Do you know your power?

[love_conquers_lust]

I hope there are women out there who understand this.

Dead to the world

I repeatedly read stories of spouses (both working and stay at home) feeling neglected and it’s one of my greater fears about entering a relationship. Hopefully this is taken into consideration.

This is another reason why I support women’s advancement in the workforce. I just don’t want it to be a zero sum game.

I’d hope this helps people establish realistic expectations as well. When you have to earn the comforts you desire, it helps appreciate what you do have. When you’re more realistic with yourself, you can be more realistic with others. Working 90 hours a week isn’t going to leave you time for a relationship. That IS your relationship. Your spouse would be an acquaintance you might see in passing on the weekends.

Any person should know and feel the autonomy of being able to do something about their circumstances. So that spouses can work together to shoulder the load instead of against one another. It is my hope they’ll better empathize with one another. In this way, they’ll share control and have some measure of figurative skin in the game, not only literal. I believe that’s what support and equality is.

Here’s to the hard working spouses.

[IslaTheWitch]

My hard working man can't do more than 50hrs/week. Why? Because I want him to rest decently and to be able to be at his peak at work. I also appreciate quality time together, I need closeness, feel touch, talk and laugh together. I don't need a gold credit card, I need a man.

I don't believe only one partner covers the whole family's needs. We are together, and we make it work together.

If I ever will be in the relationship again, I want it to be balanced and bring happiness to both of us.

[Apple1996]

My spouse works hard but I never feel neglected cause I stay much more busy than he does while being home with the kids

[love_conquers_lust]

Be kind to your boobs. Take care of yourself.

[Apple1996]

Lol my boobs get abused often by these kids 😅

[love_conquers_lust]

I’m aware. I hope your husband is kind, too.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I worry about her workload, but she seems to be trying to slow down and distribute to others more these days. It has benefited us and our children.

[NathanDavis]

I understand women... that's more powerful...

[IslaTheWitch]

O'really?

[NathanDavis]

@IslaTheWitch try me...

[IslaTheWitch]

tempting

[IslaTheWitch]

@NathanDavis alright

Well I'm curious to see what level of understanding you actually have and how you're going to express it... as a starting point :P

[NathanDavis]

@IslaTheWitch well... as you might have noticed by my lack of questions that go like

"what does she mean when..."

"why women this or that... can someone explain to me?"

"how do you this or that... with women?"

I am usually one to actually take the steps towards actual understanding, which is mostly by finding out myself and experiencing these things first hand with you know... women themselves

and on that, I've met many different kind of women all the way from the drastically different to those who are just slightly different and the many in between as well

one of the most "powerful" things out there is the understanding that no woman is alike and each and everyone might be their own woman, to be understood...

and that I do, every single time

[IslaTheWitch]

Not asking publicly questions doesn't mean you don't have them. It only means you don't ask them :D

I understand that you make an effort to understand every single woman you make acquaintance and it's very noble of you.

But we rather speak about your understanding of women (as in general) that you see as more powerful than the topic touched on in the question.

Also, perceiving women as unique is the only way to have healthy contact with them. The same is true about men. Each of them is unique. But those are fundamental and well-known truths.

I still don't know, @NathanDavis, what level of understanding women you have.

[sushienjoyer]

seems like isla shut you up with her reply :D do you still think you understand women?

[NathanDavis]

@sushienjoyer yes... I understand that it could seem that way for some of those who would feel inclined to believe that's what happened (=

sorry, I forget sometimes that this is the forum part, and I should not continue conversations just in DM's

but don't worry, I am sure @IslaTheWitch won't let me throw this thread

[sushienjoyer]

excuses...

[IslaTheWitch]

@sushienjoyer I'm sure @NathanDavis will answer when the time is right :P

[Tiptoetamm]

I never used to know my power. I did a lot of soul searching over the years. Now I know my power. I know what I bring to the table and if someone doesn't think that's right for them that is fine I'll just move on to someone who can handle me. I know I'm a handful. I'm loud animated opinionated so I'm definitely a acquired taste and that's okay

[LazerBean]

Absolutely. Knowing that you have power over your life and circumstances via taking responsibility and action is the first step to having your ideal life, in my opinion.

[BoopBoopBeep]

That is SUCH a great sketch. I'd hang that in my house if it was printed

[YourSong]

You can print it