should i tell a girl im going out with her because i am lowering my standards?

[dmack18]

i am going out with her because i find her attractive. but i always chase after hot part girls who are like super models and are really thin. But she has a little weight on her. So should i tell her i find you attractive but i am going out with you because i lowered my standards

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[Masamii]

... are you even kidding me? you shouldn't even be going out with her in the first place if looks are that important to you. just because she isn't super skinny and fake looking, doesn't mean she isn't a person. did you even consider her feelings when typing this? what if she found out you thought that way? this would make me feel terrible and probably cry my eyes out for days. you sir, do not deserve this lady. i'm sorry, but you don't.

[vintagegirl90]

Hell no! Never say that to a girl what your opinion is about her appearance, particularly based on shallow taste. If you tell her that, I can guarantee the date will fall through, no girl I know likes feel under appreciated and second rated by the guy she is genuinely interested in pursuing. You might get slapped in this situation, I would bite my tongue and think about what you like most about her other than looks.

[Eiffelgirl21]

Then, why date her? If you feel like you are lowering your standards? Maybe your standards are too high... That is really mean.. How would you feel, if I walked up to you and said "date me, but I am lowering my standards by being with you"? It is just wrong. PLEASE don't date her if you are just going to hurt her.

[dmack18]

Look the reason I am with her is because I do love her I explained it in one of the comments I left. And second I don't feel intimidated by her whatsoever.

[Eiffelgirl21]

so why did you post this? If you love her... why are you lowering your standards?

[dmack18]

Because I don't feel intimidated by her and I don't have to try as hard around her I have a ton of confidence with her

[Eiffelgirl21]

wow... this should make this girl a ten not.. anything less... It means she is a good girl.. so you are lowering your standards? Come on dude! She treats you good! I hate how guys automatically think they are better than the girl if she treats them really good. this happens to me so much =/

[dmack18]

Listen I think of her at the same level as me not below me.

[Eiffelgirl21]

so don't complain. and she should be better than all those other girls because of how she makes you feel.

[Anonymous]

Um, NO. That's so messed up. Your standards don't have to be lowered to like/date someone who differs from your usual interest.
I'm attracted to thin girls, slightly overweight girls, etc. There's more than just weight involved in attraction. Personality, hair, etc., etc.

[Janson]

i hope you do.. because she might break up with you and find someone who actually appreciates the way she is, lol...

[gingerrr]

*bangs head on desk* You can't be serious now! Go reread what you just wrote. Why are you even with her? She deserves somebody so much better! You are terrible.

[dmack18]

i do like her a lot she is an amazing girl she is awesome and i like her a lot . I explained my feelings for her in one of my comments so she dosent deserve better than mr

[gingerrr]

If you like her a lot you wouldn't say what you wanted too. My advice to you is this- never, I mean NEVER tell a girl that she has lower standards than other girls. That would be like me comparing my future boyfriends penis size to previous relationships. Just no.

[dmack18]

Okay I would never have said it to her I was just wondering if it would have been mean to say

[gingerrr]

It would be very rude. For future reference, if you ever have to wonder if it will hurt her feelings dont say it.

[dmack18]

So anything about a women's appearance would make her feel bad

[gingerrr]

Anything that can be misconstrued as negative. If a girl ever asks if she looks fat just say no.

Now, if you tell her she looks beautiful or amazing wearing something or having her hair a certain way say it!

[dmack18]

How about this when she asks why I am going with her how about I say because you're smart you're, funny, fun to be around and you're incredibly beautiful

[gingerrr]

YES! :)

[Thatguy321]

You tell her that, you'll be lucky not to be slapped you idiot.. For someone who chases and talks to supermodel hot girls, you obviously dont know how sensitive girls can be

[Daph81]

It's not about how sensitive girls can be.

Nobody likes to be told how they're actually not good enough for someonhe and that person has to lower their standards to be with them. How they're not the first choice.

This QA is either a troll or just fucking dense in the head.

[Thatguy321]

Yes all girls are sensitive and always worry if they're good enough for a guy after all the work they do to look beautiful, if he does this, itll take a big hit to their confidence

[Thatguy321]

And if you can say that a crush tellin you "i usually go for super models... but I'll settle for you..."

[Daph81]

Not just girls.

How would you, as a guy, feel, if the girl you're dating tells you that she settled for you?

[Thatguy321]

wouldn't crush you, than your the strongest woman i know

[Thatguy321]

It would hurt but i wouldn't take it as much to heart

[Daph81]

it would crush me, but before that those words would get his skull crushed... by me.

[Daph81]

it's the kind of insult that makes you just... want to inflict some immediate damage, you know? You don't want to just walk away without hurting him back..

[Thatguy321]

If never raise a hand to a girl, but i know what you mean

[Daph81]

words can often inflict deeper wounds than your fist.

[dmack18]

listen Daph i am not lowering my standards by going out with her she is lowering her standard by going out with me i really do love her.

[Eiffelgirl21]

LOL at all of that!! And, asker, to top it off with that! haha w0w

[Thatguy321]

Oh yeah asker?
i find her attractive. but i always chase after hot part girls who are like super models and are really thin. But she has a little weight on her. So should i tell her i find you attractive but i am going out with you because i lowered my standards

Wanna know whos the dumb ass who said that? Obviously you dont think of her as being out of your league dumb ass

[teachj]

I think if you see her as a downgrade from your usual shallow choices then you obviously don't like her. Why are you dating her if you think she is below you?

[dmack18]

I think she is at the same level as me not below me. But for the first time ever I am chasing after a girl I have a chance with

[teachj]

You won't have a chance in hell if you say that to her.

[Thatguy321]

asker you need more experience with girls

[Daph81]

Are you out of your mind?

What are you hoping to accomplish by saying that? Leave her already, she doesn't deserve a jerk like you.

[dmack18]

should i not tell her. I do think she's beautiful but she's not the type of girl i usually go after

[Daph81]

Again. WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH BY LETTING HER KNOW SHE'S NOT ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH FOR YOU?

[dmack18]

She is attractive enough for me. But i would never have thought to go after her if i hadn't lowered my standards

[Daph81]

What the fuck is your intention?

Are you hoping she'd say "ooooh my prince charming! Thank you SO much for lowering your standards and considering me worthy of your affection! What am I to do without you my prince?"

Get your head checked.

[Agrojag]

Daph, please explain to me how guys like this get girls to like them. I can't figure it out.

[Daph81]

guys like what?

[Agrojag]

Who believe stuff like this and ask these kinds of questions.

[Daph81]

oh..

I don't know... beats me... confidence maybe? Also, depends on the types of girls guys like him go for. Dumb, extremely insecure girls might settle for a guy like this

[Agrojag]

It still doesn't make sense to me. If a girl said this to me, I'd be kicking her ass out the door. Haha!

[Daph81]

I agree. Who knows how many girls have kicked this guy's ass out the door? Maybe he has left a trail of enraged girls behind him lol

[dmack18]

okay listen i really do like her. I was never going to say that to her intentionally. But i am the type of man who accidentally blurts out stuff unintentionally and i might hurt her feelings accidentally saying that. I no longer think i am lowering my standards. And for the first time in a while i feel amazing around her. I love her for her. I dont care she's not a supermodel. I dont want anyone else but her. I Love her a lot . She is so smart and beautiful and caring. And just the greatest girl ever. When i am with her i feel amazing and desirable around her. And for the first time ever i am not worried about dissapointing her. I would always go after girls i couldnt get and would always get my heart broken. But because i looked her way everything changed. She taught me about true beauty and made me feel confident with myself. So i realized i am not lowrering my standards by going out with her she is lowering her standars by being with me

[Daph81]

then tell her all of that. Instead of what you initially said in your question.

[Agrojag]

Tell her that instead. Leave the lowered standard bit out. Christ's sake.

[neveryoumind]

daph81 i just read what you wrote under thaguy321 answer. Like if if a guy said that to u wjhat will come his away as a result, i couldnt stop laughing cos i did something simillar and qustion asker if you want to avoid something like this dont tell her that she is lowering her standards.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q914998-should-forgive-him-again

[neveryoumind]

check out the response underneath stitches answer. on the link i sent. This is wht happens to douchebags like this gentleman or asshole more like.

[Agrojag]

Absolutely. Try it out and let me know how it goes. Make sure you use those exact words. She'll love it.

[Daph81]

And I hope she calls me if she needs help burrying his body.

[Prettygurl12]

Wow... guys really can be idiots, can't they?

That being said, NO you moron! :p *Whacks you outside the head with a giant sack of bricks* do you WANT to be single?

[neveryoumind]

wtf!! are u out of your mind never ever do that to a girl!! then again why dont you say it because chances are she would leave your ass becasue she desevers better and be thought of as a queen!!

[dmack18]

i dont treat her bad and i am a nice guy

[neveryoumind]

kmt!! you're manipulative. why the fuck are you going to tell her she is average and your reasons are dumb. she will forever question herself worth when she is around therefore giving you power. i hope you stay single for life.

[dmack18]

I won't do that to her she is an amazing girl

[neveryoumind]

cool. dont say that to her ever. i am happy tht we saved you from doing the most stupidest thing ever. peace.

[dmack18]

Ok how about I tell her she is incredibly beautiful and amazing

[neveryoumind]

yeah that sounds better say that

[lumos]

Wooooooooow. I don't even know what to say except that she deserves someone better than you.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

If you do she will be offended and dump your ass off. You never say things like that to a girl.

[sovetskii13]

Don't say that because that will hurt her. It's like telling her that she's not good-looking.

[abccba]

Not only would she leave immediately, but also her self-esteem would be ruined.

[Anonymous]

I think that's mean and would ruin her for future relationships

[dmack18]

I wouldn't say it but it wouldn't ruin her for future realtionships

[Opinion Owner]

yes it would she is going to think every guys she dates is going to turn out like you

[dmack18]

I'm not that bad

[Opinion Owner]

it sounds like it lol

[dmack18]

Ok she's not that ugly it's just for the first time in my life I am falling for a girl that people won't see as a supermodel. I like her for her and for the first time I am going after a girl that is a little overweight

[Opinion Owner]

so ur just worried about what other people think? That's what it sounds like. So what if she's a little over weight if you like her you like her don't let what other people think get in the way.

[dmack18]

I don't care she is a bit overweight I am just happy for the first time I am not chasing after supermodels

[TheOneTurv]

NOT A GOOD IDEA BRO! If you tell her this then you can kiss that relationship goodbye.

[maiez]

Don't tell her, just enjoy the relationship. That is a very bad idea if you were to tell her.

[Anonymous]

well would you like to keep breathing? yes? then dont tell her that. because if she doesn't kill you, her friends will.

[Eiffelgirl21]

hahaa

[dmack18]

I think she would be upset if I said it (I'm not going to say it though) but I don't think she would be that upset

[nothanks]

lol. One of those questions that is self-explanatory.

Do you wear 'Bad Idea' jeans?

[ZEDA_X]

Why...
What is the purpose of this?

[josesmaf]

Tell her every morning.

[douride2]

Not if you want her to stay with you.

[BayHarborButcher]

I don't think that would be a good idea.

[COCOCHANEL]

that sounds like it might not be such
a good idea

[blondfrog]

No what are you stupid?

[GoldCobra]

R u serious lol?