Dating German men....?

[Anonymous]

How can you tell if a German guy is interested?! dating over here is so different, and these guys are pretty reserved and don't really flirt... so what am I supposed to do?

[BobBobinson]

Haha, Deutsch Männer. Wir wissen alles über sie! Sie haben keinen humor. Ich kenne einige Männder Deutsch, sie alle kalt.

Yes, you know how all Europeans feel about Germans, they have no sense of humor, and they're cold as ice!

But anyway, I knew a couple German guys, they all seemed to be flirty around girls they liked, although they were a bit more "distant" than their southern European counterparts.

Sprichst du Deutsch? Wie ist Deutschland?

[Asker]

ja ich spreche deutsch but that makes the whole thing a bit more complicated cause they think that since I understand/speak their language, I understand their (dating) culture as well, and I don't :P they are pretty distant so I'm wondering how anyone here manages to find a relationship when no one is willing to make the first move?!

[BobBobinson]

Hm, ja, ich wei?. Du m?chtest nicht in Deutsch zu sprechen? Well ,I don't think you have much of a choice other than to be "bold" with them. you'll just have to be straight forward with them. In gernal, Germans are frank people (haha, pun, get it? "Frankish"?).

If they won't make the first move, you'll have to! Are you living in Germany? How is it? I'm planning of taking advantage of my EU-US duel citizenship and moving to Europe.

[Asker]

yeah I live here, it's pretty sweet other than the dating problems :D I have dual citizenship as well, what country is yours for/where in Europe do you want to move?

I guess I'll have to get over myself and start making the first move...

[BobBobinson]

My mother is from Italy, so my citizenship is Italian, but I'm not planning on going to Italy. I was thinking of either Deutschland or GB (London). I'm leaning more towards london because my German is not so great. Ironicaly, I know no Italian (other than Ciao and Grazia or course).

[Guysensei]

in Europe in general, you should get used to talking more about things that interest you and making meaningful conversation. if your spending a lot of time with someone its almost assumed that your interested in friendship or more, so just go with it and you can even ask the guy your wondering about "so how do people flirt here differently than in usa?" . seriously, ask him that then ask him to show you..

[Asker]

hmm I did that but how do you get them to take the next step? would they just ask for a girl's number if they liked her, or do they not do that?

[Guysensei]

your not getting me,... when I say ask him to show you, you have to say it in a way, look at him etc in a way that communicates you like him.

He would probably ask you for your number if he liked you, unless he was afraid.

[linchen123]

Hey I am german so I hope I can help you :)

German guys are a little bit colder so you just have to warm up with them..spend time with them and make them laugh. if you show them that you are an open and nice person they are usually opening up.

and they are very direct and honest when it comes to relationships so after a while let them know that you want more than just friendship.

[Asker]

thanks! that makes sense - but what if they're not in your circle of friends so you don't spend time with them? would they ever ask a girl they just met out if they want to spend more time with her? should I ask him out or would that be considered weird?

[linchen123]

you're welcome :) if I were you I just would talk to him a bit and when he is nice and you got to know him a little bit ask him to go for a coffee or something.thats not weird at all.

that really depends if the guy is shy or not but in general they would ask you out but of course only if they see a small chance you would say yes.

[Asker]

well in the states we pretty much add everyone we know on Facebook right away, but I think in Germany that's considered stalking lol. since he didn't ask for my number or talk about finding each other on fb, I guess I'll just have to wait til we run into each other again...

[Schnurri]

Yes German Men are not so much flirting. I made the first move once and now I am engaged. This is 21 century, don't be afraid to be assertiv.

[Anonymous]

I am a German guy and I love play hard to get. The only way you can tell if I'm interested is if someone disrespects the girl I like... if that's the case my protection instinct kicks in... I defend her/am overprotective of her. If there is anything else you want to know, just ask.

[Asker]

ahh so it's not being reserved, they actually play hard to get?! well I made the first move now and gave the guy my number, so now he knows I'm interested and started texting me... I quickly figured out that he just wants a booty call though :/ how can I get him to take me seriously?

[samba_samba]

I can recommend to use www.penpaland.com to meet new people

[koikoigrace]

i recommend this website letspal. com Learning language and make friends

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

If you can, just casually pull out and start reading Mein Kampf in front of them. Instant love<3

[Deft_maiden]

Lol :-D

[sephora]

ahahaaha.

[Schnurri]

Gute Idee :P

[Anonymous]

wait for him to make the move then you'll know