Is being called Alpha male by a woman a good thing?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I never put such labels on myself. I didn't want anything to do with guys who thought they were "alpha" (superior). They are dumb shits. Puffed up and swaggering like cops or soldiers. There is no "alpha' because there is always a bigger alpha. I prefer normal people.

But it's wonderful when a woman thinks I rate "alpha". I love it when she thinks I am big, strong, capable, full of testosterone, daring, and potential energy. She feels safe and secure around me. She gets a thrill for my masculinity. And she thinks I am an alpha - her alpha - in bed.

After the first date that I had with my future wife, we left the restaurant and stood by our cars chatting for a while. When we went to leave, we realized that the parking lot gate had been locked. So I hopped over the 6' cinder block wall and got an employee to open the gate.

I didn't think it was a big deal, but my (future) wife was awed. The way she told it to her friends, I had been a super hero. LOL

Once, we were riding with a couple of her friends and one asked something about me. My (future) wife blurted "Oh, he can do ANYTHING." The couple looked at each other as if thinking "Yep. The girl is in love." 🤣🤣🤣

Is being called Alpha male by a woman a good thing?

dragoblack · Accepted Answer

It's a complement, but the "alpha, beta, gamma, omega" mentality is incredibly toxic and incredibly innacurate. The guy who created that labeling came back to the science community and even said he got it incredibly innacurate and wrong, but society ran with the innacurate information like society tends to do.
Alphas are not dominating & aggro, they are supportive and leadership making sure everyone survives and even then the wolf pack would take turns with leadership. The agressive & aggro members of the pack are actually the exiled ones because they are a threat to the survival of the pack.
Betas are the support for the current leader, a second in command to help with current alpha with management of what the alpha can't manage.
gammas are the in between of helping with the pack in terms of scavenge, scouting and hunting along with managing the young and weak.
Omegas are basically the old who help teach the young and be the sacrificial fighters to help the rest of the pack survive..

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

It was meant to be a compliment, but frankly, looks like the girl watches too many TikTok videos. I just find those terminologies extremely cringy and would much rather refer to my man as "self-confident" and "a good leader" rather than an "alpha". You're not a wolf, you know?

neilsmart · Accepted Answer

Yes it's a good thing!

ZackBan · Answer

Look you'll get a lot of mixed reviews on this based on personal beliefs so I'll give you an educated take :

It's never a bad thing to be called alpha.
Context matters, if a woman is using it as a way to degrade you it means you did something too "fake macho" but it's still an opportunity to tone it down and remain a true alpha.
If it's a true compliment then it's the best kind of compliment.

Better to be too alpha as opposed to not alpha enough but be careful not to become a pretender as there are too many already

Jay3344 · Answer

Maybe, personally I wouldn’t let it go to your head. If you’re an alpha but you’re not leading society or your field as an alpha, are you really an alpha? I mean with a woman men can act as tough as they want but let’s be honest with ourselves. Unless your doing some real alpha stuff in the world, like leading people and providing for them, than mostly it just personality traits. That could mean a lot of things but this whole alpha beta stuff is a strange craze that has men thinking more like apes than cognitively expanding humans.

DaveJord · Answer

For the type of women, I date and find attractive, yes, it's a good thing. I need a strong woman who I can respect and perceive as an equal, and I expect her to do the same for me. So, I need and want an "Alpha" woman, and most those types want an "Alpha" man.

Let me say this, if the woman finds being an "Alpha" man is a bad thing then I got no need for her. So, I am glad he recognizes me for who I am and passed. If she finds my "Alpha" nature intimidating, then I am not interested in wasting my time. I am a confident and accomplished man and I need a confident and accomplished women who knows how to manage a real man, and treat him right, but still hold her own when it comes to putting herself forward in a relationship.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Not sure. That crowd would call me a soft delta with budding sigma tendencies.

A combination of obsession with fulfilling goals I've previously been denied, and wanting a woman to dote on, but becoming too skeptical and cautious to make a move. A result of meeting too many danger zone crazies, and therefore hesitant to trust anyone.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

Generally speaking, yes. Unless they are extreme feminists and think any form of manliness is toxic and the patriarchy.

LovingJo · Answer

I wouldn't know, I've never called someone this. But I'm guessing for the male involved, it would feel good.
Being an alpha doesn't always mean that you will be "top dog" though, it's in your attitude and how you conduct yourself with others!! 💯

HavicZero · Answer

A woman calling a guy alpha is her determining if she can manipulate you or not with that set of rules. She knows that all she has to do to get what she wants out of you is to either placate your ego or drop the hammer on your beliefs that you're some kind of strong leader guy, because everyone knows that alphas don't exist.

It's just some cry baby millennial label so that you can feel better about yourselves for not accomplishing anything in your lives.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless she deliberately meant it in a negative way then yeah it's typically a positive thing. But keep in mind we're talking about women here. Just because she sees you a certain way doesn't make it reality. Women have a very hard time telling the difference between fantasy and reality.

Pegases · Answer

If she is a feminist then definitely not. But tbh, I can't think of a situation where any woman calling me an alpha male is a good thing.

virtue2332 · Answer

You could be an Alpha male without being an asshole but the fact of the matter is there is someone for everyone and im sure there are some women who dont mind

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It can be a positive, if she's into that kind of thing. I know some women reference it as a negative, implying the cave man era is over and/or referring to the ego that sometimes comes with it.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

no, women dont know shit about being a "male" to begin with. women will only appreciate your so called "masculinity" only when it benefits them somehow.

so if a woman is calling you an alpha male she just thinks of you as the most useful tool in her shed

Anonymous · Answer

I think you can definitely take it as a compliment. When a woman uses it to describe a man to his face she's saying you are a strong, confident, masculine man, which are obviously desirable traits.

the_bruh · Answer

Sure, but depends on the woman. If she's a feminist, probably not.

dustybiker · Answer

Depends on that woman's definition of what an “alpha” is.

jshm2 · Answer

Nope. Means you're more brawn than brain and even your brawn might not be much.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, well it's taken me a long time (and a great partner) to realize it's all a scam and you are allowed to be whoever you are. You can be excited like a kid about stuff you are passionate about. Doing what you want doesn't make you less of a man.

The names Alpha male, beta male. Those are in general very damaging and either results in lower self esteem or being forced to live up to some arbitrary standard irrespective of what you want to be.

sheenagwapa · Answer

there's no such things as alpha or beta make for me. for me it's more of your type or not your type. he probably told you that because he is really into yoy

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I would think it's sketchy because women just don't use that language 😆... what's next? She calls you a High value man? xD

Orion76 · Answer

Not necessarily, not if you are asking for validation in some way or another it’s a good thing if she thinks it even if she doesn’t say it doesn’t matter.

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah it means your cool and dominant, but they could just be tryna be nice or they like you

Kaneki05 · Answer

Unless she's a conservative this is not a good thing lol.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Some women like that; some do not. So it could be a compliment or a critique.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

If you like stoopid women, i’m sure it’s wonderful! Ell oh ell!

Guy13 · Answer

It is definitely good to be considered as one of the top dawgs in the Pack.

slatyb · Answer

Perhaps, but no woman I would date would say such a silly thing.

genericname85 · Answer

may or may not. that's just a vague ass nonsense word that could mean anyhting from them liking you till them thinking you're a douchebag.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Typically no, labels like that are lowbrow stuff, I like smart women.

Texaskid1 · Answer

It is a good thing.  But being called Alpha Giga Chad is even better.

PatriceONeal · Answer

No not really. Women have no idea what it means to be a man so theyir definition is weightless.

Paul09 · Answer

That alpha crap usually describes "bad boys" . But maybe he meant it in a nice way. Like you stand your ground, tough, lead?

kellytheman · Answer

I thinks so girls love a alpha man because they like being submissive and protected by a man.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I would take that as an insult because I don’t do that cliche Filthy Casual bullcrap

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

No because most women just see men as a human ATM with a penis attached

Anonymous · Answer

no, on the contrary it means you're not a down to earth guy.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Heck yea

fonduegirl · Answer

I call them that when I'm mocking

abc3643 · Answer

No, because it indicates she's an idiot.

SnowedIn · Answer

It's irrelevant.

Lucy68 · Answer

To some yes to others no

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Its cringe as hell.

Bricealan · Answer

From my experience, no.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

LOL alpha males or beta males don't exist...

annabananna · Answer

Just don’t call yourself one.

RockyHammock · Answer

More than likely she was being sarcastic

Anonymous · Answer

No, it is cheesy and embarrassing.

boobliker · Answer

dose it matter realy

marish01 · Answer

Depends on the quality of a woman.

red324 · Answer

Probably not a mature woman.

artsy_dragon · Answer

No it's not

driven159 · Answer

If that is what you want to be

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

As long as you keep her happy!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

How could it not be?

Keishio · Answer

Depends on your relationship is suppose

Anonymous · Answer

Ohlala si!!’ Mamma Piace!!

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! Think of the alternative.

Leopard23 · Answer

Absolutely.

In_Trance · Answer

Could be good or bad

Blackcupcake · Answer

that’s cringe

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes sure

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