Girls, Should I tell her?

[Anonymous]

I'm terrible at explaining things so bear with me. I met this girl at work and over time we became freinds. She tells me everything and I do mean everything that happens to her. I think it's been a mutual benefit since knowing her I've got into better shape myself loosing over 130lbs. With everything that we have been through I've developed feelings for her but I'm pretty sure it's not mutually. So the question is should I tell her and risk loosing the friendship or should it just be this thing kept away? It just hurts to hear her talking about all the other guys she's seeing or thinking about seeing and then hearing everything about them from sexual to non...

[SueShe]

I personally would not tell her anything about how you feel.

Think! What would hurt you the most?

1. The possible rejection and ensuing loss of friendship?
2. To hear about her sexual experiences with others?

Also, I don't find it right to open that much to a friend. There is a limit to what can be shared and what is private and is of nobody's concern.

You could tell her to refrain from talking about her sexuality in the hope that she is able to read between the lines.

Don't forget, she is a co-worker and not a person you know from your childhood. Co-workers come and go...

[Asker]

The only thing with this is I think it's causing a small rift anyways hearing about it and don't get me wrong that's not the reason I'd like to be with her but in my mind it's like saying hey your not good enough let me tell you about the people who are and when they break her heart comes running to me

[Sketti2021]

Maybe ask her if she wants to go to lunch or dinner or something