"The women who don't seek attention are the women you should be giving your attention to." What do you think of this statement?

[Anonymous]

"The women who don't seek attention are the women you should be giving your attention to"

And how would you define a woman who seeks attention?

[Anonymous]

This is a subjective opinion, the speaker has an ideal for women who don't seek attention, is probably saying something more extreme, like he/she favors shy or introverted types and not just women who don't intentionally seek attention. A lot of people will classify some women as seeking attention, who really arent. some people are just more extroverted, loud, and draw more attention by the things they say or what their personality is like, what they look like, etc.

I don't agree with this statement, as it seems absolutist and trying to say something negative in general about all women who seek attention, however, I can see some aspects that would lead someone to not want to be involved with someone who is desperate for attention, or even just likes a attention. Some people are easily jealous or insecure. If you have someone who likes attention from everyone, and not just you, you may feel those emotions surfacing. If its an extreme example, where she wants physical attention (touching, kissing, etc.) then obviously you may have issues with cheating. I don't see the issue with someone liking attention that is harmless, but I understand some people have ideals that are more on the reserved side for the women they want to date.

How am I supposed to define it? If the woman seeks attention, then she's a woman who seeks attention. It can be any kind of attention, attention for her intelligence or opinions, what she has to say about things, attention for her talents and skills, attention for her looks or sense of fashion/style, attention for her personality qualities, whether that be cunning and ambition or compassion and willingness to help others. Some people want attention. I like attention as well. I'm not a wallflower who blends into the background and I never have been. I started out life just being who I am and I gathered attention that way. I'm still that way, but over time you become more conscious about how people perceive you and that can sometimes make you want to be noticed more, when you realize that people are actually paying attention.

If someone doesn't want me because I know what I have and who I am and I want others to know about it as well, that's fine. I have friends who are more out there with attention as well. One of my best friends has her boobs out all the time, in part because theyre huge and in part because she wants to show off her body. If someone sees that as a reason to not date her, that's their loss. It takes all kinds to make the world turn, and we aren't all looking for the same things, nor would we all be happy with the same types of people. And there are tons of girls who don't look for attention, or like attention at all for that matter, who need some loving as well. people who make statements like this should find girls like that and get their freak on. :)

[Asker]

Liking the attention you receive is fine, being naturally extroverted and loud is also fine, but SEEKING attention (e.g. being loud on purpose) just to be noticed or to boost your ego I don't agree with. SEEKING attention is in general a bad thing. Yes, we all love attention, and if you receive attention and like it that's cool. But this question is focusing on purposely looking for attention. Like your friend for example. Her boobs being out all the time because they are too big, that's fine...

[Asker]

...but leaving them out for the world to see just to get attention (not saying she does that, just making an example) is seeking attention. I don't agree or disagree with what you said, just pointing out a few things. Good answer though.

[Opinion Owner]

well that is your opinion. like I said, we all see things differently. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong or bad about seeking out attention. I seek out attention all the time.

[soa88]

I Agree with the statement, Women who constantly seek attention-I just do not understand them. I am a very open and non-judgmental person, however women can tell when other women are seeking constant attention from men. As annoying as it is, I hate being the center of attention and I do not like being expected to want attention all the time. Why would I want attention all the time? I never seek attention or approval, but I can point out other women who do for various reasons (insecure, loud, obnoxious, crazy).

I think there is a time to be loud, have fun, and enjoy yourself, no doubt. But trying to convince other people that you are worth their time and attention is very unclassy. The very best women are the ones who do not seek attention. There is not a single person out there-man or woman-who is worth as much attention as they hope to receive. You are very "full of yourself" kind of person if attention is what you crave. I respect people no matter what, but I do not pay attention to men or women when they make it a goal to keep it 100% "Me Me Me". Its says something about my intelligence.

[jason1811]

I agree with soa88, it's not worth your time to give people attention that constantly make everything about them. Some of the the traits mentioned in this thread are a personality disorder called Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) and defined in DSM IV-TR. The disorder affects both men and women but four times as many women are affected by it than men. I was once briefly involved with a woman that had HPD and it was the worst relationship experience ever. From my experience these type of people are mentally sick, the core of who they are is rotten. I'm not saying people that don't mind attention due to things they have done and achieved fall into this category so it requires some insight to identify it.
Most of my successful relationships have been with women who do not like to constantly be the center of attention. Everyone needs some attention and that's normal but when the attention needs begin to fall into theatrics and any of the 6 sub-types of HPD BEWARE.

[Anonymous]

I think this could be true.

The women who seek attention will say 'I' more than the women who don't, or will be louder, and do silly things to get attention.

I'm not sure appearance wise though. Obviously, the less someone worries about their clothes, the more humble they are, but some people make a lot of effort because of insecurities.

[Anonymous]

I agree with it.

the most of the attention seekers do the wrong things just to get the attention (and usually get it) when the ones who don't do it always stays in the shadow waiting (and sometimes ''whiling'' too) to the ''right'' guy to give his attention to her.

[AmberChick]

I guess, but that means anyone who wants attention shouldn't be given attention? This quote sounds kind of one sided . I never take quotes like that seriously anyways

[Anonymous]

That's definitely true.

And the women who seek attention are the Facebook ones, the ones who dress ver provocative, who spends lots of cash at beauty salons, and the ones who are very loud.

[Anonymous]

So true!...A women who seeks attention from past experience is just that an attention whore.

[7yrsandstillwaiting]

I would define it as doing outrageous things for the attention.

[jacquesvol]

Partly true.