Are shy guys doomed?

[Anonymous]

I'm not cripplingly shy, but I am pretty shy and there have been times where my shyness has really hindered my social life.

I can talk to people. I can talk to girls, attractive or not, but one thing I can't do is flirt. You see, shyness is self-perpetuating, and so my initial inhibitions cause me to lose out on opportunities to break out of my shell repeatedly. Believe me: I have tried to become a more extroverted, talkative person, but I can really only do so when I am comfortable with my audience. I have pretty much accepted this about myself.

My question is: Am I doomed to a single life? I've been so for 19 years, already.

I'm not trying to brag, but I know that I am attractive, funny, talented, kind, and smart. The only thing is that I have a hard time getting out there and talking to people. It is NOT, at least not entirely, because of a lack of confidence. I suppose that I am quietly confident, but the part I'm worried about is the "quietly" part.

So, am I screwed?

[Anonymous]

no, you are not screwed. I'm the same way, where I'm really comfortable with people I've known for a while, but around new people I'm not as extroverted. But what I've learned is that sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. If you meet a girl that you think you like and she seems to like you as well, just go for it! put those inhibitions aside and if things click, they click. So don't give up, and don't try to change, be yourself and you'll meet someone who values that. :)

[Asker]

I will do just that, thanks.

[dfhbgh]

You sound exactly like me. I wish I could find more people to hang out with that were like me and the whole being shy thing. I don't think you are doomed, you just haven't met the right person and when you do, I don't think you won't have a problem. There are girls out their that find shynessattractive, so I would say don't give up.

[Asker]

I figure all the girls who find shyness attractive are shy too, right? I say that because I've never known a girl to be that way...

I'm also going to assume that you don't find it attractive, but I guess that's in your best interests, since a shy girl and shy guy may be perfect for each other, but never meet since neither initiates contact.

[insert1namehere]

I'm the SAME way, and you won't stay single forever, trust me. The oppurtunity has to get there someday, and no, it WON'T be until you're an old creep.

[Asker]

Good to hear....the not staying single for eternity part, that is. not the I become a creep part.

[Anonymous]

Its possible that the shy gene would doom you to oblivion, but its still around and obviously their is still hope for you, you could trip and fall on top of someone or you could do what other people do beer, party, hook up...

[Asker]

Ah, the life of drunken hookups: to be like all those wild, zig-zagging college kids on the sidewalks, slowly shuffling their way back home, just before the sun comes up. it is tempting, but I would be FAR too uncomfortable with a stranger/acquaintence to hook up with them. and, I mean, c'mon, I'm a virgin; that won't end well.

[chikana18]

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ATTRACTED TO SHY DUDESSSSS

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>:3

but then again I am kinda odd XD

[Asker]

Well, odd girls happen to be my cup of tea, so maybe there's hope yet.

[chikana18]

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