Do guys take advantage of lonely girls?

[Anonymous]

Curious question.

Not advantage as in necessarily doing anything with them, but advantage as in thinking that their 'tricks' are more likely to work because the girl is feeling alone.

Like flirting and all that

[udolipixie]

Do guys take advantage of lonely girls?
I find guys consciously take advantage of most types of gals. In my opinion generally when guys interact with gals their intention is to f*ck her.

"Like flirting and all that"
I find most guys do not flirt but manipulate/coerce. They seemingly often try isolating her from her friends so no one can 'talk her out of it' (ie there's no one but her to call him on his bs or witness his bs if he gets creepy/unpleasantly aggressive). Many seemingly try lowering her inhibition with alcohol/other drugs (ie they get her so wasted she is barely aware or her surroundings or is unconscious and he has to carry her out).

[Asker]

You know you raise a good point, (about trying to get her away from her friends, because there's no one to talk her out of it).

I wonder if this is one of the reasons that boys never try to get to know a girl's friends too well.

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah those guys are wolves & see her as little red riding hood. That's why girls should put up a front or else they'll think she's easy to persuade

[kheserthorpe]

Some might.

most guys don't consciously have any tricks. They try flirting, but flirting isn't really a trick... its how you escalate slowly while showing interest looking for her to flirt back. Flirting isn't actually expected to dramatically change a person's interest level in you, only very slightly if done in a particularly good way, it's more a subtle way of testing each other's interest level

[BertMacklinFBI]

if they can sense it and they want her that bad then they probably will.

[Asker]

What if they don't want her, they want something out of her.

Something materialistic. Maybe wealth in some cases

[BertMacklinFBI]

how would he get her wealth? you mean like become friends and let her buy him things?

[Asker]

Pretty much

[BertMacklinFBI]

I personally have never seen that scenario in reality but I guess its not impossible. if he asks the girl to buy him things then I would red flag it.

[Asker]

Not necessarily 'buy' them things in the conventional sense; I think if he's getting money out of her in some way.

For example, one of my acquaintances was with a guy, and I suspected he was using her for money, at least to an extent. He once took a taxi with her and didn't even pay half of his share.

[BertMacklinFBI]

oh I see. so basically like she would be covering the tabs. seems possible but not likely.

[Asker]

I don't know whether it was true in her case, but he seemed like a tool, either way.

But I think even in purely friendly matters, I have noticed boys where if they think that a girl is interested in them, they will try to extract things from her.

Or maybe that's just me being paranoid, I don't have any proof of this but they're merely observations

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's just douche bags in general. they find out a girl is into them and see how much milk they can squeeze for free without buying the cow.

[Asker]

What do you mean by buying the cow? Actually committing to a relationship with them, or caring for them at all

[BertMacklinFBI]

basically, so the expression goes, "who is gonna buy the cow when they get the milk for free", the cow being the girl and the milk being whatever the guy is getting for free.

[BertMacklinFBI]

why should he have to pay for the cow when he's getting the milk for free. buying the cow is a committed relationship

[Asker]

Ah I get it now.

So if he's getting something from the girl, he'll take it, without really putting any effort in.

Is this why guys often use girls, because they suspect that the girl needs him?

I don't know, my parents have always taught me to not be judgmental towards women who boys use, because it's hardly the girl's fault, a lot of the times the guys are sly enough to pick up on something about the girl.

But sometimes I can't help but feel, (especially in the case with adults), how can the girl not KNOW he's up to something?

[Asker]

And the reason that I include my parents when I say this, is because for some reason, I think I was one of the few people growing up who didn't judge the girls, even if they were very different than I was.

A LOT of that had to do with the way I was brought up, come to think of it.

[BertMacklinFBI]

when the girl is unaware of the guys intentions or refuses to listen to other's advice about him being a bad guy its usually because she is letting herself fall in love with him and in most cases the guy knows this and uses it to his advantage by telling her what she wants to hear but its all talk and never the walk. he can keep a girl on the hook for a long time with words without ever proving it through action simply because she is letting him do it. the girl has all the power, they just don't do anything with it. so yeah if he is getting something from the girl that didn't cost him anything then he will most likely take it and continue doing so without giving any effort because that's how much it cost, zero effort. why work harder than he should. the reason guys use girls? there's too many so I couldn't really give you a general answer.

[BertMacklinFBI]

how you were brought up molds a lot of who you are today. it does make sense.

[Alexious]

I don't know any that do..

But, I've heard many stories of drunk girls being taken advantage of though..
One drunk girl came onto me once, I said no..

Because, I knew she'd regret it. I'm not that sort of person..

[DocT1977]

No, If I didn't care about them, What was the point in wasting their time? Or mine?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Yea. Lonely Girls are thought of as desperate

[Ihav2fart]

Nit all guys just want to get in your pants

[Tank2]

True