Why do guys say "let me know when you're in town," or "we do xyz when you're in town"?

[misssouthernbelle]

I find it insulting. They act so excited to potentially do something with you, wanting to watch a movie, cuddle, or go out to dinner, but recently, I've been getting a lot of thsee responses. Even one wanting to do those things IF I move to his city. What is it ththe catch? Why will men not invest time in a woman that isn't conveniently right THERE. If she's a little distance away, they refuse to put effort into coming to see her. Is it just a lack of maturity? Lack of interest? It just really makes me feel cheap and like last choice when they ssay this shit after conversing with me. I don't even text back, or I say something about just seeing where life takes me. Why will they not make the move to venture to me?

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*we'll *the *day... this is why you don't type half asleep. Lol.

[Zachary1317]

They only want the sex. Done this before not even gonna lie.

[misssouthernbelle]

Probably so. And, they really think I'm that desperate? Haha, no.

[Zachary1317]

its a compliment in a way... they find you attractive but don't think a relationship would last with you (probably the man's insecurities/thinks you're too good for him). even men who sleep around won't sleep with just anyone.

[Sexualchrist]

Maybe they don't drive or something.

[misssouthernbelle]

I'm pretty sure they all have cars...

[Sexualchrist]

Maybe you just live too far away from them and they don't want to buy that much petrol.
How far away would your closest suited live?

[misssouthernbelle]

Maybe an hour.

[misssouthernbelle]

I mean, I would meet them halfway, but they don't even attempt that. Guys nowadays are lazy and if you're not right there, they give you the "let me know when you're in town" bullshit.

[Sexualchrist]

Yeah, that's pretty slack. I drive about an hour for my girlfriend so I don't see what the problem is.