Why are men so hurtful?

[Anonymous]

So I broke up with my first boyfriend last year and I recently started saying someone else. My first boyfriend was my first in literally everything but however he started getting a bit controlling and emotional abusive. So I posted a picture of the new person I'm seeing and my ex saw it and called me. This man goes off about how the other guy is using me and he expected nothing else from me moving on so fast and that I'll never learn that no one wants me as I am now and I should've stayed with him so I could grow and that I'm an udiot and he was just using me for sex. And I'm my head is light and that I'm easy to fuck after all of this and me silently listening he hangs up and calls me back like 30 mins later being all nice then says he wants to see me and have sex. Like what in the world is wrong with some people. I'm just tired.

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Then when I confront him about the call earlier and if he thinks I'm crazy he says not to take anything he says seriously and he was just mad.

[Emelina]

I am extremely happy you're not with that idiot narcissist prick, that's what you call a bad relationship and toxic. Not all men are hurtful, sometimes we pick guys that lure us believing we are super special to him, but then things change in that guys behavior that he thinks he has all the power to control and manipulate his partner when clearly he has no right to do so. Delete this guy from your life completely and do not engage in any conversation with him, the relationship is over so move on forward; if he keeps bothering you then you need to put him in his place and if you need to inform him you will report him to the authorities for harassment. Becareful please, and remember you are one unique woman. Cheers

[Emelina]

Thanks for the SO 🙂

[Anonymous]

Damn. My last ex is the same as your ex. Its crazy. We would fight and he would say all these horrible things, shout at me, cuss at me, and then minutes after he would be all calmed down and be all nice and apologize, also saying he didn't mean it he was just mad. He also says the worst things he could think of. Thing is we only broke up a few days ago because he did it again and i promised myself this time im not going back to him. The only thing i know is, they do that because they’re hurting and they’re desperate to hurt you back because their ego is bruised. Never believe any of it. Dont get me wrong, every time it happened i would always be hurt by his words, but it doesn't make it true. Im really happy you got away from that guy.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even understand why you answered his call to begin w. Why didn’t you block him Charlie Brown? Man a lot of you get people, especially women sure do love drama. He’s a lunatic. Cut all ties w him. The fact that you even answered his calls tells him in his pea brain little mind that he still has some sort of affect on you. This is why a lot of men act this way because rather than think logically, you use your feelings to let him back into your life when you know logically you should kick his ass to the curb.

[lightbulb27]

That ex is a sick dude...

Hurt people hurt people.

You might as well read up on narcissistic personality disorder, which is a spectrum... and see how much of it he fits into. He is controlling, abusive, needy, and who knows what else.

He's a hurt child...

Ideally, he'd get a label online so that other women could be warned... but sadly, he won't, so others will pay the price over and over, until he seeks help.

[RespectfulGuy]

No no no, many men are great lovers.

But regrettably your ex is not one such.

Take advices from other guys and girls who answered: block him on all media already. And avoid all anonymous calls.

Yes, move on and don't show him any hope of getting back to you, ever again.

[Anonymous]

One guy acts like a jerk, so that prompts you to ask why men are hurtful? It's not ALL men; it's just the one that you chose, the one that you thought was so wonderful. Maybe instead of blaming men in general, you should blame yourself for your poor judgment.

[Lynx122]

He's just upset and he's not mature enough to deal with it in a respectful way so he's just spewing whatever comes into his head. He's young and stupid so don't take it seriously just block him and move on with your life.

[Asker]

he's 37

[Lynx122]

Wow then he's really problematic. I'd get away as far as possible.

[miadee]

I hate some men too but NOT ALL MEN are dickhead. Your ex is respectful dickhead and you need to remove him from your life. Start to give a chance to men who treats you nicely.

[MementoMori777]

I can see why you moved on, he clearly hasn't and he is just angry, jealous and salty that you found someone else, don't listen to his hateful comments and live your life with your new partner. 💯

[strateguy632]

omg how would you feel if i wrote a question the SAME accusation "why are women so hurtful."

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Your ex is a narcissistic sociopath. You should block him permanently and tell him to fuck off that he has a little dick and never once did he make you cum.

[AngryCarl2]

Men get crazy when you break up with them, particularly if they were a bit crazy to start with. Women can be crazy too. Realtionships are difficult.

[spartan55]

Your ex is a fuckhead. I would recommend blocking him.

[FreyaRed]

Don't talk with him, block his number and all anonymous numbers for a while.

[Matt-G]

Everyone can be hurtful, it's usually down to not understanding. The difference between man's experience and woman's experience makes it more likely they hurt each other.

[JesseP1nk]

He said new guy use you for sex and later calls to see you and have sex? Hmm... intresting... Just block that loser. Simple

[Jamie05rhs]

He sounds a little unstable. I wish this wasn't the case, but that is my honest opinion based on the facts that you have laid out.

[Hellraiser1984]

The first boyfriend seems like he wants control and thinks you are his and his alone. Be happy he's gone. You deserve better.

[MeatPuppet]

A lot of people are assholes. I'm sorry you had to fall for one of them.

[SnowedIn]

Not all men are hurtful and like your ex.

[Levin]

Because women choose them and stay with them.

[In_Trance]

For the same reason women are

[Engin12]

I am not hurtful. You need a better man

[Jmmmfi4]

Because you girls deserve it

[Anonymous]

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