants to be worshiped by a woman who idolizes him? He wants a woman who is open to having kids with him and knows a normal woman will not offer him that? He wants a punching bag for his rage? Why is he dating this morbidly obese pathologically lying bad tempered manipulative depressed and mentally ill gold digger?

[MLGbreezy]

Because womans standards nowadays are so fucking high that some men have no choice. Woman that are in a lot of men's leagues usually end up dating up which means men are eating down and because of this woman that should reasonably be within ir even under your potential are now rejecting you because they think they are to good looking for you. Or the excuse woman love to use your not their type. Mm shocking

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think he has issues of his own so this is why he's dating her

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For MHO :)

[Crazybeeguy]

I once had a friend that he dated an abusive women, his excuse was a place to live he had no work and only side hustles going on. I told him she is going to get him into trouble one day and I would rather live in my car then an abusive relationship. With her abusiveness he stuck with her she was a large women too. Her personality was very similar to the girl you described. The women he could get were very beautiful and loved him enough to help him get back on his feet. The question is not why they are together, or what you don't know goes on in real life. The question is why are you having a hard time finding a boyfriend? As you can tell by the comments is, there is someone out there for everyone, you are witnessing it for yourself. I bet you would make a great girlfriend to someone, you sound sweet. Besides your spite in some cases. I spend less time on here and other social sites, I don't consider online people real. No one knows what each other is really like, unless you spent time together in real life. On a fundamental level I am honest and real with people on and offline, why lie? It's a lot of work in both cases, I rather use that energy in improving myself, my finances or even my friendships. Last but not least you are considered an influencer on this site, this gives you the opportunity to ask real questions. These questions could help you or someone else improve their lives, maybe even help you find peace. Get mad at me if you like, at the end of the day... Stay thirsty my friend!

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Is it just me or does this sound a little judgy? For someone that believes in a faith where you shalt not judge, you are passing judgement on the both of them.

You are very condescending towards the lady. How well do you know her? Do you know why she weighs so much? Do you know what her routine is after work? How can you stand there as a child of light and asks us how can she deserve a man because of her weight, her mental stability, and her work ethic?

For shame. Seems like you claim to be a Bible thumper but yet you sit back and pass judgement of what you do not understand. Until you can walk a mile in her shoes to experience the challenges she faces everyday, how can you decide on what she is worthy of having?

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Thou shalt love thy neighbor.

[jennifer_bloom]

She harasses you by texting you non stop every day and when I offered to buy her McDonalds after she said she had over $10,000 in debt she told me she wanted me to buy her steak instead and she is constantly cussing and swearing and she ghosts you in the middle of conversations when more popular people go online and than begs you to be her friend saying nobody likes her.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Maybe she was abused or molested as a child. She might have suffered heavy mental abuse. Do you know her past? Maybe she didn't have any friends so she doesn't know how to act with people.

[ilikefrogsalot]

@nyceguyfinishinglast Being a victim of molestation or abuse isn't an excuse to be an awful human being. I should know, I'm a victim of both sexual assault and abuse and I try my hardest everyday to not let my trauma define me as a person. If she has trauma, that's unfortunate and unfair. It's also unfair that she projects that trauma onto other people instead of healing herself.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Some people are not as strong as others. Every one can not handle the trama as well as others. I know some people that have been abused most of their life and they are very abrasive and unsociable. Good for you that you are strong enough to power through but don't look down on people are not as strong.

[Crazybeeguy]

@ilikefrogsalot if I could give you a thumbs up I would. Twice over, I had an abusive step mom, it made me not put up with abusive peoples shit.

[Anonymous]

Just because you do not find someone attractive does not mean someone else doesn't.

Also, just because someone is dating someone you find unattractive doesn't mean they're dating them for bad reasons. Maybe there is something between them that you don't see outside of their public image.

[Cybermetal93]

More men date unattractive women than women do with unattractive men. A lot of men that are unattractive are automatically labeled as "creeps" if they try to go after woman, but good looking men are always accepted. Most guys aren't like that. We don't usually label women but women love to label men. Not only that but most guys just want a woman with a good personality. Women usually have a lot of standards and its a friggin obstacle run going after women and trying to fit in with their standards. It's not worth it

[Qdbrown]

This is not uncommon. Social media and online dating has many women wanting and expecting a better guy. That leaves average guys with much lower supply of women to date. The average girls these days, like the 4-6 range out of 10 chasing 7-9 range guys because these guys will pump and dump the average, but none will actually date or even wife up an average girl, if he has unlimited options.

Average guys are simply getting what they can or go without. A third of men under 30 right now are still virgins, if that tells you anything. That adage about there being someone for everyone is a myth. Average guys are dating below, and less than average guys are out of luck. They best figure out how to go solo or get a doll.

[JDavid25]

Geez, those are quite some conclusions.. Maybe he genuinely thought she was sexy, and wanted to get with her. But we'll never fully understand his mindset. And like some others have said. It could be that he realized women's standards are a bit too high so he went with what he could get. But he's most likely a chubby chaser

[Finchie40]

Because looks aren’t everything , when someone focuses on looks for attraction they are more then likely going to meet someone that thinks the same way and those type of people usually cheat on each other and have affairs , I knew a guy that always went for attracted girls and they all eventually cheated on him , now he is happily married to a girl that was complete opposite from the girls he used to go for and living a better life with someone that values him for him and shares a lot of the same interests as him , So again looks aren’t everything when you find someone that actually has a heart and values you that’s what matters

[Interstate]

It sounds to me he is suffering from low self-esteem. He wants somebody in his life desperately enough so badly, that he will take the first Woman that comes by just to keep from being alone. Also, he doesn't feel he can do or deserves better because of that desperation and self-esteem.

[chapawapa]

That's a question for him. Maybe call him up and ask him.

I don't know your view sounds really bitter and rude and you sound like the vouple you are describing. But anyway. I've been skinny and fat. I'm fat and dated skinny men and some men with their stuff together... bottom like is we get along and find one another attractive.

Relationships are not all vain

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Who are you to say whose attractive and whose not? she's Gods creation just like you are he chose her over you now get over yourself..

[Tranquility_Lady]

Ahmen!

[Anonymous]

If he's white then that is pretty self explanatory as you said his personality isn't good and being a straight white man in '21 really sets you back by a lot. Conservative thought in young women is dead. You have to bring a lot of character into your image and be successful to even remotely consider a serious relationship also the second option could be he assumes she considers herself inferior in such a way she would stay loyal to him because it's better to be with an ugly but loyal person who'd take care of you rather than an attractive person who'd leave you the first chance they get.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

There are a few conservative young women and it seems to be coming back with the generation after millennials but millennials? We are fucked. Thanks boomers.

[invalid1]

Come on Jennifer. Chill.
Sister I have seen smoking hot chicks in love with douch bags. It happens.
It does annoy me, I won't deny it.

But why give a fuck..! Believe me, envy is normal but it just exhausts our energies.

Even the lowest probability can still happen, but will that reflect something about us? Does that mean we should feel anything. Nay.
Chill chill 🌹❤️🤗

[Tiptoetamm]

Just because the person is not attractive to you doesn't mean they are not attractive to sometime else. There is someone out there for everyone

[InferiorElegy]

It's because unlike females there are guys who find any and all females attractive. Girls always have guys who want to date them wether they notice them or not.

[Citizenkirk]

Are these men who "supposedly date" unatractive woman, the one's who claim they are unattractive, or is it "SOMEONE ELSE," looking from the outside in of a relationship they are not engaged in, who find these women unatractive?

[jennifer_bloom]

She asked for $10,000 from a loan shark to bribe a guy into dating her and spends $50 a day on hair and make up and food when she’s living on welfare and her mother is jobless and her dad makes minimum wage and than her parents have to sacrifice their needs to pay off her debt. She also threatens suicide 3 times a week on Facebook saying she wants to kill herself because no one likes her and when you invite her to hang out, she shows up 30-80 minutes late.

[Citizenkirk]

You paint a visual picture of a lady who's character is unatractive, which is far deeper in scope, than what I originally percieved the question too be asking. These are indications of a person's character that would not be visibly obvious to a random observer looking at a 2 demensional image of a photograph of someone they don't know personally.

[jennifer_bloom]

I assumed people would know I wasn’t focused on just her looks when I said she was a manipulative and a gold digger and a pathological liar. She brags about paying taxes when she’s been on welfare all her life because she works less than 6 hours a week as a janitor at a fast food restaurant.

[Citizenkirk]

It sounds like she night not be the most healthy influence for him as a perspective life partner.

[Dude_777]

It's due to guys rough past, troublesome upbringing & self esteem issues, making him believe that he doesn't deserve good girls in life.

And also due to the fact that he doesn't have any better options available.

[Nik1hil]

Ok.. Let me clear the air for you..

1) she knows how to suck a dick and sucks his dick minimum 2 times daily. .
2) She does anal.
3) she knows his sexual fetish... Femdom or mommy fetish and does that in bedroom.

She is giving him something that other women cannot...

If you can give him all that and some. More.. He would would be with you..

[Anonymous]

Why do women with unattractive guys? Who knows? It could be anything that only they can answer. And they won't likely see the person that you see (ie they know someone different than you describe). There might be a side of her you don't see?

[Mofunfour20]

Because they never established a healthy sense of self esteem. Theyve normalized bad behavior and dont know their value

[CallmeTheKnight]

Either she's easy and they're not dating or he has no self confidence in himself. Perhaps they have history, but a woman such as that should never be in a relationship at all