Do people hit on cashiers? Is that why they're mostly female?

[Anonymous]

I've always noticed that they're always female

[BuchitaBuchys]

I've worked as a cashier. And I used to get hit on a lot. Lots of times the guys mistake my friendliness for flirting. I am in customer service, and as mean as I am, even I have manners. Of course I have to smile and ask how they're doing.
What annoyed me the most was that I worked for WIC Food Centers, and that's basically they give coupons and food to pregnant women, people with newborns and toddlers. And some of those fuckers would hit on me KNOWING they have a pregnant girlfriend. I found that very disrespectful to me and their babymamas.

You deal with a lot of bullshit. "The customer is always right".
My ass.
You need patience for the rude customers and manners for everyone else.
You meet interesting people, so I liked it. Even with all the desperate dudes hitting on you.

[Asker]

I've been so naive growing up. I completely agree with you, that's disrespectful to a whole other level... you know my respect for CSRs increased just by reading this. Sometimes I've been a little rude thinking well why are they being difficult, but now I think they're human too and have to deal with all kinds of people, who am I to judge?

[Sampo]

I'm a cashier in a college town, it is mostly older men who have hit on me. Or coworkers haha. I don't agree that they are mostly females, it's about half male half female checkers. I used to work with this young handsome checker who always flirted with the older women and they would call him by name and always request to be in his line or ask if he was working.

[Asker]

Good-looking guys can be so full of it!

I feel bad for them sometimes, because they can't help it if creepy old women like them, (when I was in University, this older woman was so creepily into this guy and he totally picked up on it but later on was shit-talking), but it's almost sad when they actually encourage it.

[Sampo]

Yeah I agree, he ate up the attention. I'm polite when older men flirt with me, but it is uncomfortable because there is a fine line between sweet grandpa compliments and asking if you will go get a beer with them sometime haha

[Asker]

The older men part scares me the most, and disturbs me so much... it's like I wonder what's going on in their head when they do that... ugh ti's so creepy.

[aamy811]

I'm not sure t sister worked as a cashier at a grocery store and most of the guys did front facing and other around the store jobs because they would do think like carry heavy boxes. They did a lot of the heavy lifting and pushing; just all around physical stuff

[Asker]

I wonder if it's because guys are better with physical stuff, or they just figured the guys shouldn't be put as cashiers.

But it could just be them being better with physical stuff, because I've noticed whenever I go to a grocery store, the guys are the ones who always do the heavy lifting/re-stocking

[Theguyoverthere]

We got guy and girl cashiers at my part time job. Honestly, the girls who do get hit on are usually complaining because it is usually a really old guy doing so. My brother has an ex who used to workout a Lowe's contractor checkout and she quit because she got tired of being hit on by nasty old contractors.

[Asker]

May I ask how old she was when she quit?

I get where she's coming from, I don't know why but older guys purposely do it to young girls, I think they're well aware that people usually feel compassion for old people, so they think they can get away with it

[Theguyoverthere]

Low 20s I think

[M_A_X]

Because attractive people are shown to increase sales

I used to work at a Toys R Us, and it seems counter-intuitive to have a lot of cute girls on the register when it was mostly mom's shopping with their kids, but I'll be damned if it didn't still work anyway

[Asker]

Ha ha but couldn't it also be that Toys R Us just want cute faces so kids can be like all, 'oo she's pretty,' or something I don't know I've heard kids say all kinds of things volunteering with them, they get attracted to others, (in a non-romantic way), much faster than adults do

[misscoffeehead]

I think some people mistaken their friendly ganter as flirting. They are there to provide you with a friendly service.

Some of them might flirt back but have no intention. But I guess they are so use to it now, they probably have served over hundreds and hundreds of people..

Where I am, we both have guys and girls working at the cash register.

[DamanMannn]

-Shrugs- assuming you're talking about young female cashiers, most kids here in the ghetto rather just smoke pot and play CoD all day,

maybe that's another reason why you don't see Male cashiers.

I've never got to see a cute cashier, maybe I'm blind.
It's kinda hard to enjoy seeing someone working a boring arse job as a cutie.

#MaybeItsJustMe? lol...

xoxo.

[RickHasslehoff]

women can concentrate on multiple things at once, maybe that's why they're mostly female?
as for me. when i walk past a store and i see a beautiful girl sitting behind the cash register, i just want to go inside and buy something just so i can talk to her.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

I think most people would like to deal with a woman, than a man for a cashier. Women tend to be nicer, and can deal with people, guys tend to get angry quickly if someone is being a fucking cunt. See, it's making me get angry just thinking about! Grrr!

[Jessica_18]

I got hit on way more when I worked in a doctor's office than in retail. And while I was in retail I was hit on by my co workers mostly, not customers.

[Asker]

Really?

Wow, I always associated a doctor's office with utmost professionalism, and retail to be a place where people were constantly hit on

[Jessica_18]

Yeah whether it was by the doctors, patients, or even the IT guy that would come by every now and then. One time I had a patient come in, I never told him my name but an hour after he left I got a friend request from him on fb. like wtf?

[Asker]

Wow, that's just... wow.

I would think the doctors at least wouldn't stoop so low.

I get where you are coming from about the fb friend request, I got a request from a lawyer once, it was so creepy.

Did you block him? I just declined the friend request, but it was so creepy

[Jessica_18]

I guess I would call it more harmless flirting than being hit on (with the doctors). I didn't mind it because I had a mini crush on him and never felt like anything he said crossed the line.

The fb request I just declined and he never came back to the office so I didn't have to deal with him ever again hah.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

The most i ever done was have crush on few but it just blew over nothing real came out of it and i really don't hit on females i am way too shy but there's
cute girls down at my local store but i always act nice not come on to them.

[CarolinaGuti]

I'm a cashier and I never really get hit on. Probably partly because I work at an arts & crafts store haha!

[Asker]

That's clever of you to choose a store where you get a better crowd of people!

[Asker]

*by better I mean it's highly unlikely a creepy old man would walk into an arts & crafts store lol

[CarolinaGuti]

WELL you do get a few creeps but they're usually with their wife/kids haha

[Anonymous]

Hitting on someone while they're working is pretty creepy as a general rule, just saying

I think possibly cashiers are mainly women because it's a job with quite flexible working hours, and women tend to be more likely to work part time

[Asker]

That's a very good point, I didn't consider that.

[Trailblazer23]

I do all the time on this one cute girl who works at the drug store lol. She is so sick and tired of me lol but I can't help it because she is so damn cute.

[Asker]

Ha ha don't do that! I know you have a crush on her but she may actually start to become uncomfortable and miserable at her job, or even think of it as a kind of harassment.

If you really like her try to actually be kind to her, she may just appreciate seeing a friendly face all the time.

[Trailblazer23]

I am but she is 17 I think I am too old :(...

[Asker]

Okay that's just wrong!!!

I'm serious, she will be really, really miserable, 17 is high school, she's going to look at you as an older creep or something.

If you really like her wait until she's a little older, why would you want to make a girl you like miserable and scared?

[Trailblazer23]

She is almost graduated high school. Almost an adult. I am a young male in his early 20s.

What is the big deal? I am more awesome than 90% of the high school guys in her class. I think she likes me but is afraid to follow through with it because she has never dated an older guy.

I normally don't talk to girls still in high school but she ridiculously pretty so I am going to take a chance.

[Trailblazer23]

Why is that wrong? She is 17 not 12 for fuck sakes who cares

[Asker]

Honestly, any girl, at that age, whether or not she liked the guy, would feel creeped out, and you will make her miserable if you keep doing that!

Even if you think you and her are a good fit, she's too young to understand what she wants, or to not feel scared that an older guy keeps hitting on her.

If you like her, maybe just let it go lol or wait till she's a little bit older... but like I said don't make someone you like unhappy just to make yourself content

[Asker]

Well you asked for an opinion on why it's wrong, and I'm giving it to you, there's no need to be rude, because I'm just saying it like it is.

This isn't about you, or even a personal diss towards you, she would likely react like that to anyone who is your age or older, because it's not a person thing, it's an age difference thing.

Don't shoot the messenger

[Trailblazer23]

There is nothing creepy about me I am a young man and sometimes I get mistaken for a high schooler. If I never told her my age she would never known it. If we stood together you would think we are of similar age.

the only thing you find creepy about it is the number difference of 17 and 22. If we never measured the age number, no one would give a shit. Men have been marrying 17 year old women since the dawn of human kind, this "creepy" shit people speak of is new and nobody would care prior to the 1990s.

[Asker]

Well it's illegal to be dating a minor, ever considered that?

[Trailblazer23]

not where I live the law is 16+ where I'm at.

[Asker]

Again, like I said, the age difference DOES matter, she's a young girl, she's still got to experience things like University, plus she's in her final year of high school, and likely stressed already.

Any kind o relationship should be a positive force in a person's life, not a source of tension, and that is what you're becoming for her if you repeatedly flirt with her and she doesn't like it

[genericname85]

no i think that´s not good, because she can´t get away, since it´s her job to stay there... i rather give her the possibility to walk away.

i guess this is why some guys do it xD

[Asker]

Keeping my feelings for this girl on one-side, including her very strong attention-seeking personality, I do agree with what you're saying.

A lot of women need the money for very real reasons, and it's sick that guys take advantage and purposely put themselves in difficult situations because they know they won't quit their job just because of a setback.

It's pathetic come to think of it; some of these cashiers are students who need the money for things like groceries... I feel for them

[genericname85]

yeah but i mean what are you supposed to do, if you really happen to like the cashier?

[Asker]

* the guys put the girls in difficult situations

Hmm if you really like the cashier, you could talk to her politely, without 'hitting' on her, and then see if she's responsive enough for you to be straightforward, but otherwise it's a doomed situation so best to leave it alone

[genericname85]

i wouldn´t do it anyways ^^ was just asking if there was a possibility. i guess not though.

[Asker]

Yeah lol I think any kind of workplace, is a workplace at the end of the day, (just the way I see it).

So I guess the more it can be avoided the better

[Chris011]

Yeah, I would flirt with them if I think they're cute haha.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure some people do but I don't think that's why they're hired

[Asker]

Hmm I understand the women take the job because of money, but I wonder if they are put into an uncomfortable situation by certain customers

[Anonymous]

I work at a grocery store, it's like 50/50 there. But all the cute girls are cashiers

[Asker]

lol I know someone who was a cashier, and ever since that job she got all... ahem.

This is by no means disrespecting cashiers who are self-respecting individuals, but sometimes I wonder if her work climate was filled with people giving her unwanted attention, so she became even more attention-seeking after that.

Again, that's just her individual personality, got nothing to do with cashiers in general

[Opinion Owner]

I've noticed they're all friendly and somewhat flirty. It's apart of their job. The men usually take it the wrong way and flirt back.

[Asker]

Maybe I'd be a bit more compassionate if she wasn't the type of person who used her insecurities about her looks to bring other people down.

But I understand what you're saying... I have at times felt disgusted when I'm just being polite to someone and they feel the need to flirt with me... it's a horrible feeling and the men really need to stop doing that

[Opinion Owner]

Can i ask you what's so bad about that? As long as you say you're not interested and they stop what's the problem?

[Asker]

Hmm I think women who don't like someone flirting with them are usually very strong in the vibes they send out to the other person, I know I am. So sometimes if I'm blatantly obvious about the fact that I am not being anything but polite, I get pretty annoyed when I'm giving the person a hint, and they're trying to talk to me anyway.

I think sometimes it's an honest mistake, and I'm forgiving when it is, but otherwise it's just uncomfortable, and unacceptable.

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't say it's unacceptable, it takes a lot of courage to flirt with women.

[Asker]

No, it takes courage to notice someone who is not being responding, and just letting it go, because you care about the other person's feelings.

If someone is giving you a strong vibe that they are not encouraging or liking your behaviour, if you don't stop it isn't courage for flirting it's just stubbornness. And completely unacceptable

[Asker]

Moreover, you have to realize, let's say a peer or a colleague does it, okay that's someone in your age bracket, you can be a little more understanding of how to handle it, but if someone older does it... it's enough to make you really, really angry and creeped out

[Opinion Owner]

And what If they're just trying to be friendly?