Why do girls ignore lonely guys?

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PonyCar · Accepted Answer

Can't speak for anyone except myself. That being said:

I'm not a fan of people expect others to solve their problems for them (especially if they feel entitled to that privilege over others). I've always been an independent self-starter who does something about their situation if they don't like it. If someone has an issue with their life (e. g. is lonely/doesn't have the size/breadth of social network they want) and whatever they're doing is not working, then it's up to them to do the necessary research and try different solutions until they find one that works.

If my social skills are poor, I'd go online or to the library and check out some materials on human socialization/behavior.

If I'm not in a position to meet people I want to hang out with because of my life circumstances (and that matters to me more than my job, my school, etc), then I'll find a different job or change schools.

If I have personal issues that cause me to ruin my personal relationships, then I'm saving up for counseling or finding someone who's willing to give me advice.

If you don't have the number of friends/relationships you want, go out and take the (possibly considerably expensive, massively-time-consuming) necessary steps to form those relationships. Most people that I've encountered with social issues (of any type) are only willing to go so far/devote X amt of time/effort to solving their problem (which ends up being inadequate). They make the mistake of not being willing go outside their comfort zone to solve their problem, then complain when their comfort zone fails to encomass the solution.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's not that girls ignores you because you are a lonely guy, it's just that girls are shy creatures by nature (though there are those who wasn't) it's just that girls are afraid to approach people like that. you see not because a girl is talkative or have a lot of friends doesn't mean she was good in the topic of friendship and socializing, some looks very close but that is because they probably knew each other already. you can't just expect a girl to approach you just because you are lonely, you will have to show sometime that will attract them to you, like do something that will be noticeable. but if all you do is sit there looking like a rock then nobody would really notice you, try writing something or drew something (anything noticeable) and they will probably approach you to ask what is it. sometimes the problems lies within you, even if you are lonely you have to show to others that you are still approachable. there are difference to a lonely person to a person who didn't really want to associate with others, maybe they're just emitting that kind of aura which is why nobody approach them. because if your just lonely then others will probably flock you to ask if you are okay.

RebelliousRoyalty · Accepted Answer

A lot of girl's don't try too hard to communicate with someone who isn't very social they would have to be really nice for that to happen. If your not trying to make any progress with the girls don't expect to see any progress happen with the ladies. Think of it like this would you date a girl who doesn't talk to you or a girl who is actually trying to talk to you? Who do you think has more of a chance?

pr3ttybr0wn · Accepted Answer

You get what you put out there. if you sitting in a corner like a wallflower watching the world pass you by, you can't expect a girl to seek you out and look at you as a romantic possibility. you probably come off unhappy or like you don't want to be bothered. if you want girls to talk to you, then get in the mix and socialize

MrScTi · Accepted Answer

Not all girls ignore lonely guys, but many do.

Let's talk about the ones that do. I tend to believe that these women are followers, not leaders. They are conformists, not innovators. They are socially submissive, not dominant. There's nothing necessarily wrong with being this way, seeing as most people fall into these categories because a balance must be struck in order to coexist and function as a society.

These people laugh because others find it funny. These people show concern because others show concern. These people throw stones because other people throw stones. The type of girls that you're referring to are synced to the pulse of the group in which they follow. If you're lonely, she'll leave you alone because her friends left you alone and everyone else left you alone. Rather than go against, she goes with. Make sense?

This applies to girls and guys. Don't forget, even guys are ignoring the lonely guy. He's alone! The kind of person who talks to the lonely guy is the conductor to the orchestra, the one who is unswayed by conformity, and is intrinsically motivated by personal integrity.

SatoBlak · Accepted Answer

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Because blue shell.

LittleSally · Answer

Because they either give off an 'outcast' vibe, a creepy vibe, an unhappy vibe, a bitter/unsatisfied vibe, a non confident vibe... None of these are attractive.

People wonder why you're always alone.
People wonder why you just sit there and stare at a pretty girl...
People wonder why, if you're so lonely, you don't try to socialize to change what you don't like about being lonely... It's all up to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Man us laid back quiet guys gotta stand up and put ourselves out there lol We don't have to talk that much but we have to open up a bit crack a smile have open body language and greet women we want to spark a conversation even if it's a little one. Some days you just gotta say fuck it and do what you feel not what you think. There are some women who want us to make the first move and there's some that will make the first move and find quiet individuals attractive but no one will ever really know so we just have to be confident and comfortable with ourselves and it'll all work in its place for us👌👌👌👌

Babaorom1 · Answer

Depends what you mean by lonely.
If by lonely you mean the guy who will sit alone, brooding in his own corner for the world to see, we don't like it. Because if you do nothing for yourself, you have nothing to offer in a relationship (passions, hobbies, personality...)
If by lonely you mean that you have passions but they don't mainly involve socializing, then nothing wrong with that.

Michael6084 · Answer

Girls ignore lonely guys because guys who are by themselves and lonely don't come across as fun or exciting. For example, I can go to a restaurant by myself and just go with no worries - not because I'm lonely but because once in a while I like enjoying things on my own. There's nothing weird about it and if someone talks to me, I'm usually in a good mood regardless.

It all depends on how you present yourself out there. Are you just alone or are you actually lonely? It's two different things.

KeepcalmandLARPon · Answer

there is a difference between lonely and desperate. because lonely is wanting a girlfriend and to be in love and happy. Desperate on the other hand, is complaining constantly about being single and going after ever girl who pays attention to you (like one of my friends). So girls will ignore guys they think are desperate, not ones that are lonely.

fromtheashes87 · Answer

girls look for guys who have qualities or do things that they want themselves. if you look like you're happy and having fun (even if you're really not) girls will want to be apart of your world. if you are depressed and complain about being lonely they won't want to hang with you because they can only see that as being depressed and lonely with you. unless you can find a depressed and lonely chick. then you guys would be all over that shit

Justsocrazy · Answer

Not all girls do. Some do due to the fact that they aren't interested in general, some do because they are judgmental bitches and others dont at all and go for the personality. If you have a nice personality then start chatting to a girl and if you like Her try and find out If she feels the same way. Good luck!

AleDeEurope · Answer

You need to have something man, you can't just sit on your own and expect others to come at you cause that ain't gonna happen.
How is a girl supposed to approach you when you look unhappy? The first thing she'll think is: "if I go out with thid guy, he'll bring negativity and unhappiness to my life", and as far as I know, no one will accept unhappiness in their life.

theDailyDazzle · Answer

When I was in highschool i was infatuated with this pale kind of chubby , loner goth boy who used to sketch by himself... i never had the guts to aproach him but his memory still burnt into my head. He stood out because of his appearence. But if you look like everyone else, no one will notice you there by yourself.

dupe666 · Answer

Too broad.

Sometimes because they are socially retarded because of isolation.
Sometimes because they presume there is something wrong with the guy if he's all alone and no one wants him.
Sometimes the guys just don't put effort into communicating and approaching, but expect women to.
Sometimes all 3.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

Time to step out of the shadows and start mingling... not girl is going to start up conversation with someone who is recluse.

Girls are no different then guys... its easy... just ask what they like to do... what there interests are.

Soon you make some friends and as long as your friendly and outgoing, then one of them will start to show some interest.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't im attached to quiet people. They usyslly are not afraid to look at reality and are often thoughtful sensitive and wise.

. I can't stand bubbly outgoing people who are fiull of themselves and too shallow to stop and think about the world around thdm behind their own petty momentary happiness. there's nothing fantastic about a oersin just bc they wants i be "happy".,, It's not an accomplishment lol

And in my opinion people who need to feel good all the time are cowards.

CreepyOldMan · Answer

Girls don't ignore lonely guys. You just have to have a really weird girl.

Just take Bella and Edward, for example. They were a couple of crackpots and found each other in the romantic awkwardness. And Ed was a vegetarian vampire. Just think how lonely that must be.

Anonymous · Answer

I think guys who are lonely are typically desperate and clingy.
I like my own personal space for one.
& if a guy is constantly all over you then it gets old. Compliments and hugs and kisses and talking becomes to familiar.
Sometimes it's better to back off, and let her come to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Is he just quiet and 'alone,' or is he like those loners that sit by themselves and show no euthisiasm?
If the guy seemed as if he was alone all the time, then I would probably just talk to him. If he seems alone AND depressed, I wouldn't talk to him.

missjayne · Answer

It's kinda hard to tell if someone is lonely, maybe the girls think he just wants to be left alone. If you really want attention from girls you can't wish for it you have to make a move. Gotta break out of the comfort zone sometime.

existing_not_living · Answer

Why do guys ignore lonely girls? I'm lonely. I want a guy to notice me. But alas, they don't. So I stay lonely. So when you can tell me when guys ignore lonely girls such as myself, I'll try and tell you why girls do the same with guys. Deal? Great.

Starfishlover · Answer

Because it would be easier to get blood out of stone. I know you can't help it but there are self help books that would make you overcome your shyness. I mean, you lot are really intimidating. I don't know if you are lonely and shy or just hate me

Flowersinherhair · Answer

Because usually they're very desperate acting you need to still keep your cool regardless of what the girl says to you if she isn't like you keep your cool if she's interested keep your cool usually off on the lonely guys they jump away too quickly into everything

fmartinavar · Answer

saying you are lonely means you are needy and that you have problems. people don't want to be around someone with nothing to give or who seems like a downer.

peachblossomluck · Answer

Girls usually want a guy a bunch of other girls want. We're driven and competitive by nature and everyone wants someone who stands out more. It's the thrill of pursuit.

Chareign · Answer

Because i'm no good at starting conversation. So if the guys lonely and just sit in the corner, not start any conversation, i will also just... sit in my own corner, most likely

JohnBhoy94 · Answer

Lonely means insecure, and insecure means a waste of time unfortunately. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who was a hermit, and I can imagine not a lot of girls would either.

Darkmoon · Answer

probably the same reason why guys ignore lonely girls... but just keep pursuing what interests you and put yourself out there so people know your there and someone will come.

beautifulangel76 · Answer

Lonely people in my opinion tend to secluded themselves from others. It seems like they don't want to talk anybody so people will leave y'all alone.

hxcpr0n · Answer

Because you're probably ugly. If you don't look good, you will never be given a chance

Polswedgirl · Answer

If a guy doesn't talk to me, or anyone else, I'd think he's not really interested in talking to anyone so I don't want to "disturb"

Klaatu51 · Answer

i guess this happens because they'd be afraid of his reaction basically... lonely ugys have a rep. that they might be rude when you talk to them

Hello_Lemonz · Answer

I don't ignore them..  It's just that, I don't spot them. . You see my eyes is not the best eye to see who is lonely or not..

isthatarose · Answer

Because they're deemed as unapproachable or undesirable.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls ignore lonely guys only when the guys makes it seem like they're lonely. No one wants a relationship with someone who seems sad and depressed 24/7. They want someone who's fun and exciting. Even if you're lonely, there's a way to present yourself that will make girls notice you.

Swekriti · Answer

I never ignore them.. Each n every guy has its own individuality I respect that..

GlassHeart · Answer

I like shy guys i think they are adorable but there is a difference when it comes to guys who are shy and guys who really just want to be left alone.. Its hard to differentiate

muspelhem_5 · Answer

Because she wants a good father for her kids, and like it or not, being lonely is not a very strong trait.

Anonymous · Answer

well if you're fuckin lonely then you must be depressing to talk to have around as well... who would want that negative vibe around them? cheer up buttercup

Jersey1 · Answer

Its funny becaue linely girls should seek out lo ely guys amd vice versa. They would be very happy amd understand each other.

hannahmarsx · Answer

What'd you mean by lonely? If you mean the quiet type then that's probably why. They don't feel like you're chatty enough

aquamarine_pisces · Answer

because they're not appealing. I prefer confident, outgoing guys - but not overconfident and clingy

EllaC · Answer

Because they smell of desperation and it's just so sad and a huge turn off.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't ignore a lonely guy but id assume he wouldn't want me to approach him or start a conversation with him because he is lonely and might like being that way

salamrif · Answer

they are not interasting or attractive for girls.. may be girls think the lonely guys are weak and boring.. they cannot make girls smails and lough..
they need help all time and girls attract to the one who helps other.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't. They ignore guys who don't seem interested in meeting anyone. Also nobody should date a person just to fill a void.

MissAwesome · Answer

because girls want to explore new things, meet new people, do new stuff, go to new places. That is how we are "programmed". If you are a lonely guy that means that if she goes out with you she won't be able to do the things she want to do

Resoglass · Answer

They look hard to approach and boring... I know that feel though😢

Anonymous · Answer

You have to show and express yourself in the right way. No one knows if a guy is interested if he's being that way.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do guys ignore lonely girls? Answer that buddy

I_M_LEGEND · Answer

because if you're not happy, they aren't attracted to you. the logic is that something is wrong

moonmario · Answer

if some girls ignore lonely guys so it's means that girls want outgoing guys, those who are funny and social.

lulubug95 · Answer

Don't let them know that you are lonely... most of the time it's because when people are lonely, they show it. Try to be more outgoing when you are around a girl you like. Hope this helps :)

KenKenTaylor · Answer

How do we know that you're lonely if you dont take the time to get to know us and put yourself out there? That way we can get to know you as well 😊

girlwhomighthelp · Answer

Because they look boring and depressing and like they won't be fun to talk to so most girls avoid them obviously ✋

Anonymous · Answer

I dont ignore anybody but is hard for me sometimes to star a conversation.

Anonymous · Answer

Coz as already said lonely you got nothing to say if you're one... and they always have something going in they mind usually unpredictable

Mikaychay95 · Answer

We can't tell if you wanna be approached or not

Creole_Flavor · Answer

Too clingy ain't nobody got time for dat lol

KHaskins · Answer

What @pr3ttybr0wn said.

jofherylle · Answer

because they're boring

coffeprince · Answer

Please define lonely?

Blondiee2014 · Answer

Maybe they appear a little boring.

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