Confusing German guy... German style or just not that into me?

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So A guy at work I have become friends with seems to be very attracted to me and I like him to. He's pretty shy and can be very nervous around me. I asked him on a date to the zoo and he said yes and seemed pretty surprised. He couldn't make the date because he got super busy at work and was stressing over giving a seminar. He said he defiantly still really wants to go but is busy He's a scientist that is currently wriiting up to submit to a top resurch journal being the sole publisher and with no collaboration on his work it's very time consuming. I know he's working every weekend as I can see times on his data logs. it's now been a couple of months since I asked. If I ask him if he still wants to go, he says yes, but there is still no sighn of us actually going.

He has pointed out that if I really want to go to the zoo I could go with someone else as he's not really free that much till next year. But I said I want to go with him, wich he was pretty happy about. He's German and pretty diarect so I guess I should take his word on it but can't help but feel a little put off. He had time for friends to visit from Germany the other day. last night at the Christmas party he didn't talk to me. He made eye contact and waved across the room but never came over. I saw him talking to some people I know and went over to say hi to them all, and he just walked right off seemingly ignoring me! I was ready to leave when I could see him saying good bye as well. So I just went right up and asked him to walk me home. He lives near me and was happy to do so. All the way home we chatted and laughed. It's great to hang out with him and get to know him. At my door was a little awkward so I asked him in, as he likes my pet cat. But he said no as he was tired and needed to get home. ok so he's German and pretty dam strait talking, but I'm feeling a little bit mixed signals he would have left party having not said a word to me and this makes me sad. I'm 100% sure he fancies me but wtf!

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We have flirted for nearly a year and it's taken a lot to move on from us both be pretty shy and his nervousness. Now he's relaxed a bit and I bit the the bullet on the date asking. thing are really much easier between us. The work party really threw me as I wasn't expecting a hook up or wanting that but I certainly didn't want to be ignored. Now I feel pushy as I asked him to walk me home and asked him to see the cat.

[itsleesha]

Are you 100% sure he likes you? Because from what you said it doesn't sound like he does. I just hope you aren't mistaking distaste for shyness. Also, is he staying there forever or going back to Germany? Because my German guy just went back home and my heart is broken. I should've known better.

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He's not going back home. 100 sure he likes me there is a lot of back story on this. Sorry you lost your guy. This one is deffo staying and if he did go and if we did together I would go with him. I can speak German and have lived there before. Was your guy very diarect? As in if said he's busy he really busy or tired? I'm pretty sure that he would not have said yes to the date if meant no. In my experience of Germans that mean what they say and are pretty blunt. just by most standards I think I would have concluded he's just not that interested. I have heard that Germans are very committed and sweet in the relationship but are not flirty and quick to warm in the dating and attraction phase. The German guys are supposedly hard work like a nut to crack at first but with a sweet gooey centre. What's your experience of this?

[itsleesha]

Yes, he was very direct. If he said it, he meant it. At the same time, your guy ignored you at a party and turned down an offer to go inside your house... that is ridiculous if he actually does like you.

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Yes your right but I didn't want him to come in I only asked because I thought he might want me to ask... And he loves my cat. He did say in his words He 'defiantly really wants to go to the zoo with me' again being German why would he say yes and mean no? He said this more than once. He also did tell me in the way home he was pretty tired, his lab had done an army assault course day. He said he didn't want to come in because he was tired. What he did at the party was pretty bad. It's kinda confusing. i kind of understand why he dint come in, I wasn't really into the idea of him coming in and I regret asking. Your right I can see sighns or him not being interested but also many sighns that I should not give up. Just looking for people opionions