How do men act when they are hurt?

[Girlinfo]

Does a mans feelings get hurt? When they feel rejected is it normal for them to put you down and reject you? Do they get angry? Or is this just someone who hates me and really does want me gone?

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Ok so is normal for a man that's hurt to be angry tell you never to contact them again and leave them alone and call you names? Does he mean what he said or does he just really wanna be done with you? What is the best way to Handel this?

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How long does it take for a man that's hurt to reach out? Should you approach again after being told by him to leave him alone?

[jesseray]

"Does a man's feelings get hurt?"

Of course.

"When they feel rejected is it normal for them to put you down and reject you?"

If they are strung along or rejected harshly, then yes. No one likes others to take advantage of them or disrespect them. If the rejection occurs swiftly but kindly, then no, that would not be a normal reaction. They will usually get upset and then distance themselves from everyone else to get some alone time in which their hurt feelings can melt away. Sometimes, they can lash out at people who will not allow them to have some alone time. They do not lash out because they hate those people, but rather because the lashing-out makes the other person go away and give them the alone time they needed.

"Do they get angry, or is this just someone who hates me and really does want me gone?"

I would not read too much into what a guy says when his feelings are hurt, because guys can be a bit emotionally retarded. Pay attention to what he says when he is not overwhelmed by emotion. Those words will better reflect his feelings.

[Theguyoverthere]

Well it's said their ego's much more sensitive than a woman's. I personally feel they're both sensitive ego-wise though.

I'm having trouble understanding your rejection thing though. If you already rejected them, I'm not sure how they can reject you back really.

[Girlinfo]

It's complicated to him I rejected to me I wanted to wait, so he just pushed me

[jeanbean]

From my experience with the guys in my family, they shut down and get all quiet until you bug them enough about it to where they lash out and be a total jackass to whoever's around until they feel better.

[springocelot]

From the guys I know, they have a hurt tone in their voice and become real quiet and avoid you for a while.

[SüßeJäger]

Yes we get our feelings hurt. Our reactions often are angry, that is just natural for us. Im not saying that is OK but for someone who doesn't understand their emotions (most guys) they can't help it cuz they don't know what to do or how to handle it. If a guy does something after getting his feelings hurt, most likely he doesn't really feel that way.

[Girlinfo]

What do you mean by does something he doesn't feel that way

[SüßeJäger]

For instance, if he called you something bad, he probably doesn't really think that way about you. he's just caught up in the emotions.

[Girlinfo]

I called text him a couple weeks latter and he's still mad. You think he will ever get over it?

[SüßeJäger]

I can't really say honestly. I would think he would after a while but I don't know how long. All I can say is if you care, try your best to show him you do without over stepping your boundaries. Maybe even some tough love might work. Like tell him look, I do really care about you and I don't like seeing you hurt, at the same time, I didn't do anything to be treated this way so please stop it. Be my friend please, I want that. Sometimes when guys are in this situation its kinda a bluff and if you call it, it will smooth things over. I don't know him so I can't say. Your ideas on whether or not he is bluffing, you will have to decide.

[Argus14]

We all deal with it different. Some shrug it off, lash out, get quiet, get loud or maybe even cry. All depends on the person.

The last part of your question is a bit confusing but i would say that someone genuinely not liking you is always an option.

[Girlinfo]

He got bad after then we had a fight he said some mean things said never to talk to him again. I take it he hates me now

[Anonymous]

"Does a mans feelings get hurt?"

Really? I can't believe you're actually asking that question. I'm also shocked at some of the answers here from women. Do women think men are not humans or something? The ignorance of many women about men is ridiculous. You whine about men not showing their emotions but then suggest don't have any.

I thought women were supposed to be as smart as men and have some empathy. Guess not.

[Girlinfo]

Honestly I asked this question because I wanted to know if by them being hurt they lash out. How do they react. Not saying they don't feel. Some act like it and I wanted to know how to know if it's cus there hurt or what... That's it

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry for overreacting. It's just that it seems it's a common belief among women that men have no feelings or we don't get them hurt. The other women's responses here are pretty typical - that the only emotion men have is anger. I think it's more a matter of women treating men as if they don't have feelings. Women tend to get angry too when men treat them without regard for their feelings.

Look, men are no different than women in how they react under the same circumstances when they get hurt. Every individual is different, man or woman. If we are treated with kindness and respect, we'll react differently than if we are treated with the assumption that we have no feelings...just like women.

[Opinion Owner]

Take jeanbean's response for example...she says if a man gets hurt and then you bug him enough he will "lash out and be a total jackass". OK, so who has the problem there? I think it's the woman who hurts a guy's feelings and then proceeds to bug him until he gets pissed off. Agreed?

Anon girl wrote: "Anger is usually the main emotion men display. I'm not sure their feelings get hurt". Need I say more?

Hopefully you see where I was coming from. Those attitudes are pretty typical among women. Women today seem to be all about being victims and dwelling on how men treat them poorly but they don't seem willing or able to pick up a mirror and see how their own behavior hurts men. All they see is the anger that results.

[Girlinfo]

Ok I understand what your saying and I do agree that a lot of women don't feel like men have feelings. I think it has a lot to do with the way women show there hurt and the way men do. Most women cry and get sad let you know there hurt and try to talk about it. With men I feel like they just try hiding it to cover it up because for some reason men from a young age are built that they have to be strong and not show that there weak. So because they don't show it the way we do most women feel like they have no feelings.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, good points. Keep in mind though that men are not allowed to show their feelings the way women do. Consider how a man who cried when his feelings got hurt would be perceived by others. Seriously, think about that. We as a society love to say that men should be more in touch with their feelings but the reality of that is something most people just don't seem to think about.

Women 'say' they want men to be sensitive and show their emotions but what they 'show' is that they want and are attracted to men who are strong and confident. Those two concepts do not correlate well.

Men do hold their feelings in more than women do and that's not going to change, ever. But that doesn't mean women shouldn't understand that men still have feelings and get hurt just like women do.

[Girlinfo]

Yeah your right. The thing is instead of getting angry and hiding and doing what men do why not just talk about it? Work it out? Why ignore?

[Opinion Owner]

It is our nature to ignore emotional issues (just as it is yours to talk and cry about them). It's not just something that women and society push us to do. It is our genetic predisposition. I see it in myself and most every man I know.

I was never discouraged from crying as a kid. Today, when I am emotionally troubled I do find a good cry will make me feel better, but I usually can't even if I try. It takes something huge, like the passing of my father, to make it happen and then it all just pores out.

That's not due to some conditioning or social influence...it's just how I'm wired. But just because I don't outwardly show signs of pain, that doesn't mean I don't hurt, and talking about it generally does more harm than good, for me. I'm not comfortable with it.

I'm a man, not a woman. I want to be treated well just like you do, but don;t measure me by the woman's yardstick because I'm not a woman.

[Chris011]

Of course a mans feelings can get hurt. I usually end up getting quiet and don't talk much. Then after awhile I will probably end up lashing out. If you did something really bad then he will hate you a lot and will want you out of his life.

[Anonymous]

Just look at random questions on gag and observe how some GUYS, not men act when they're butt hurt lol

[Girlinfo]

Bitter?

[Anonymous]

Anger is usually the main emotion men display. I'm not sure their feelings get hurt as much as the get ticked that someone didn't show them the respect they felt they deserved.

[SüßeJäger]

I don't think its that as much as genuinely having our feeling hurt and that how our brain is wired to react. Not saying that is ok though and this isn't true with all men.

[igofortakenwomen]

Na anger comes after being quite for awhile.

[p0rtis26]

PErsonally, I am quiet avoid people and ponder a lot.

[Anonymous]

I got really upset and defensive and just wanted to regain my dignity any way I could.

[Anonymous]

Depends but usually reserved.