Help? Boyfriend looking at other *men*?

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl and I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 months now and we love each other very much, and he's never looked at other women before... but recently I realised why: he's been looking at other MEN. And its my best guy friend.

I havnt brought it up because I'm afraid of what he'll say I don't know how he would react to me just assuming things... I mean, I know he's straight... Or at least he was when we got together, but now I keep having this feelin...

My guy friend is avoiding me I feel, and I haven't seen him or actually properly said anything to him in a week until today I saw him talking with my bae infront of the bar as I walked home from the mall with my friends.. I didn't confront them, I wouldn't know how to.. so I just continued walking home and avoided eye contact. my friends were all too busy talking to notice them..

Could he be gay? What is happening? I've never seen him with a boner, so now I'm even questioning if he's even sexually attracted to me, we both believe in sex after marriage.. And he's told me he's loved me, but I have this feeling... but I know he loves me, we both are so in love but... I just don't know! What would you do? What do you think is happening? Please help!!

[Anonymous]

Most likely gay or possibly bi (but probably not from your description). If he's bi then once you two decide to finally do it you might be in for a 3some adventure that most girls only dream about. But if he's gay, you're out of luck. Be very very gentle about how you deal with this because he's likely feeling horrible guilt and the wrong thing could utterly crush him. He probably genuinely loves you but possibly not romantically. It could be he sees you as his salvation if he's deeply religious, but if you two go down that path you will both end up devastated. Deal with it soon.

If you handle this right you could end up with a really good friend for life. But probably not a bf (unless like I said he's bi).

And it's situations like this is part of the reason why I think people who believe in "sex after marriage" are absolutely kidding themselves.

[Asker]

Thank you very much, I really appreciate it

[AngryBill]

You haven't given much detail on what he actually does

[Prof_Don]

What has he precisely done that makes u suspect that he's gay?

[05Jueey]

Omg. Girl, be cautious