Why do tomboys feel weird in dresses and skirts?

[Metal189]

my cousin, a tomboy in her own right, was wearing a dress for like the first time ever what seemed like. she went to a wedding with her fiance and she said she changed out if it right as the wedding ended. she said she felt weird in it

Why?

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im looking for technical reasons, not obvious ones

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Dresses and skirts just feel different. I almost never wear dresses or skirts except for formal occasions (and even then I often opt to wear dress pants or a suit), so when I do wear them they feel odd, you feel sort of less covered, somewhat exposed, I guess? It's hard to explain - but if you want to understand, you should try putting on a dress or skirt yourself and see how it makes you feel. Plus they don't come with pockets. I don't know lol, I just prefer pants.

[Metal189]

skirts were originally meant for men. did you know that?

[Metal189]

so were heels

[kheserthorpe]

That's what a sporran is for lassie.

[Metal189]

sporran?

[Tonya_Marie77]

Its just not as comfortable as being in basketball shorts or something. Its too breezy for me and when im walking up stairs at school guys become creeps and try to look so I avoid the awkward feeling of being stared at. I mean I wear dresses for homecoming and prom or a wedding but other than that I dont like them. Its just not comfortable and I can't sit the way I want I have to sit accordingly to how im dressed and its like no freedom

[Metal189]

why do you want to sit like a man?

[Tonya_Marie77]

Its not that I want to sit like a man ita just I dont want to feel constricted to my movements. I like putting my feet up and stuff. Ita just more comfortable than sitting with one leg over the other all the time

[Metal189]

like a lady should

[Tonya_Marie77]

Yeah but its not all as comfortable. I mean there are times when you have to be a lady sure but now a days we want to be comfortable too. I mean you guys dont cross your legs like we do because your balls and penis are in the way and if you do it gets uncomfortable right. Well women dont like their thighs sweating or sticking together from constantly crossing them.

[Metal189]

excuses, excuses

[Prettygurl12]

Uh... hello?

Dresses fly up everywhere. They're extremely impractical and you can do about jack shit in them. How am I supposed to sit comfortably? How am I supposed to run? How am I supposed to itch my stomach when its encased by this dress entrapment?

They're just not practical, they expose too much and they're just altogether stressful to wear.

[Metal189]

typical of a tomboy to say

[Prettygurl12]

Yeah. If I'm not mistaken you did ask why tomboys don't wear dresses. And I am a tomboy so... I answered. If you didn't like it you probably shouldn't have asked tomboys :p

[BoundByCuriosity]

i think you'll find what it more likely is, is that they dont feel particularly feminine in themselves (for whaever reason), therefore they dont really want to wear what are essentially feminine items of clothing.

this doesn't mean they are going to be rug munchers or anything, it might stem simply from having interests that have stopped them bonding or fitting in with girly girls.

[sean1234]

I have a cousin also that is tomboyish. Lots of girls these days don't wear dresses and skirts anyways, they are just use to their pants and shirt.

[cipher42]

Pants are more comfortable, and more convenient. Most dresses or skirts don't have pockets, which is a major reason why I don't like them. Also, with pants, one doesn't have to worry about sitting so that nothing is being revealed, or about going up stairs or anything. They're just generally much more convenient and one has less reason to be self conscious in them.

[Metal189]

less lady like, essentially

[cipher42]

No, just more comfortable. I have no problem with being elegant or lady like or whatever. But I do find that pants are just generally more convenient and comfortable.

[Metal189]

less lady like, essentially. it's whats making you a tomboy. you don't want to be ladylike

[cipher42]

Again, no. Why does ladylike mean less comfortable? Lady like just means more refined/elegant. I have no issue with that on it's own, I only don't like it when it means being inconvenienced.

[Metal189]

if ladylike means less comfortable, than that means you're not going to be comfortable, but its still lady like. im a realist, not a pessimist

[cipher42]

But it doesn't. Certain clothes can be both ladylike and comfortable and convenient, but they are usually either rare or expensive. I would have no issue with wearing those clothes, but they are just too difficult to get. So my issue is not with being ladylike, it is simply with being uncomfortable and inconvenienced.

[Metal189]

im just sayin'

[cipher42]

Yes, and you're incorrect in your assumptions.

[Metal189]

thanks for telling me if im right or wrong. i didn't know you were mrs. no it all

[cipher42]

Well you're the one assuming that my aversion to skirts comes from them being ladylike, which is incorrect.

[Metal189]

like i said

[Metal189]

by the way , that was sarcasm

[cipher42]

Yeah, thanks ever so much, I never would have known otherwise. But anyhow, I'm not the one acting like a know it all, you are. I have made no false assumptions.

[Lolo13]

They honestly feel different. I will wear a dress to a really special event but thats it. Not a skirt. Ever. I go for jeans or gym shorts. To me I guess I'm just more boyish because I grew up with guys and didn't get into my "feminine" side as much. But I know a couple girls that don't like how a dress feels, it feels more, revealing?

[MaskedSanity]

/baaaawwww wimminz aren't living up to how I envision them in my fantasy wet dreams

I like how you deem your personal opinion on what is feminine to be fact and telling female commenters here how they ought to dress and behave.

[Metal189]

blocked and reported

[DareDevil01]

Why? You asked a question and then you act rude towards the commenters giving their reasoning. With comments such as "i would think rape is more likely to do it than that" It's almost as if you're trolling... I'm surprised you haven't been blocked and reported for being a condescending, rude person.

[coffeprince]

Some women feel insecure or uncomfortable in super feminine clothing, that doesn't mean they always feel that way, its just that wearing a dress often makes you feel different, vulnerable? Its kinda hard to explain

[Rail2k]

People feel comfortable in what they're used to, and if she's a tomboy that means she probably doesn't wear that many dresses and skirts.

[sean1234]

Yeah.

[EyeSeaYew]

Dresses and skirts are uncomfortable. I can't understand girls who do casual things, such as walking around the mall or going to the store, in skirts and dresses. I simply don't like them.

[26ukdude]

mabybe she's a lesbian?

[Metal189]

a guy can dream right. no umm. my cousin is engaged to a man

[26ukdude]

Maybe she's engaged to a woman that looks so manly you think she's a man. Have you ever thought of that?

[COCOCHANEL]

they may have some psychological issue about it

[Metal189]

such as?

[COCOCHANEL]

like a childhood trauma or something

[EyeSeaYew]

That makes no sense.

[COCOCHANEL]

how do you figure, ninja?

[Metal189]

rape?

[COCOCHANEL]

i was thinking of something more like... there was some episode in their childhood when they felt they were masculinized somehow.

[Metal189]

i would think rape is more likely to do it than that

[douride2]

It's all about comfort & what your used to.