How long does girl like a guy before she forgets about him?

[Anonymous]

When a girl is crushing on a guy she likes how long till she forgets about him? I'm in a tough situation. First off I'm a shy guy and I lead this girl on. She was in my class and she liked me. I sent her signs smiling and stuff and she waiting after class everyday for the past 3 weeks at a table just looking and I think she was sending me signs for me to approach her. Her friend also told me that she likes me but that was before and I still didn't do anything. So fast forward few months and I still haven't done anything. Now she ignores me and has mad look on her face when she sees me. Before she would smile at me. This went on for month and I did nothing! I was too shy/nervous to go up to her. I felt like I lead her on.

[lushlove]

I don't know about anyone else but as soon as a guy plays with me, and leads me on, I forget about him quickly and kick him to the curb. I think she did the right thing if you were an idiot to play with her emotions and lead her on. Good on her I say. And yes, she should be mad! don't say crap about being shy and nervous. She gave you an indication that she was interested and that alone should have given you confidence and it isn't like you are a deaf mute as to not talk to her. I have a clown like that that as soon as he found out that I liked him, he gave me the cold shoulder and I was like "well stuff you"... now he is following me around trying to get me back. I hate guys that lead other chicks on. They deserve to be single :)

[Asker]

ouch.

[lushlove]

I am only slapping you on the upside of the head because I care about you and I am giving you some tough love :)

[Asker]

thanks lol.

[Purplelove010]

I agree with lushlove if you know a girl likes you & you like her that should bring your confidence level way up to make you wanna make a move. Being shy is just a poor excuse for this situation. I'm sorry, but a girl can't wait on you forever. She did her part now it's time for you to do yours too. Go talk to her about it. If she's mad at you she's definitely still interested in you. If she wasn't mad at you & just acted content with it then, that would mean that she moved on.

[Asker]

shes still mad and gives me dirty looks and looks away.

[Anonymous]

Unless his personality magically changes into one I dislike OR he's made it clear that he's not interested (or has a girlfriend), I'm not going to just forget about him.

It seems like she assumed you're not interested just because you didn't act fast and come on strong. I'm not sure why she didn't just start talking to you... I'd be mad at MYSELF, not the dude.

[Asker]

Well most girls expect the guy to make the first move which is why I'm guessing she didn't say anything yet.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess... It just doesn't make sense. I can kind of understand letting that gender role take over if a girl's just mildly interested in someone and doesn't care that much, but if I genuinely WANT to get to know someone, I do it.

There's a chance that she might just be shy too. Too scared to initiate.

[Asker]

Its funny because she's far from shy she talks a lot in class and is English/social work major so she talks a lot.

[askq21]

Just man up and talk to her? What the worst that can happen - you know that staying quiet hasn't worked for you till now, try other way now.

and go read definition of insanity.

[Asker]

no need to read the definition I have already gone insane.

[askq21]

so now you know what not to do, right? just jump in and see what happens; you'll either move along with this girl; or learn a lot that would help with the next one

its win-win; not acting sucks

[McQueen]

Time to man up, dude.

The longest someone ever liked me was about 1-2 years, but I wasn't into her. Nice not to be the one feeling unrequited love for a change.

[Anonymous]

I don't really forget because I don't get interested all that quickly. I can count off my crushes on my fingers. Chances are she thinks you don't like her and since you didn't have the guts to act on it even after being told she liked you, she's not happy to see you.

[Anonymous]

Never. There was a cute guy I knew, he was in a grade 9 class of mine. I liked him all though out high school, even though I never really saw him again.

It sounds like she does like you, I got really mad at my current boyfriend, because he did the same.

[Asker]

so even if I haven't talked to her and she might think I'm a creeper she still won't forget about me? Because I certainly can't forget about her. I'm just gonna talk to her.

[devotedlyopinionated]

Happened to me, I gave up after a couple of months. I still kind of hold a torch for the guy but the whole situation really pissed me off.

[sundrop28]

yeah! same here. I agree

[devotedlyopinionated]

Right? It just sucks because now I see him all the time and we fight all the time, half is flirty fighting and the other half is you totally left me hanging, I kind of hate you fighting.

[Anonymous]

Why you did't approach her if you already know that she likes you?

[Asker]

Like I said I was shy and get nervous speech stutters. I'm gonna try though.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you have to try somehow. I'm going through the same situation with this guy in my class and I'm not shy either. But the problem is that girls just doesn't know how to approach guys. It's not in our instinct to do something about it... So, we wait for the guy to come up on us.

[Anonymous]

If it's a real good looking guy that every girl dreams of, a long time. If it's an average joe, well not so long.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she gave up, I probably would in that situation.

[UnluckyContender]

Mostly if we she meets another handsome bloke