Can anyone help me understand this guy and what does he want?

[Anonymous]

Warning!! Long Post

So basically there’s this guy at school a grade lower than me, that I’ve been crushing on for a while. We had so many tension moments between us but yet never had a conversation with each other.

So a few months ago, he got a girlfriend. I didn’t stop liking him when he got a girlfriend, I just kept my distance and told myself I’d wait till he’s single again. But I found out that he was telling everyone how attractive I was, wouldn’t take his eyes off me whenever I was in his presence, and told his friends and his girlfriend that he had a crush on me..

He acts very hot and cold, one day he would obsess/simp over me and the other he would ignore/avoid me. He also try’s to do stupid things to get my attention in an indirect way. So about a month ago, him and his girlfriend broke up. He is still showing signs of attraction towards me, but won’t say anything.

Earlier, he was bragging about girls in school that he made out with today. Then, starts talking about me and says how he “loves me” and wants to go near to me? I don’t understand him at all, he’s so confusing!! It makes me upset because we share feelings but he doesn’t approach me.

Im not approaching him, because i’m too shy and scared too. Its frustrating because I want to be his friend (maybe w benefits) but he talks to everyone else but me ://

If you read this long, please if you have any advice about what to do it’s appreciated. Also if anyone can help me understand what is it with this guy and what is he doing it would also be appreciated <3

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that guy really does sound confusing! Makes my head spin just thinking about all his mixed signals.

On one hand, it's cool that he's clearly into you and tells people how attracted he is. But then he ignores you too? And bragging about other girls right after saying he "loves" you is super messed up.

My best guess is maybe he's shy around you too, but tries covering it up by acting all cool in front of his friends. The bragging could be overcompensating since he's nervous to actually ask you out. Boys do dumb stuff like that sometimes.

If you're interested in seeing where things could go, I'd say just start casually chatting with him next time you get a chance. Comment on something going on in class or whatever. Get him used to talking to you so he calms down those nerves.

You could even straight up ask him to hang out, like getting food after school or going to a game this weekend to get the ball rolling. Rip off the bandaid so you know for sure how he really feels.

Good luck girl! Hope that mess of a situation makes sense eventually. Let me know how it goes talking to him. Fingers crossed he gets over his games!

[handsomelad70]

He's being a boy, in short.