Do you guys ever encountered such situation ?
Can I just beat up my boyfriend's stalker ?
Do you guys ever encountered such situation ?
Yeah, and I was the guy. I get totally why he doesn't want to be rude to her, but at the same time, it doesn't sound like the message he's sending her is the issue; it's the fact he's sending any kind of message.
"Stalking" is a term used far too loosely in this society, and it trivializes what the legal definition of stalking really is. From what you said, she's receiving misguided messages for her to keep pursuing him. She think she'll "win him over," or something to that effect.
You need to keep your head, because your reaction to her will without a doubt fuel her desire to continue doing what she's doing. But at the same time, he needs to flat-out cut off all communication with her. If he can't be rude to her and tell her off (doesn't sound like that would matter much anyway), then he needs to stop giving her the attention she's seeking.
If you do anything to her, you're facing assault charges, and I wouldn't do ANYTHING that may keep her in your life in the future. Sounds like she's just nutty enough to follow up on that, and you could wind up in serious trouble.
No guy is worth an assault charge. Just leave the room if she's around.
I think we like attention from girls, because it's usually us giving the attention. It's hard to cut off that attention because you may want it again in the future.
I know that won't be an answer you like, but maybe it's the one you need. For what it's worth, there will be a point he just gets sick of the drama and will tell her to eff off.
Come on .. you shouldn't like attention from girls when you have a girlfriend whom you love and wanna spend the rest of your life with her! .. If the situation reversed and a guy would do this to me, my boyfriend would have killed him right there.. I am afraid I was too calm about it when it happened , but inside me, I am burning ..
lol I didn't say that behavior is right! I just said that could be one interpretation of it.
Guys handle those kinds of things differently. If the situation was reversed, and you were dating me, yes, I'd at the very least make sure he knew in no uncertain terms he needed to knock it off immediately.
In your case, though, you can't be too calm when she's around. You have to control your emotions. She sounds very much like someone who would try to get you to react. She wins if you do.
Probably not a good idea as you might get in trouble with the law.
This is your boyfriend's problem. In the sense that how he behaves will determine whether he actually does anything positive to resolve it. At the moment, it sounds like he's perpetuating it. He should ignore her completely. Not get drawn into communicating with her irrespective of the stunts she plays. I always shake my head at how people give these weirdos the attention they crave. If she's as bad as you say, go down the official channels and involve the authorities. If she's just being an irritant, then your boyfriend really isn't helping the situation.
Yes sounds likes that's your only option left, to tell her to go away
i know. she sounds like a bitch who can't take a clue
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