How long does it takes you girls to stop liking a guy?

[Anonymous]

Say you liked a guy but thought he wasn't interested in you so you kinda put the idea out of your head, but you text this guy everyday pretty much and see him once a week or once every 2 weeks, would you just get over him and forget your feelings for him within a few months ?

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I told this girl I like, that I liked her, she said she did like me like that but because nothing seemed to happen and I was busy a lot she thought I wasn't interested and kinda put it out of her head, and that she hadn't even thought me of me like that since then, she said she didn't know and if I thought we couldn't be friends it was upto me.

So I sent one last text just saying if she didn't like me like that anymore and nothing would ever happen between us to just say now and I'd move on

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and that I needed to know now so I was waiting forever for something that was never going to happen, but she never replied, so I'm curious if she could just so easily stop likieng me. We text everyday, she would come to see me at work somtimes. Saturday gone we met up, went to the movies and then went to the local park and sat and talked for 3 and hlaf hours almost none stop, laughed alot, her mainly at what I was saying, hardlies any silence. Signs seemed good, could she be over it that quick ?

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Finally told me and put the final nail in the coffin -


''I used to like you, but realized that I liked you more as a friend and don't want to jeopardize that''


Friend zone ? No thanks.

[Anonymous]

this same situation happened to me, my best friend started liking me, and then when there was another guy in the picture I moved on, she got mad at me because she thought I didn't like her but I did. But now we agreed on just being friends, because if we did start dating and something did happen it would of ruined our friendship

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing but I'm past that, I don't want friendship, any friendship she perceived we had was ruined when I told her today. If I can't be more than friends I'd rather be without, I don't want to be there when she meets someone else, better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, is my motto right now

[Opinion Owner]

that is the motto, but what I say is, its better to have friendship then nothing at all.

[Asker]

For yourself yes, for me, seeing that girl with someone else would just be another blow, staying friends would just be slow torture for no gain, forgetting her and having time to heal is better for myself.

[Opinion Owner]

so your saying is that its better to not have her as a friend then have her as a friend but with another guy. That's the same situation I'm in, it kills me to see her with another guy. But I'll rather have her as a friend then nothing at all

[Asker]

Yea but where as you'd rather have her in your life and go through the emotional torture of knowing you can never have her I'd rather just forget her, be thankful for meeting her, having the good times we shared and try not to be bitter but to end my suffering by burning the bridge and cutting all ties.

[Anonymous]

whats wrong with being just friends. Don't lose a girl like that just because you don't want to be friends with her. Your being selfish if you ask me.

[Asker]

So I'm hurt, never happens because I never usually invest so much emotion into one thing, and I want to escape it and forget her and move on with my life. So I should just think f*** how I feel and how hurtful it is, just think of her and how she feels ? That's just stupid, its about time I thought of myself.

[Whereislove91]

It depends on your friendship with the girl. If you guys can make each other laugh and enjoy being around each other and if you don't like her back then it will be way harder for the girl to not hope.

[Asker]

The girl I like, the reason for the question, last Saturday we spent 3 and half hours together, just the 2 of us in our local park, talking almost non stop, laughing and joking around, we went to the movies but nothing we liked was on. As in the below comment, say the friendship was good, good enough to spend 3 and half hours together talking and we text everyday, would she be over it that quickly ?

[willow74]

Ha. Nope. I've been in this situation for almost a year and while I tell myself I don't like him, I know it isn't true. Not only is he on my mind most of the day, I also dream about him frequently.

[Asker]

How does the guy act with you ? Does he not seem interested ? You try to convince yourself that you don't like him but really you know you do, so if he told you he liked you now would you jump at the chance or need to think about it ?

[willow74]

I'd probably need to think about it a little bit, because I'm not really sure I'm good enough for him or capable of making him happy. There are so many other gorgeous girls after him, and I'd be uncertain of whether or not I could compare. But I'd probably jump the chance despite my doubts.

[Anonymous]

a few months. I mean there are so many guys out there, if one guy isn't willing to show interest, then I'm going to move on to the next one

[Asker]

Maybe yourself and perhaps and likely this girl I like but not all girls in general ?

[HannahCzech]

Unless he did something to me that was such a big turn off to get me to stop liking him, yes, I probably still would like him.

[Asker]

So if the guy didn't seem interested then few months down the line he tells he likes you, do you think you would still feel the same, even if you hadn't thought of him like that for awhile ?

[HannahCzech]

Yep, probably!

[Anonymous]

I have that exact situation right now with a guy and so far I'm not over him but I'm trying real hard to get him out of my head

[Asker]

How long has it been ?There's a girl I like, she liked me back in March (which I didn't know till today) but nothing much happened, she thought I wasn't interested in her so she put it out her head, now I've told her I like her and well I dunno, will she be over her feelings by then ? Is there a chance you think she might re feel those feelings now she knows ?

[Whereislove91]

Oh Yeah! If your guys and hang out like that and enjoy being with each other then I think she would be WAY interested :)

[Opinion Owner]

She still has feelings deep under for you I bet

[Asker]

She wouldn't just say straight up '' I don't feel that way anymore, and we can only ever be friends'' last text I sent her basically said if you don't like me like that anymore and we can't be anything more than friends then I get it but tell me now so I'm not waiting forever for somthing that isn't going to happen, I was hoping she would put me out my misery there and then but she just didn't reply, I don't get it.

[Opinion Owner]

Well than she is sorry she wouldn't have said that to you girls don't say that I'd we still feel something for him

[Asker]

So (without getting all my hopes up) there's a chance me telling her I like her now has made her think about what she tried to forget ? And when I said I can't be just friends so just tell me now you don't like me and we are just friends and I'll move on by not replying she might still have interest and feelings and didn't want to burn that bridge straight away ? Am I reading that correct ?

[Anonymous]

There has to be some connection between two people. I could not forget him if I like him. But if he doesn't show interest then I would just have to let him go.

[Asker]

If you let him go and he eventually 'cracked' and figuring he had nothing to lose finally told you his feelings, could/would you feel the same way or would you like him again ?

[Jay_So_Lovely]

that depends...

[Asker]

Okay, erm lets piece together the other 2 comments on the answers I made and based on that how long would it take a girl ?

[Jay_So_Lovely]

that depends on how she felt about you and if she likes someone else...this type of thing varies from girl to girl

[Asker]

Okay thank you, I don't think there is anyone else, she never told me she was seeing anyone else when I told her I liked her or mentioned anyone else, also couple days before this I joked about her going out pulling (she bought new stuff,got tanned, went to the gym before friends nightout) she took it really serious saying she's never kissed anyone when she is out and wouldn't go out pulling if that makes any difference to the variables.