When someone tries to degrade you?

[Anonymous]

When someone tries to degrade you what is really the best thing to do?

Ignore - Show no action and take away from the attention/reaction they possibly want.

Put them in their place - Tell them how they're wrong and bring up a fault about them.

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Degrading as in criticism of character, belittlement, and other forms of disrespect.

Degrading doesn't equal being called straight out ugly or dumb.

[jrose]

It sort of depends on the situation- but my general rule is not to ever let anyone treat me with less respect than I deserve. It's harder in practice than it is to say, but I try. My basic strategy is to let the person know it's wrong and that I find it disrespectful. With strangers or clients I tend to use a firm "Excuse me? I don't think that's called for, I'm not being disrespectful to you" Usually that works, if it doesn't a quick "How would you feel if someone spoke to your mother like that?" tends to remind them we're ALL worthy of respect.

With friends, acquaintences, and family it's a little more complicated. If it's someone I've known for a long time who makes a comment in front of a bunch of people, I'm more likely to bring it up later and say I found it hurtful. Generally speaking, they apologize and that's the end of it. If it's a person I don't know very well, I'll let it go once, give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn't INTEND to degrade me. If it happens again, my back gets up and I'll argue/defend myself against whatever attack comes. I try valiantly (and usually succeed) not to bring up their own faults because then you're just stopping to their level. If it happens more than twice- I just don't associate with the person unless I HAVE to, who needs to worry about defending yourself to someone who obviously isn't worth it?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

I think it's funny.

My first reaction is to laugh at how pathetic their attempt was. When your a pretty confident person, weak little insults like your ugly, or whatev don't even do anything.

So I find it rather amusing when people try to insult or degrade me, because often they're just talking out their ass to try and hurt me, which makes them look even more retarded.

If someone does hit a nerve which happens very occasionally, it's soon to be regretted.

I have a very aggressive temper, and I hit people where it really hurts when I'm pissed. The only people who can set me off like that are people I have a closer relationship with, so often I know what makes them tick.

If it's someone I don't know, I'm too impatient to spew pointless insults for long, so I'm either going to tell you off or hit you.

I know I probably need to learn how to just simply ignore people and walk away - but I'm a bit to proud sometimes :\

[Asker]

What if it's not just insult but obvious forms of disrespect such as belittling, criticizing, and so on?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

I'd like to see someone try lol :P

If I feel belittled or disrespected to that extent - I'll gladly let the person who's doing it know to f*** off, and deal with the issue directly. I'm not one for holding things in when they start to bother me, so I'd rather take care of the problem then.

Criticizing - depends. If it's constructive, I learn from it. If it's just outlandish and destructive - I ignore it and pretty much blow the person off.

[samm2012xx71]

doesn't happen often but it is amusing when someone tries, they'd get shut down quick nd if they swung they'd get dropped. 9/10 all I get is a glare and they walk away though

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Depends who is trying to degrade me... and how appropriate retort would be. If it is just some a**hole I will respond with my own retort or ask if he has some problem, and we can take it out side. If it is someone who is in a position of power I will try and get a group of people to agree with me and mock them rather than going solo. For example this teacher decided to be a hard ass on me because I made a silly mistake on an equation (lets say I was 60% right but he acted like I just made the most fatal mistake ever). This just pissed me off so I convinced other students to start answering all his question sarcastically wrong. Just to p*ss him off even more.

[LightUp]

Laugh and just walk by . IF they try to hurt you physically you are free to rape them with your fists.

[MadameGrimaldi]

It depends on the situation. I make it known I am a person to be respected. If they are just insulting me, I let it go. I don't think it is degrading.

[Asker]

How do you make it known ?

[MadameGrimaldi]

By living my life a certain way. I work hard, I don't lie, and I love strong. When someone tries to degrade me I sort of sternly give them the overview of who I am, and that is a person to be respected.

You just list your hard times & the things you are proud of bullet proof style.

I sort of need a specific situation to give a clearer example. Different situation different measures. :)

[mexicanswag]

ill tell them off lmao