I thought I liked him, but I don't...Did I do the right thing?

[Anonymous]

Recently, my really good guy friend told me he liked me as more than a friend and at the time I also shared the same feelings and told him so. 3 or 4 weeks past and the question somehow came up again and I told him that my feelings had changed and I didn't wanna ruin a friendship over a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and I just wanted to go back to being good friends again. he didn't say much but the next day in class he totally ignored me and wouldn't even look at me ! so I texted him later that day and he told me he was angry that I lied to him about liking him 3 weeks ago and I was like I DID like you 3 weeks ago but as the days grew forth I realized I didn't like the boyfriend girlfriend thing and wanted to return to our relationship before as best friends. He didn't like this at all and called me a liar and hasn't really talked to me since. if he does he calls me a retard or a bitch... and I just keep feeling guilty and I don't even know why, Please Help

[Anonymous]

What a situation you are in. :)

He doesn't buy what you're saying FYI. He thinks you lead him on the day you said that you liked him. Then, you said that you don't like him. Actually, he thinks that you never had liked him but said that because 1. you felt sorry for him 2. you were diplomatic about it 3. you led him on for the thrill. He believes it's either one of those reasons.

I can tell that he got terribly hurt by what happened and this is why I think you should do a couple of things 1. Write him a sincere letter explaining how you felt for him and how you appreciate his friendship. You have to show remorse for hurting him. You also have to explain why you are afraid to lose him if you became bf-gf 2. After writing him this letter, give him time to cool off and stop contacting him. He needs time to cool down and think it over.

Hopefully, he will realize that you never meant to hurt him. :)

[GG_UK]

you built his castle up then knocked it down ..don't worry about it you were honest with him but he has spat the dummy out! ... if he values you as a friend then leave him to lick his wounds and get on just give him his own medcine back and ignore him too don't text just give him space to heal ...etc etc ...he will come back if he truly was your friend and accept this if not then that just the ways things go ,move on and maybe next time when you are not sure becareful of saying your feelings until you are 100% sure and don't change your mind three weeks later

hope this helps cheers S X

[Prettygurl12]

He's hurt. You probably just ruined this friendship. If not forever, then for a while. He needs time to nurse his wounds. You told him you liked him. So, since he liked you too, he got excited. Then you pulled the rug out from under him so quickly that he was surprised and hurt. He needs time to figure things out. It always hurts when someone says they don't like you anymore. No matter how short of a time that passed between when they said they liked you and when they say otherwise.