My dads friend is very touchy what do I do?

[Anonymous]

OK so what do I do because one of my dads close friends all of a sudden keeps trying to get close to me and touch me like yesterday my dads friend offered to watch over me while my dad and my mom went out. I told them that i am capable of watching my self like I just turned 17 not to long ago but anyway my dad insisted that he should stay "in case" anything happens to me. i was in my room sitting on my bed reading (twilight) and my dads friend came and sat besides me and he kept talking and saying how its amazing how two people can meet and fall in love than he started rub my knee and slowly moved up my thigh. I looked up at him and he looked serious I didn't say anything to him and moved my leg and told him I was tired than he left and mumbled something but I'm not sure what he said. This isn't the first time he did this and i want to tell my parents but i don't want to ruin there friendship because they been good friends so what do I do?

[truthbeknown]

When I started dating my wife, she was only 17 at the time. For a couple of years at family get-togethers and holidays I noticed her uncle was really touchy-feely and always insisted on a hello and then a goodbye kiss from her -on the lips. Really creepy. I asked her about it, and told her I didn't think it was appropriate. She hated it too and just went along with it because of the same reasons you said, she just didn't want to cause problems in the family. She agreed with me that enough was enough. She told her parents his actions made her feel uncomfortable. So at New Years that year he tried to kiss her, and she told him flat out no, she isn't a little girl anymore and only her boyfriend gets kisses. She just kept her distance as well. He would keep coming up from behind her and rub her shoulders or rub her arms, nothing really inappropriate, but the fucking guy just can't go an hour without touching her. Finally she just told him to stop, raised her voice slightly. He made some remark and right at the dinning room table she says, "I think you have touched me enough, that's it, no more!" Everyone just stared. Awkwardness set in, and then everyone just started talking all at the same time because I think they all knew what was going on. Never had a problem since.
I think your case sounds a bit different with some similarities. Until the end of time, your parents will always love and care for you more than their friend. Don't ever be afraid of putting your feelings before their friendship. TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! This guy does sound really creepy and who knows what he is capable of doing. Tell your parents there may be a side to this guy they don't know about. He may be dangerous, or may be harmless, but it shouldn't be you or your family that has to find out! Tell them you respect their friendship, but you want nothing to do with this guy and don't like being around him. Your parents should respect that too!

[TripleAce]

Listen little girl. Listen carefully

Tell your parents right away! I'm serious don't wait for something bad to happen. He won't give a crap about their relationship if he can get to mess you, clearly.

So tell them and don't hold back! That man should not be alone with you

[TripleAce]

Also be careful. Once your parents know. He find other ways to get to you. So make sure you tell your dad you want to Stay away from him

But if your parents are not understanding and might brush it off. Let us know here and we'll give other ways to deal with this on your own. But let us know if your parents will sort of brush is off?

[Mikasa]

This man is not your Dad's friend. He is a predator and he has spotted you as his next prey. Tell your parents what he did and do everything you can to stay away from him. If he is ever alone with you make sure to record the encounter with your cell phone to have solid evidence that this guy is a scum bag.

[aamy811]

You need to tell him. Dot let yourself et into anymore compromising situations with him. Let your parents know, even if thy stop wing friends at least your not hurt and that's all they really care about. Not to mention if he does something to you he won't be friends with your dad anymore. Tell them

[CuriousPerson]

Tell your dad immediately!!! He is trying to have sex with you!!! Your parents' first priority should be protecting you since you are still a child!!!

[Applefan1]

Here is what to do.

You need to protect yourself from this guy. Remember that even if your dad's friendship with this guy is ruined that is not your fault at all. You have not ruined the friendship between the guy and your dad. Your dad's friend has ruined the friendship by making sexual advances towards you. Make sure you remember that. You have to tell your dad about this because these things start with him touching you, then that leeds to him touching you in even a more sexual way and eventually even raping you and you becoming pregnant or even worse. Trust me if you leave it and don't tell your parents you are greatly increasing your changes of something bad happing to you, like rape. So protect yourself and tell your dad and if you feel you can't tell your dad because it is a close friend of his tell your mum but tell one of them.

[Starrk]

Fuck friendship. This man clearly doesn't value the friendship he has with your parents if he's going around seducing their daughter while they're nowhere to be around. You need to tell your parents this ASAP, because I'm positive you don't want another incident like this to happen again.

This how I see it.

Not telling your parents = He remain a trusted friends of the family, and is allowed to be closer with you and even alone with you, if your parents ever need someone to watch you again, which I'm sure will lead to more incidents like this.

Tell your parents = The friendship will end, but at least he'll be far away from you, and you will never have to worry about being alone with him ever again.

[Tdieseler]

Forget friendship, tell your parents. Things like this could escalate quickly due to frustration. Its starts out with a knee rub and ends in screaming. Also if this guy can do this to his friend's daughter, he's not really a friend then. He was trusted to watch you just in case, seems like he is the one that should be watched.

[Domingo]

You better let your parents know. If I had a daughter and someone did that to her, I'd beat the snot out of them. Doesn't matter if it's a stranger, friend or family. I think you should tell them

[Lonegirl18]

Tell your dad NOW!! No friendship is worth u being harrased (cuz that is sexual harassment) Also if he try's to touch u again I recommend changing the shape of his skull with the nearest heavy object. Clearly reject him and he will stop

[Your_boss960]

you should tell your dad.

Once I had a cleaner guy who used to clean my house. And he was creepy and touchy and I told my mom. We fired him and now he's gone. And now we have a maid. It all works out for the better,

Just tell your parents.

[jag420]

Dont let him think that its ok even for a second and do not let him think you are too afraid to say No or tell someone. You tell your parents as soon as possible and do not let him ever think he can get away with any of it for a second

[Ghost55]

Ruin the damn friendship because if he were a real friend to your dad he wouldn't be trying to feel up and down your leg like that, tell your parents straight up that this man is SEXUALLY HARASSING because it might soon lead up to him molesting you, don't play, you're safety is at risk, fuck the friendship, I can't stress this enough you need to tell on this perv.

[HollywoodGlam]

Tell your parents about it. That's what I would do if I were you. There is a high chance for your dad's friend to stop what he's doing by letting your parents know.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You need tell your dad about what happened
cause this will be a repeated situation that's not good.

[Bellibooo]

Oh dear. Tell your father about this, what he was doing is really bad.

[TheGreenRanger]

Yeah, this is something you shouldn't keep to yourself.

[Entrieton]

Please tell your parents, you don't want to be raped.

[jmmmfi]

Okay that's really fuckin weird definitely say something like now

[Liv04]

Tell him! Don't be afraid to speak out if he's making you uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Tell ur dad and let him punch this shit