Questions: Girl's Behavior

So I met a woman through work, but she works for another company. We've been talking to each other for months, but in the past month or so started to have much more contact with each other, we call or text each other daily, but we are yet to meet.

We flirt, and are vulnerable and supportive of each other when we need it. She comes to me with her problems and I feel like I can go to hers with mine - but its not all problems that we talk about.

I really like this woman, I think about her a lot, but neither of us has made a direct move on the other. I've told her what I think of her, but not how I feel. I've suggested we should meet a couple of times, not with any intentions, but she deflects and indicates that she doesn't think we would work, but we get on really well. She then proceeds to talk romantically to me, asking me about my love history or what my love language is etc, so I'm a bit confused as to what she actually wants.

I know other men would be interested in her, it would be impossible for them not to be. She has told me about men which were interested previously, but didn't work out including ex's. This does make me jealous, but that's my problem, so I just listen to her.

This is the first time she has shown me any messages she received. It was a very flirtatious text from a co-worker and very inappropriate. She told me she's not shown any interest in him, and didn't like the message but won't report him. I know her well enough to know that kind of message wouldn't work for her anyway.

I guess my question is two-fold, what do you think she wants overall, and why did she show me the message?

Imagine a guy who has plenty of friends that are girls, but isn’t girly himself. He mostly hangs out with multiple girls. He is slightly better looking than average.
He is not particularly interested in casual sex. Maybe hands or mouth stuff once a week, but not usually with his friends. These are just people he gets along with the very well.