My experience is this. REALLY shy guys have little to no hope if they stay so. You need to overcome your fears, at least a bit. Women WILL approach you and take action, but a bit in a roundabout way, and if you are shy and clueless about girls, you probably won't even understand they are hitting on you. And even if you suspect they are actually hitting on you or are kind of sure of it, you'll possibly manage anyway to screw up things due to your extreme shyness. In my view the first thing you need to do is to get a better vision of reality, clear up your hung ups about sex, and get to know waht women, and people in general, are really about (which implies demystifying them, which in turns mean it will implicitly diminish your fears and shyness).
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Being shy and quiet will make people shy away and return your silence with silence. Open your mouth when you're around girls, just talk. Just contribute the conversation and if she digs what you're saying and you're being your honest self, expressing yourself perfectly clear then dude you're golden. Just open your mouth and speak, simple as that. The rest will flow how it should
From my experience, the only hope you have is with an extroverted girl. Otherwise, conversations will be awkward at first and it might be hard to get to know each other. I'm fairly shy too, and I always think texting is a good way to get past the awkwardness because it gives you time to think about what you want to say. But don't be afraid to talk to her and give her compliments in person. Of course, (everyone says this) be yourself, and show that you are happy with yourself as a person (I guess be confident). But pretty much all you need to do is talk with her, be interested, and listen to what she says, and if you have chemistry, then it should be easy.
and thrs a reason for dat! lol
let me say, you can olny be who you r. but you also need to have some level of confidence. shy guys can be cute but its annoying a little bit.
thr was a guy who liked me and I liked him, I gave him all the signals to ask me out but I got fed up and I gather up the courage to ask him out and he accepted. it was hard nerve racking and awkward but it was worth it.
shy is not a bad thing but don't let it control your life, closed mouths don't get fed
just make the girl you like feel special! talk to her and listen to what she says...get to know her but make your intentions clear. don't be "Friendly" be "boyfriendy" flirt and tease and hold her hug her...just be your nice self. and most importantly be honest and direct..dont be afraid just go for it and make sure you're making yourself clear
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I am an alpha male, I used to be shy in middle school, but when I was in high school I got a lot bigger and way more comfortable around girls. And now that I'm 21, I know that guys who are shy will never get a quality girl. Women look towards men for conversation and the one to pick what they do. You have to break through your shell man, and be a man, I don't see how you can be intimidated by a woman.
i guess it depends on the girl you are trying to get. try practicing I guess get to know another girl in your class she could be shy or she could be outgoing but experiment a little and try to build up some confidence.
Not saying that your not confident. Saying you need to build confidence talking to girls you like. Big difference
i love it when guys get nervous! it shows that they care a lot about the girl. there's definitely hope for shy guys you just need to find the right girl
Well I personally love sky (geeky) guys. Most of my friends are like that and I love all of them... You just have to find the right girl, one that laughs at all the stupid things you say and do :) be your self and just do what you do say hi or ask a question I'm sure she won't just walk away... If she does tell me and I will force my self to stay awake in my seventh hour. Ok
I am a shy girl and I've always been more attracted to shy guys. Mainly because outgoing guys tend to overpower me. I tend to go for guys a tiny bit more outgoing than me though :)
There's outspoken girls out there that sometimes approach guys not me but I have a friend but it doesn't always seem to work out-I don't know what kind of guy she talks to though
the guy I like is super shy, but I'm also super shy. very unfortunate.
How bout trying to wing it til you make it? :) Sometimes, hard things only seem had when you haven't tried. It helps when you remember that other people are just as self-aware as you are :).
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