Why do guys ignore girls on purpose?

Question

Like they dont answer but they're clearly online. Could it be that they want to bother the girl?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lol i have had this to happen. Apparently he was only interested in girls that were 95 pounds. Didn't like me because i am thicker. I was considered ugly to him and below value compared to his friends. He did associate himself with other girls big but he singled me out on purpose. Not sure why he hated me. I was pretty nice to the guy. He would ignore me and tell all his female and male friends about it. He seemed to lure me in with flirting secretively and trying to gain my trust and then he went and shared all my personal stuff with everyone he knew. He probably was even talking about me to people he didn't know. When i went through something he told everyone and they all teased me.

I think last year one girl posted about it kinda trying to clown me or tease me that she had access to someone that ignored\hated me. He enjoyed when they laughed at me right along with him. Come to find out, he seemed to drag people in the situation just to hurt me. He really enjoyed the fact that he was causing pain to someone that liked him. Luckily those feelings for him has vanished. Steer clear of these men, they are harmful and can't be trusted. He is in a relationship now with a girl he made sure to flaunt, so that i could officially leave him alone and stop being nice. So i respected the situation and left him to his life. I even made it seem like i was in a relationship myself so that they knew i didn't want him ever and that they would never have to worry about me interfering with their life. I wanted him to be happy and married to the girl of his dreams, never wished harm on him like he did me.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

They don't want to talk. Simple. The intent differs from anyone, not just men. But if they want to talk they will talk. If you think a person is abusive, then reevaluate your relationship with that person.

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

It's not strictly they are ignoring you just because an app/website is showing someone is online doesn't mean they are immediately available online.

Reason I say this there are a number of apps and Web sites that will report an online status just because the app is open and might even be running in the background.
Personally I can be flicking through an app on my phone at work and due to the nature of my job might have to put my phone down leaving things running showing as online.

Also some apps/websites have a number of features meaning someone can be online on a completely different part of the app to how your contacting them so unable to see your message.
E. g. there is a dating website I use that I use that has a emails, webchat with cams, a forums and of course you could be looking at profiles or (pre covid) setup social gatherings or individual meetings.

Also you can't assume someone is still online if they have just posted something. I very often post something on Facebook and straight away put my phone away.

And like I said about work I can be online looking at something but not able to reply because it takes more concentration to reply to something that to view something and like when I'm working I haven't got time available to put that concentration in.

R3DthatDude · Accepted Answer

It could be he just doesn’t feel like texting or calling, or he is busy. Don’t stress just let it go. If the dude don’t respond just leave them alone, if they really want to talk or not doing anything then they will respond. My rule is simple if I’m putting effort constantly and I’m not getting feed back or response I lose interest I’m not into games. But you got to be reasonable in deciding when to call it quotes because you don’t know what’s going on in his life but you shouldn’t be left hanging daily with no response ever.

MrOracle · Answer

It's because men have other interests too. And we like to be able to do those things.

Maybe he's playing a video game. Maybe he's watching a YouTube video to help him fix his washing machine or fix a hole in the drywall. Maybe he is on a Skype call with relatives. Whatever.

Just because he's online doesn't entitle you (or anyone) to someone's immediate attention, and it doesn't mean they don't like you - it simply means that you are not their only, exclusive priority. That's a GOOD thing, by the way.

The other thing is, (most) guys don't want to have conversations via text. Guys don't multitask well, so we can't do anything else if we are texting. If you are the kind of girl who wants long conversations via text, most guys will ignore you as often as they can to avoid being sucked into a 2 hour conversation. That kind of conversation should be kept for in person. Texts should be direct and to the point, and should be under 2 minutes.

DWornock · Answer

Men don't ignore girls they just don't stare at them or make it obvious that they notice them since that can result in being arrested for sexual harassment. However, if in a crowd, it is okay for a man to look and watch if the girl is performing such as participating in a sporting event, modeling, dancing, or singing.

Otherwise, in our society, it is dangerous for a man to interact with a woman. For example, one man spent almost 2 hours repairing a woman's car, and instead of her saying, "Thank you," she charged him with sexual harassment. He spent several thousand dollars on legal fees and was at risk of going to prison until his attorney discovered a video showing that all he did was repair the woman's car.

Flash314 · Answer

It depends on the context, or what type of relationship you guys have. But in my experience, let's say about 25% dont do it on purpose exactly, guys get distracted or preoccupied, just like everyone else. Then there are the rest but reasons differ, 1. Is they are not interested in talking but worried about hurting someone so they avoid it entirely. 2. They are upset with you and being petty and giving the cold shoulder. 3. (This is rarer) but maybe they are in a committed relationship and don't want you to know. 5. They really just don't care. Like I said context is extremely important hopefully they aren't doing it on purpose, but if they are its probably one of these reasons, I'd like to add one last thing it could be that you hurt their feelings and didn't know it. Thats common amongst both genders

walt0462 · Answer

I don't know if this is true for most men, in my experience it's i never noticed that I received your message of text... and or im simply busy doing business paperwork or something and can't be bothered by anything else that's not work related (tunnel vision)

s10sleeper · Answer

There’s a number of reasons. Maybe they actually are trying to get to the girl. They might not have an answer yet. It’s also possible that if they are being bombarded with messages by the girl, they are getting so annoyed they don’t want to respond and get even more messages. Another possibility is they are waiting to respond until they are able to sit and have a conversation.

Denial1984 · Answer

My experience is that, as a guy, it is hard to get into a relationship with a woman. But once you are in a relationship with a woman, she is likely to be absolutely terrible at giving you space to breathe.

It is strange to me that women seem to hate men most of the time, but then when they are dating a man, they absolutely suffocate him.

JKingOff · Answer

The same reason why anyone would ignore anyone. They probably just don't want to talk to you. Maybe you're too annoying, or you could be a tattoo clingy, or obsessive. Maybe you're just not capable of carrying on the conversation, but the same could be said about the other person as well. There's a lot of reasons.

scorpy04 · Answer

Men and women both ignore each other and like you its making you feel your low esteem Dont wait for someone who doesn't make you feel like your their world and not a puppy they call when they have nothing to do

Anonymous · Answer

There are loads of possible reasons. He might not be online (those things are not 100% reliable) or he might be busy or he might have nothing to say to you or he might not want to have a long conversation and knows that you're not the sort who can have a quick 1 or 2 line chat - and that's just what I can come up with in 30 seconds off the top of my head.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think they do it on purpose they are just careless and can't handle more than two things at the same time and always focus on their priorities first. Men in general are bad texters.

thimmslicc · Answer

If you men think ignoring girls to make her want you, good luck. The weak ones fall for it. Leave me the fuck alone if Ieft you men on read. I am so glad I am not clingy.

winterfox10 · Answer

The guy could be busy or he just needs a little space.

Nick568 · Answer

Guys try not to come off as too needy/clingy. We try our best to look confident and unattached. It's either that or they just genuinely aren't interested in you.

jshm2 · Answer

No. They are either stringing you along to see how "desperate" you are, or have a few girls going and want see their options before commiting.

Newhead · Answer

Playing mind games, do not linger or play the game, move on before it ruins your self esteem, which is not easy to rebuild.

Tea-Spaghetti · Answer

don't know I obsess when other people do that so I try not to do that myself. If I ever do that I must find you highly annoying but that is super rare for me.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

If he was at all interested he’d be shoving his messages down your throat and forcing you to swallow.

sp33d · Answer

If it's someone who's constantly on their phones and responds within microseconds when they Want something from you, but otherwise take ages, then that's just st00pid mindgames. Both men and women do it, a product of lack of planning.

Bananaman177 · Answer

If it didn't work, you wouldn't be complaining about it. You don't fight fair either, so don't even come crying to us.

Hangry22 · Answer

That's the time slot for another one of his girls. Your time will come

TheFlak38 · Answer

it suck getting a taste of your own medicine. right?

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

when he does answer ignore his ass and when he ask you want you was doing say out with a friend

AshleyZendinsky0Love · Answer

Is he not reply to your initial text or he doesn’t text you first?

Barbaric · Answer

For the same reason women do it. They're not that into you.

JakeS00 · Answer

Sometimes I do it because the girl is acting a certain way and I don’t want to stir up anything. But it goes both ways.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I assume he's not interested or doesn't want to talk to her at the moment.

TheReturnOfTheGrump · Answer

I don't know better yourself and stuff like that so you can easily find someone else if you wanted there will always be single people around.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I rather want a guy ignore me if they are not interest in me than play with my feelings

douchecannoue · Answer

I get frustrated by this to but you dont know what he's dooin he might be helping a freind in a difficult time... it could be ither he ain't intrested or he just busy with like

Twenty2 · Answer

I only ignore the girls who I don't want in my life but somehow we are supposed to talk which happens when we are in the same friend circle or same class or workplace.

CikaZivan · Answer

Some people, guys or girls are not worth replying to...

msc545 · Answer

Probably because girls ignore us a lot. Works both ways.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

They do it just to get kicks out of a girl it's sad

thrombis · Answer

Or they are logged in and doing other things. Ya know not paying attention to their phone or computer.

themythos · Answer

Talking to other people. Not into you. Not actually online. Making you wait

FriendlyEnigma · Answer

I've been asked this a lot, by friends and a toxic ex. *ahem* I HAVE ADHD GOD DAMMIT LEAVE ME ALONE 😭

JCT666 · Answer

It's too much effort trying to impress a girl over text.

Tiffanyloves2swallow · Answer

Guy's that do that are dicks and don't deserve our attention

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

They think that makes the girl want his attention more. Stupid skin suits. I think.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I ignore them if I do not want them ad part of my life.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

They don't want to have a long and drawn out exchange which is the same reason to delay responding to a text.

prince360 · Answer

A) women do ghosting so much it's epidemic B) if it is on purpose then you know it isn't accidental, C) isn't that the ultimate female right - to just ignore you, point blank?

locutus9999 · Answer

we have lifes and other problems to deal with... so do not worry...

Maspolomas · Answer

Sometimes it shows I’m online when I turn my phone on even though I’m not on any sites

Blueeyes81 · Answer

At usually means they aren't all that interested or they fell smothered.

Anonymous · Answer

Could be a few things: 1. We are busy talking to your younger sister 2. We are busy flirting with your BFF 3. We dont like you

Jack9949 · Answer

Girls do the same exact thing. For the same exact reasons

Eleni079 · Answer

Play hard to get to get you to chase them possibly.

Anonymous · Answer

How does it feel to be ignored? Since you girls do this almost 24/7 to us.

ayomanwya · Answer

Thinking of the right thing to say to keep girls interested in having a conversation

JPrez · Answer

Could be multiple reasons.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

So that you're thinking about him

iseekpinetrees · Answer

They aren't interested... pretty obvious

Aniya06 · Answer

ughhhhh It's annoying :/

Doflamingo1 · Answer

He’s probably beating one off

samael_kmarty · Answer

Pretty sure it's the other way around

magiusX26 · Answer

why do women do the exact same thing?

_no_one_ · Answer

Cuz sometimes we got stuff to do.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls ignore guys on purpose

AmeerX · Answer

That's what girl's do

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