Why do some men date woman that are unattractive?

Question

I know a 300 pound woman who is mentally challenged and a pathological liar with a bad temper and never takes responsibility for her actions and she is dating a guy who is tall and average weight and has a car and decent looks - his personality is terrible but visually and financially he has higher status than her. Is he dating her because he wants somebody he can control? He wants somebody who will never say no to bed side contact? He wants somebody he can be weird with? He wants somebody he can abuse? He wants to be worshiped by a woman who idolizes him? He wants a woman who is open to having kids with him and knows a normal woman will not offer him that? He wants a punching bag for his rage? Why is he dating this morbidly obese pathologically lying bad tempered manipulative depressed and mentally ill gold digger?

MLGbreezy · Accepted Answer

Because womans standards nowadays are so fucking high that some men have no choice. Woman that are in a lot of men's leagues usually end up dating up which means men are eating down and because of this woman that should reasonably be within ir even under your potential are now rejecting you because they think they are to good looking for you. Or the excuse woman love to use your not their type. Mm shocking

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

I think he has issues of his own so this is why he's dating her

Crazybeeguy · Answer

I once had a friend that he dated an abusive women, his excuse was a place to live he had no work and only side hustles going on. I told him she is going to get him into trouble one day and I would rather live in my car then an abusive relationship. With her abusiveness he stuck with her she was a large women too. Her personality was very similar to the girl you described. The women he could get were very beautiful and loved him enough to help him get back on his feet. The question is not why they are together, or what you don't know goes on in real life. The question is why are you having a hard time finding a boyfriend? As you can tell by the comments is, there is someone out there for everyone, you are witnessing it for yourself. I bet you would make a great girlfriend to someone, you sound sweet. Besides your spite in some cases. I spend less time on here and other social sites, I don't consider online people real. No one knows what each other is really like, unless you spent time together in real life. On a fundamental level I am honest and real with people on and offline, why lie? It's a lot of work in both cases, I rather use that energy in improving myself, my finances or even my friendships. Last but not least you are considered an influencer on this site, this gives you the opportunity to ask real questions. These questions could help you or someone else improve their lives, maybe even help you find peace. Get mad at me if you like, at the end of the day... Stay thirsty my friend!

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

Is it just me or does this sound a little judgy? For someone that believes in a faith where you shalt not judge, you are passing judgement on the both of them.

You are very condescending towards the lady. How well do you know her? Do you know why she weighs so much? Do you know what her routine is after work? How can you stand there as a child of light and asks us how can she deserve a man because of her weight, her mental stability, and her work ethic?

For shame. Seems like you claim to be a Bible thumper but yet you sit back and pass judgement of what you do not understand. Until you can walk a mile in her shoes to experience the challenges she faces everyday, how can you decide on what she is worthy of having?

Anonymous · Answer

Just because you do not find someone attractive does not mean someone else doesn't.

Also, just because someone is dating someone you find unattractive doesn't mean they're dating them for bad reasons. Maybe there is something between them that you don't see outside of their public image.

Cybermetal93 · Answer

More men date unattractive women than women do with unattractive men. A lot of men that are unattractive are automatically labeled as "creeps" if they try to go after woman, but good looking men are always accepted. Most guys aren't like that. We don't usually label women but women love to label men. Not only that but most guys just want a woman with a good personality. Women usually have a lot of standards and its a friggin obstacle run going after women and trying to fit in with their standards. It's not worth it

Qdbrown · Answer

This is not uncommon. Social media and online dating has many women wanting and expecting a better guy. That leaves average guys with much lower supply of women to date. The average girls these days, like the 4-6 range out of 10 chasing 7-9 range guys because these guys will pump and dump the average, but none will actually date or even wife up an average girl, if he has unlimited options.

Average guys are simply getting what they can or go without. A third of men under 30 right now are still virgins, if that tells you anything. That adage about there being someone for everyone is a myth. Average guys are dating below, and less than average guys are out of luck. They best figure out how to go solo or get a doll.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because looks aren’t everything , when someone focuses on looks for attraction they are more then likely going to meet someone that thinks the same way and those type of people usually cheat on each other and have affairs , I knew a guy that always went for attracted girls and they all eventually cheated on him , now he is happily married to a girl that was complete opposite from the girls he used to go for and living a better life with someone that values him for him and shares a lot of the same interests as him , So again looks aren’t everything when you find someone that actually has a heart and values you that’s what matters

JDavid25 · Answer

Geez, those are quite some conclusions.. Maybe he genuinely thought she was sexy, and wanted to get with her. But we'll never fully understand his mindset. And like some others have said. It could be that he realized women's standards are a bit too high so he went with what he could get. But he's most likely a chubby chaser

Interstate · Answer

It sounds to me he is suffering from low self-esteem. He wants somebody in his life desperately enough so badly, that he will take the first Woman that comes by just to keep from being alone. Also, he doesn't feel he can do or deserves better because of that desperation and self-esteem.

chapawapa · Answer

That's a question for him. Maybe call him up and ask him.

I don't know your view sounds really bitter and rude and you sound like the vouple you are describing. But anyway. I've been skinny and fat. I'm fat and dated skinny men and some men with their stuff together... bottom like is we get along and find one another attractive.

Relationships are not all vain

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Who are you to say whose attractive and whose not? she's Gods creation just like you are he chose her over you now get over yourself..

Anonymous · Answer

If he's white then that is pretty self explanatory as you said his personality isn't good and being a straight white man in '21 really sets you back by a lot. Conservative thought in young women is dead. You have to bring a lot of character into your image and be successful to even remotely consider a serious relationship also the second option could be he assumes she considers herself inferior in such a way she would stay loyal to him because it's better to be with an ugly but loyal person who'd take care of you rather than an attractive person who'd leave you the first chance they get.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Just because the person is not attractive to you doesn't mean they are not attractive to sometime else. There is someone out there for everyone

invalid1 · Answer

Come on Jennifer. Chill.
Sister I have seen smoking hot chicks in love with douch bags. It happens.
It does annoy me, I won't deny it.

But why give a fuck..! Believe me, envy is normal but it just exhausts our energies.

Even the lowest probability can still happen, but will that reflect something about us? Does that mean we should feel anything. Nay.
Chill chill 🌹❤️🤗

InferiorElegy · Answer

It's because unlike females there are guys who find any and all females attractive. Girls always have guys who want to date them wether they notice them or not.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Are these men who "supposedly date" unatractive woman, the one's who claim they are unattractive, or is it "SOMEONE ELSE," looking from the outside in of a relationship they are not engaged in, who find these women unatractive?

Dude_777 · Answer

It's due to guys rough past, troublesome upbringing & self esteem issues, making him believe that he doesn't deserve good girls in life.

And also due to the fact that he doesn't have any better options available.

Nik1hil · Answer

Ok.. Let me clear the air for you..

1) she knows how to suck a dick and sucks his dick minimum 2 times daily. .
2) She does anal.
3) she knows his sexual fetish... Femdom or mommy fetish and does that in bedroom.

She is giving him something that other women cannot...

If you can give him all that and some. More.. He would would be with you..

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women with unattractive guys? Who knows? It could be anything that only they can answer. And they won't likely see the person that you see (ie they know someone different than you describe). There might be a side of her you don't see?

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because they never established a healthy sense of self esteem. Theyve normalized bad behavior and dont know their value

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Either she's easy and they're not dating or he has no self confidence in himself. Perhaps they have history, but a woman such as that should never be in a relationship at all

JSmuve · Answer

Probably lack of options so he's taking the bottom of the dumpster because that's all that's available to him.

Tranquility_Lady · Answer

She could have good qualities that you can't see that he loves about her he's with her for a reason and just beacuse she is overweight doesn't mean she is ugly. Beauty is inthe eyes of the beholder

fred_durst · Answer

you already answer your question
because he wants somebody he can control
also
usually , the prettier women are , the guy need to try harder to get her.
it seems this guy doesn't want to try that hard , so..

Anonymous · Answer

Because she's on birth control yes that actually happened to me that was the only attractive about her at the time she was on birth control which tells me she's taking care of business which tells me she's thirsty and wants to get it on and no this is not a Marvin Gaye album.

Wise4myage · Answer

Some guys go for bigger girls because they assume the chances of them cheating are low. And some guys just have a thing for bigger women.

NightHawk99 · Answer

It's one thing finding a cute face, taking her home and fucking her.

But it's a blessing to have that childhood friend now be your significant other, because they understand you best and stayed by your side the whole way. The way they looked never mattered to you.

Anonymous · Answer

beggers can't be choosers, its near impossible to get a decent girl, men have to settle for trash, its easier..,..

red324 · Answer

I dated a girl that was like 4'8" and 100 pounds, but because of her personality and just who she was I don't think I would have even cared if she gained weight and became a 300 pound whale, because I was in love with who she was.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

answering the question not the details. Attraction is very subjective. It’s really hard to know or fully understand why you are attracted to on person over another.

jasco · Answer

Because he can't find anyone else to put up with him. He's unhappy and he is tired of looking.

Anon621 · Answer

Because there are men out there like me who don't care about how someone looks.

rievious · Answer

Maybe you should leave your opinion out of their lives bc they're grown up and can handle it themselves. They don't need your judgement

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They must see something in her that others don''t! Maybe it's more of a personality thing than it is about looks or body image!

AmeerX · Answer

I hate you. Why do say that she is his punching bag? If he dates a supermodel, then people have issues and if he dates an obese women then again he is at blame. I don't see anything wrong with him.

Farah_luna · Answer

Because you grow up to learn that personality is the most important thing over looks

Avicenna · Answer

Because there is much more to a woman than her looks and attractiveness is multidimensional.

Anonymous · Answer

Heterosexual men dont care so much about looks lol. Women and gay men care more about looks according to statistics and so women are more visual.

jerdanro · Answer

I don't know, but if you know any beautiful women who want to date a chubby, middle aged guy please let me know. :)

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Because women ruined the dating market. Most men are considered unattractive while most women that are objectively unattractive are considered a prize.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he likes her? I know if i were a guy I wouldn’t wanna date a woman that judges other women for being 300 pounds, and depressed. You sound salty and mentally ill more than she does tbh👩‍🦯

robocop666 · Answer

I know a man who is an 8-9 on the looks scale. he went out with a hideous woman. God only knows? they say things like "looks don't matter". I know another man who is the same. he went out with a 4 on the looks scale. It beats me.

etexbearkat · Answer

It could be he finds something attractive about her.

Jxrdyn_13 · Answer

You dont marry looks, you marry personality and soul

Goodboy27 · Answer

I would be with unattractive women if I couldn’t be with an attractive woman like rejection from attractive women take it’s toll so men just give up

clampfan101 · Answer

Maybe they do find her attractive. Or maybe they find her inner qualities worth it. (Or a bit of both.)

Synikal · Answer

They define beauty for themselves. Has nothing to do with the next person. Nor their relationship goals are meant for everyone else.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Lack of self confidence is a bitch

SupremeWarlord · Answer

The real answer is that nobody knows unless someone ask him.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder... sometimes girls find a girl unattractive but she cud b attractive in eyes of men.. vice versa is also true

dudeinohio · Answer

I'd date a big girl, but her personality must be near perfect for me.

Shyguy206 · Answer

I have met women who are dating guys that look like ogres XD

Zygum · Answer

Yes, if a woman very rich and she doesn't have heir, surely people will date her and try to trap

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Opposites do attract. Why are you so concern?✌️

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why some women date man that are unattractive

Anonymous · Answer

Probably a similar reason That Girls date assholes.

Anonymous · Answer

She probably swalllows and willing does anal... So i have found out during a dry spell before i moved on...

Chill_Meta · Answer

Dunno, your guess is as good as mine.

Birdlegs · Answer

Maybe he likes her🤷🏾‍♂️

bunniii · Answer

He probs has a fat fetish

Alyssa11 · Answer

Because some people aren’t superficial v

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