Guys, see a woman you haven't seen in ages & she's lost weight, looking banging & getting bulk male attention. What do you do? Do you want her?

[Anonymous]

I've lost 22kgs and in the best shape I have ever been in. I've put so much effort into my body and it's paying off. I've always been involved with guys but never really exclusively. I used to feel it was because they were ashamed of me. Most of my male "friends" pursued me at some point but it was always discreetly (I was a big pusher of this). Anyway, now I'm looking and feeling great. I've been having a blast and all of the sudden all these guys are popping up out of the woodwork. They are openly admitting to me all this stuff. Im not buying it - I wasn't good for them before so why now? But I even had a guy who's in a relationship start talking about wanting me back, my ex is talking to me heaps and there's about 4-5 guys randomly chatting or people that I had flings with. I guess I'm asking, if you once had a thing with a person and then saw them months later looking pretty hot would you pursue them? I am sensing a fair bit of jealousy with all this attention. The funny thing is I'm only having fun, laughing and making memories, I don't actually want a relationship now. I'm just curious as to why and how far you would go to pursue someone or how jealousy would affect you if other men wanted the same girl. I'm not used to being wanted but I think it's kinda hilarious that people just expect me to still want to be with them if they suddenly appear.

Why do men show no interest then bump into you and then it's bam, your phone is red hot? Is there so much to physical attraction? People have always been attracted to my personality but now that I'm fit I don't know what's genuine.

[SlimTagRo]

Hey girl
I'm new here and I'm at work so I can't really explain my thoughts completely
But most of us will start chasing their ex's and friends after they get more valuable and vice versa (girls after guys) I've been in a relationship with my ex for 2.5 years (3.5 years ago) and the day after we broke up, damn she was looking mad fine that's how it goes she wants you to see what kind of diamond you lost but It didn't affect me personally cause I moved on but I was really jealous at first so yeah that's the way women work
Maybe it's not your case but it worked the same, now her ex (an old friend of mine) almost died in a fight he was involved in with her new boyfriends friend and the guy wanted her as badly as my friend did (or does 😏) and yeah now your friends will start chasing you cause you've changed visually (from the outside) and they don't give a.. about how sweet you were, they want you back, cause now you're like a trophy, they know that you're more valuable cause now value is gained by your social status and social status can be easily gained when you look better from the outside (yep that's a little advantage over others) and people will start chasing and willing to meet this hot girl they seen cause you got in shape and people will start thinking to themselves that this girl changed, and she gonna attract a lotta people and they sub consciously telling themselves "what she's mine" so yeah girl you got yourself a new thing to experience in your life but please, don't forget who you were (or who YOU ARE) before all that cause some girls enjoy it and use it against others (to get things they want (men, $$$, attention and more things that will make a lotta fights) there's a thing these type of women should always remember: "low price always attracts the most customers". -unknown.
I'm sure that somebody could help you to find the answer you're looking for
Have a nice day!

[Asker]

Thanks for this really insightful. I won't change I know who I am and I made my changes for me and my health, no one else. Yes I'm getting attention but I am taking it with a grain of salt. What you are saying makes sense to me and I'm not out to play games or be involved in power plays, but it's just like these people are getting jealous when they have no right to really. I'm kinda shy and come from being insecurities. Im also independent and make more money than most guys, I don't care for material possessions. I'm the girl that guys befriend and protect, I'm not usually the one in the limelight so to speak. I'm gaining confidence slowly.

[AdamThomas]

A lot of it is physical attraction especially when it comes to sex, people bullshit when they say personality matters more.

I noticed the same with women, I used to be really skinny and it was almost like I was invisible. Then I put on some muscle and all of a sudden girls started talking and reacting to me more positively. In one of my classes at college three of the girls got talking about me and all three of them said they'd fuck me. Then I lost some of the weight because I got into boxing, and I needed to be slim and fast. They then acted very standoffish, no longer flirty and stopped giving me much attention, which didn't bother me because I didn't fancy any of them, I thought it was pretty funny. Then I packed on more muscle again, and they went back to the way they were before, flirty, messaging me on Facebook all the time...

You get better at spotting the liars and players with experience.

[Asker]

Wow, yes that's why I'm not really believing any of it. There are people who have been talking to me the whole time and I know they are real. It's others I'm not sure about. Physical attraction is definitely important but it isn't everything to a relationship. At the moment people are hammering my Facebook too, but then if someone sees me out I can almost guarantee by the time I get home I have a message saying how good I look. I am having fun with it but I do know all the seeds are out now too.

[bleedingquadrophenic]

"if you once had a thing with a person and then saw them months later looking pretty hot would you pursue them?"

That would depend entirely on why the "thing" stopped.

And no I really wouldn't be jealous.

[Asker]

Well this is in relation to the flings rather than relationships ^^ nothing in particular happened to make it stop. Just stopped seeing these people. Grew apart maybe I don't know. I had flings when I was hung up on an ex so I guess I never took them seriously, maybe that has something to do with it.

[bleedingquadrophenic]

In that case, yeah I might. Shit why not?

[Sex_Panther]

Would I personally? No.

Now why are you getting the attention? Because you went from 40% great to full package? Considering you've not held a LTR at all from the sounds of it you are now STR-worthy with LTR traits.

[Asker]

I've been in one long term relationship and 3 short terms. I don't class flings as relationships. I always got attention before it was sexual most of the time, but now it's like people want committment. The sexual attention is amplified don't get me wrong, but now people want relationships and exclusivity. Bit confused.

[Sex_Panther]

It's because LTR traits will get you up to 3~4 years if you lack STR. STR traits will actually get you less time but more attention. So if you have both you now have the STR to maintain the attention and the LTR for the long haul making you a "good catch".

[Asker]

Ok so what you are saying is that people are now noticing me and thinking of me in a different light? That's pretty interesting.

[Sex_Panther]

It's how it always goes. What sucks about human attraction is that you can't have one or the other; you must have both STR and LTR traits, and if you lack one over the other you will almost always fail.

[Thatguy321]

I dont honestly know, never happened before haha