I don't want my girlfriend anymore! What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been going strong for a year now, and I used to think she was a good, respectable girl. However, we were at a dinner party with our friends and we got to talking about our hook ups and one night stands. I've never done that with any girls, all the girls I've been with have been my gfs. Anyway my girlfriend was blushing when she was asked about her hook ups and refused to answer. That really pissed me off because she knows I think girls who do that are sluts, I asked her before and she told me she didn't do those things either. After dinner we came home and I pressured her into admitting she lied to me. I honestly don't know why she was crying , she wouldn't even look me in the eye. She gave me some bs about love and that it didn't matter. But I think love can be found anywhere and I don't wan to be with her anymore because she brings me embarassment. Now I'm disgusted with her and I want to dump her...so should I tell her that she sickens me or spare her feelings? Honestly I'm ready to move on and find a more marriage marerial girl.

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To be honest I want to hook up with some random girls now, I'm pissed off at myself for thinking that I actually had a keeper on my hands. I feel stupid for bragging to my friends that I had the perfect girl. I can't believe I skipped out on so many one night stands because I wanted to be a good guy. Being decent just doesn't pay off!

[Anonymous]

You really need to think over things, and notice you're over reacting. She probably regrets those things. And you honestly don't know why she was crying? You were basically calling her a slut! You're supposed to love her! (I assume).

Dump her, so she can find another guy.

I've had a one night stand, due to being stupid & highly intoxicated. "Taken advantage of" if you want to call it that. It was a "slutty" thing to do, but it don't make me a slut. Don't judge people on their past mistakes.

Douche.

[Asker]

I think it makes you a bit of a slut, you drank, you got banged. Easy. No offense though you can live your life however you please...i just wouldn't like you as a wife.

[Opinion Owner]

That had absolutely nothing to do with the kind of wife I'm going to be. I could argue all night, or all week about this, depending how fast you replied, but it's stupid to argue with a troll. Why in the hell did you even ask this questions? Questions are asked so you can benefit somehow from the answers. Your dead set on what you think already. Go on somewhere else.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, that one night stand I spoke of wasted with a complete stranger, just not someone I would date. According to your comments that makes a different. And you're talking about doing the same thing? Wow, stop being a judging hypocrite and/or troll. You people piss me off.

[Asker]

You banged a complete stranger? That's gross dude

[Opinion Owner]

wasn't** a complete stranger. Typo.

[maria9322]

ya I think you should dump her. if it really bothers you that much than its the best thing you can do and after what happened, I'm guessing you probably don't even trust her anymore, which totally kills the relationship. if you think you should just move on then do it.

[Asker]

Exactly! She lied to me for a YEAR! And she knew how I felt about girls like her, honestly the relationship wouldn't have lasted this long if I knew how dirty she was.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty disrespectful for her to talk about it in front of you, knowing you don't like it.

[Asker]

Yes I agree and to lie about it for a year wtf right?!

[toolt00l]

well hold on man. I feel like I'm the same kind of guy you are. I don't like girls who go out and hook up either. Its unattractive when girls get around.. But you gotta remember, your girlfriend did all that a year ago before you were dating. She has probably matured a lot by then. If she didn't want to admit it around you then it means she's really ashamed about it. Am I missing parts of the story? To me she sounds like a nice girl and it doesn't seem like something you should worry about.

[Asker]

She ought to be ashamed she lied to me for a year. And it really irritated me when she started crying, I was like wtf I'm the one who should be crying

[toolt00l]

people make mistakes dude. I don't think she was lying, she was just hiding something from you that she probably didn't feel like she had to bring up because she new it would upset you. She didn't hide it from you in a malicious way. Its something that people who have been dating for a year don't really need to talk about, especially if it was something not very serious.

[TheDigitalSaint]

The user Toolt00l, speaks the truth.

What she may have done in the past shouldn't affect you now unless she's continued to do it, which she hasn't. Unfortunately, there are tons of girls that sleep around and trying to find one that doesn't and marry isn't easy. If you can still tolerate her other faults, give her a second chance.

[Asker]

Id rather not give her a second thought, I just want to find someone more respectable. Also if you can't beat join em so I want to do my own thing for a while.

[TheDigitalSaint]

That's your choice. Just keep in mind that there aren't that many women these days that DON'T sleep around, especially if you live in a big city. Unless the girl is from a smaller town that's more conservative, there's good chance any girl has slept with more people than you consider "acceptable". Those are the facts my friend.

[Asker]

I don't care if she's a virgin or not, I just think it speaks volumes about a person who has sex with strangers. I think if I hook up too then maybe ill be more accepting of it. She's a cool chick and she's also hot but I'm very dissapointed with her to say the least.

[NotSoBad]

You have judged her. You haven't accepted her for who she is. You can break up with her, but the odds of you finding another girl who never had a one night stand may be slim... or maybe you will find one... or maybe they will be lying too. who knows. This is your issue and you should apologize for making her cry. I wouldn't be surprised if she dumped you.

[Asker]

I didn't make her cry, it was her guilt which I had nothing to do with

[NotSoBad]

That's a very selfish way to look at the situation. You haven't even considered her feelings because you are so worried about how you feel. Relationships aren't that simple and eventually you will learn that, but probably after this girl and many more are in and out of your life.

[Anonymous]

To each their own. Don't be disrespectful about it. If you don't find it as something acceptable then leave her...especially if you two discussed it before and she lied. But hear her out and give her a chance to explain-Truthfully. If you still find it something you don't like then yes leave her.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't see her as valuable anymore so why would I want to talk to her, I just want to move on and find a better girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Talk to her out of respect & courtesy because you can afford it. She was with you for a year...just listen to what she has to say and make your choice. You shouldn't hate her or try to harm her for it. Just be polite and explain that its not something you were looking for and leave her.

[goflipaburger]

Yeah, I think you'd be doing her a favor. Your preferences aren't something I can really comment on, but your general attitude here shows that you're a little too impulsive and emotional.

This way you can find a "marriage material" girl and she can find a more respectable guy. It's a win-win. This way you two can go find others who are more compatible with you.

[goflipaburger]

@update: you can do something impulsive and immature to "get back at her" or you can do the rational thing and just dump her and find someone else. Your friends don't need to know every aspect of your life, you can just tell them it wasn't working out. I think they can live with a white lie, unless they absolutely need to know everything about your love life... in which case, I am hardcore judging your taste in friends :p

[Anonymous]

So you want to be the kind of person you hate and plan on dumping your girlfriend for? Real rational. Do you plan on lying about your little indiscretions when you meet a girl that is disgusted about one night stands? or do you plan on coming clean and losing her altogether while she calls you a nasty manwhore that she can't believe she bragged to her friends about?

[Asker]

Well I don't think there are girls out there who feel the same way as me. I pretty much just want to cut loose now. I just don't know how to break it to her.

[Opinion Owner]

I feel that way. I don't date manwhores.

[NotSoBad]

did you ever think that maybe she felt the same way you were feeling while writing your update, one year ago? possibly...? maybe she gave up on good guys?

[Asker]

I don't really care, fact is, I think I deserve to do whatever I want after being fooled for a damn year

[NotSoBad]

Then you should. This is your issue and you should find someone who makes you happy and just let this girl find someone new too.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you seem really uptight. do her a favor and dump her

[Asker]

I plan too.