Are all shy people scary when they're angry?

[NikkiAM]

I'm 20 and very very shy. I smile a lot and people always notice that about me. I'm pretty even keeled most of the time, but when someone does something that really makes me angry, I slowly start to lose my cool in a very quiet way. My heart races and I my hands get a little shaky. I've been told I have a "death stare" when I look at someone who has just said something rude to me. Once a guy made fun of me for being quiet, so I looked at him with said "death stare" and he never made fun of me again. I found out over a year later that he told people I told him to "f*ck off" when really I didn't actually say anything. One of my friends did something to really hurt me and once I'd had time to cool off, he told me I'm really scary when I'm angry. And that's not first time someone has said this to me.

I'm not a fan of conflict and that's just a part of my personality, so I don't like to make situations worse than they are. I'm also really nice to people and at times, I get walked over because of it. I tend to bottle things up and I guess I release them through my facial expressions.

Is anyone else like this? (Shy people, in particular) Is this how you react to things that make you angry? Or is it just me?

[PopeOfWeird]

I have this one friend, who I've known for a very long time (I shan't say his name) and anyone who's met him would agree that he's one of the most non-threatening people on the planet. He follows Buddhist ideals, he's always friendly and happy to see you, he can be quite shy, he's not very tall, he never says a cross word about anyone, is very quiet and works in the medical line because he wants to help people. He's the sort of person who will always give you a hand if you ask for it, if you need something carried somewhere, he'd say "Where to?" Before you finished speaking.

Anyway, because of this, quite a few people poked fun at him or made fun because they knew he wouldn't retaliate. Sometimes, they'd take advantage of his good nature and constantly ask for favors just be dicks, he knew it, but he'd help anyway. This had been going on for a while, he was picked on a lot at school and such, but he always steered away from conflict, he just bottled it up.

One day, some bloke were making fun of him again. Normally, he'd ignore them, but they were saying some pretty harsh things and you could tell it was getting to him. They could sense it to and where trying to push him to that point just for fun. Then, finally, he snapped...and it was scary!

It was as if he was letting out everything he'd ever bottle up, he started, yelling, swearing making remarks and insults about them, all why waving his arms and shouting. He then started throwing chairs around and straight up attacked one of the guys who was making fun of him! That was the only time it's happened and to this day, he still regrets it and feels terrible about it. When nice guys snap, yes, it IS scary! I guess it's mainly because they've managed to bottle it all for so long that eventually, it has to be let out all at once!

[EnergeticSoul]

I'm the same in every single way, except that I don't get shaky and that people always think I'm about to punch somebody in the face. It's just my casual normal look, but whatever. Even when I'm happy I have a hard time smiling. It's just not me. I'm somebody who usually has a straight face in most situations. Of course that's when I'm not forcing my goofy smile. Ha ha

I get into situations because people say I told their buddies to f*** off, or that I'll f*** them up or something else like that when all I do is stare at them. I think people take "body signs" way too seriously. Especially the pigs and the feds. The F.B.I. have it bad let me tell ya, but I'm not going to get into that in this topic. Haha

[AresIras]

I always smile or laugh whenever people insult me and everything because I know I am shy and extreme introvert but insults on me will never effect me.

But one day, 3 in the morning, my neighbour was so drunk and she pound on my window and door and then she started picking a fight with my mum who was sick at that moment. I then lost it, I rushed out of my room and went to her and gave her mouthful of insults and curses right into her face and threaten her to call cops for trespassing. The next day my brother told me "I know you for 19 years and that was the first time I ever seen you snapped and that was scary asf". And until now my neighbour always avoid me as much as she could and now she's planning on moving away. Oh and I was in college and was so so stressed, so tired, frustrated, so I guess that's why I snapped.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Yeah I'm like that. I'm quite shy and whenever I do get angry which is seldom people are always really surprised/shocked and never mess with me again. When I'm really angry my shyness goes away and I tell the person exactly what I think and say it in a very stern manner. I partly think that's why my last ex left me. He thought I was just going to let him mess around and didn't think I'd ever stand up for myself and when I did and put him in his place he couldn't stand that I hurt his ego.. sad but true. I think it's good though to be shy and then get "scary" when you're angry though. People know then that you're really serious... if you're someone that gets angry often people get used to it and wouldn't know when you're really that serious =)

[bunnahies]

im shy quiet and innocent looking...piss me off and ill give that death stare too. keep saying sh*t ill say f*** you and ignore. keep talking and ill throw/kick everything with no value to the floor and beat you :x

im not gonna bottle it up that much for an a**hole that wants me to explode. some people just keep going and going! only a few people got that far.

[Theguyoverthere]

Shy people can have a lot of "internalized" feelings for every sort of emotion. You could have "pent up aggression" for example. You can hold in all sorts of anger and by the time you can't take anymore, the slightest drop of a pin can cause you to explode with 6 months worth of anger.

[Kaiservadin]

I try to refrain from cussing or attacking anyone as i mostly keep to myself and try to avoid trouble whenever i can. It takes a lot to piss me off. I only remember one time a person pissed me off and it was when a person we known for a while was staying with us till they got on there feet. She was making up shit about me and start saying she will tell my mom and grandparents what i was doing ( Which i wasn't ) and this cause me to snap. All i remember is some of the cuss words i said to her, it was like a blind rage.

[Sanoquoa]

I shan't say all, but 90% of shy guys can get scary when angry. Thats because "Scary" is a feeling of the listener, and the listener is not used to this kind of behavior from a shy person.
EX: I personally find ghost dolls to be more scary than those skeleton ones. REASON: Simple. Unexpected behavior. Dolls are expected to be playthings, friendly and childlike.

For example, I am quite shy and introvert around people. But few of my friends has seen the bad side of me. I never get violent. I just get extremely "brutal and savage" and almost destroy the person with my words. I dont think shy people get "violent" easily, (or maybe I am exception) but if someone angers me, I can go as far as, say, stop talking to that person forever. Silent treatment.

[KingsOfleon88]

I don't like getting angry because usually I will say or do something that I regret later or just feel bad about it. I mean sometimes some things will fly out of mouth when I have had enough but. For the most part I have to be really pushed.

[Leothelion0821]

Well cushy ally the shy quiet ones are the ones who explode the most. When I get really mad in my head I kind of picture punching thei face or something like that and when I look at them I just have a cold stare. Usually people can tell when I'm really mad.

[Betwyn]

When shy and quiet goes angry freak out...

90% of them are scary

10% of them are hilarious