I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 27?

Question

I know it's not legal 
But I really don't know.
Im turning 15 in 5 months, and he's turning 28 in 7 months. I know this is bad and stuff, but I can't help that I like him. He says I look a bit older like I'm in my twenties so it's okay. We just hang out, we've been dating for like 9 months, and we just kiss sometimes and that's it. I only like him cause he has a car and a house and money and his life together, I wonder why he likes me? Does he think I'm easy and young and stupid? he looks way younger than he is, when I first saw him he looked about 19 to me. We don't do anything bad except for kissing so is it okay? We just hang out and watch movies and whatever... Do you think he is just using me? 
I dont really like him tho, cause I have crushes at school but like
Should I break up with him
I'm starting to feel like he thinks I'm easy 
Because that's what my freinds told me :

A_Gee · Accepted Answer

girl, lol. I had the same thing going on. when I was 14, I had a 26 year old boyfriend. and, I loved it! You get no crap from them, they are mature and responsible. I totally understand.
but, at the same time, your growing, your likes and dislikes are changing. he-in this case- left, and married 4 months after he stopped talking to me.
That hurt so much, of course, I dealt with it, im fine now. Everytime I see him, all I see is a bitch.

Moral, don't give him alllll you have. Keep some hidden, at the snap of his fingers, he can get any other girl, no problem. and your stuck with the tears.

:)

Account · Accepted Answer

Okay, I give up. This is way too much for today. I am starting to get desperate.
Yes, he is obviously using you. He's manipulating you and taking advantage of you. You need to stay away from him.
Do you want to fall in love and make mistakes? Fine, do it. I am not against it. But do it with someone of your own age. Don't do it with a sexual predator.

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

That is... extremely disturbing. No normal 27 year old should feel the need to date a 14 year old kid. I'm sorry but this is just disgusting and wrong. You're essentially a child, he's a grown adult. Don't be naive, this "relationship" is not okay on any level. Clearly he has issues if he can't get a woman his own age...

ImagineRelease · Accepted Answer

This is a bad idea. It doesn't sound like love. And this is just walking on thin ice where you're likely to get him in trouble. If you want to introduce him to your mom and get her approval and keep dating till you're legal in your state sure, but I think your mom will know instantly that neither of you love each other.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you say you really like him, yet you only like him for his materialistic property, so your a gold digger, and extremely young gold digger, but a gold digger none the less. And let me ask you this, how can he be using you, your not sleeping with him, your only 14, so what could he possible be using you for?

Markneil · Answer

Lots of assumptions here about sex & pedophilia. I can sympathise because I was with a girl of 15 when I was 30; I was living in Ostend, Belgium. We started talking at her place of work and got along really well, one day I left a note with her boss to meet me at 7pm that evening if she wanted to. She showed up telling me her Mum had dropped her off and was asking how old I was - Kim just said she couldn't remember but that I was older. We went to the bar and talked all evening, then went to the beach and talked more. it was so nice, she didn't act like a giggly kid and I didn't feel like I had to be anyone else but myself. I didn't remember this part, but she recently reminded me that I actually asked her if I could kiss her! We hung out a lot after that, she wasn't sixteen for a few months so it wasn't at all sexual straight away, we'd go to the beach, kiss, watch movies, go for drives, play in the sea fully clothed, lots of fun stuff. It didn't affect my life, I had my friends to do stuff with, and she had hers. She studied hard, she'd 'show me off' to her school friends occasionally, but I didn't mind too much, and we'd get together when we could. Her parents knew and didn't try to cause any problems, it was what it was and they didn't mind. When she was 17 she moved to a different town and I got a job back in the UK, we talked and decided that a split would be the easiest. 25 years later we are very dear friends and still spend some time together if we are in the vicinity of each other. So not all age gap relationships are about pedophilia or manipulation, they can actually be fun.

abundantlyrich · Answer

Mentally and emotionally, you both are at diff stage of development. I think he is mentally retarded the fact that he was able to relate to you. That's regression in my humble opinion. Why don't you give guys your age, a chance?

Roycaryn · Answer

Believe me, by the time you reach this guy's age, you know damn well what's going on inside the mind of a 14 year old girl. He's deliberately telling you what you want to hear and has no qualms about lying about things such as how you "look 20" or whatever in order to exert influence and control over you.

jamaicant-argue · Answer

This whole situation is stupid, he is a pedophile and if you are allowing someone his age to be with you than you are pretty easy.

Klaatu51 · Answer

sorry but he's a pederast basically... at 14 you're illegal :-/

GingerBiscuits · Answer

You're a self absorbed teen who doesn't see the train wreck in front of you.
He's grooming you while you think he's so into you and you have control while "using him".
Sad sad thing, go wash your arse and play outside!

chocolateismylover · Answer

You should break up with him. He sounds like a creep.

Thegoodgirl88 · Answer

That's just wrong on so many levels and he a paedophile

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

Well your using him you quote "I only like him cause he has a car and a house
and money and his life together" ... . Smh well experience is the best teacher
for both of you i won't say what i see here let them take care of it.. Oh well

kain7th · Answer

"Does he think I'm easy and young and stupid? " I think that is a very likely scenario yes. If i were you, i'd end this right away.

Shannell96 · Answer

You're a child and he's a pedophile... I had this go on when I was 16 . I thought I was grown talking to a 27 year old man when he was really manipulating me. Now im 21 and I think it was rather creepy. The irony is now im legal and I date a 27 year old again and I realized they still act like children lol.

Kyndra · Answer

Gross. A 14 year old going after a 27 year old guy for his money, and a 27 year old guy going after a 14 year old for who knows what.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't sound like you're stupid and if you only kiss it doesn't sound like he's trying to take advantage of you. However, you should listen to your friends rather then post on here, they know the full story and have your best interests at heart.

Anonymous · Answer

Woah and i thought when i was ur age my guy was old my guy was 21 and I was 14 at the time but he's decades older than u actually double ur age almost  BREAK UP thats all i say

kheserthorpe · Answer

It's not illegal for him to kiss you  You should break up because you're not actually into him.

Anonymous · Answer

he likes you because he's a pedophile

front2back · Answer

I wouldn't even date a 14 year old and I'm 18.

existing_not_living · Answer

Another 14 year old being an idiot. Yippie!

Error_204 · Answer

This will end well.

Keyspirits · Answer

I think the world is coming to an end.-.

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