The guy I liked showed his friends my nudes?

[Anonymous]

Hi all! Hope you're all good :-)
I've been speaking to this guy for months and i really like him, a few nights ago he asked for nudes so i sent him some, i sent him a full body one naked and a close up of my lady parts and now i have found out that he has showed his friends, i dont know how to feel about this, he sent me nudes and i haven't shown any of my friends and i wouldn't dream of doing that because its a private thing but finding out that he has done it to me i dont know what to make of it? Do all guys do this? Should i tell him its annoyed me or should i just leave it? I dont want to sound like im overreacting

[sexyelephant]

If you'll stay with him and everything will get more serious the next step that is very possible he might do is to talk with his friends about sex with you. For all those who say talk to him, I don't believe one conversation will change a proffesional asshole. ;) Luck for you, girl.

[spuitkaas]

Lesson learned. Never send nudes. Especially to someone you don't know if you could trust him. Honestly, I would say to him that those pictures were not meant to be shared and that he has really hurt you. Let the contact bleed to deagh then and never talk to him anymore.

[spuitkaas]

*death

[CommieDearest]

I'm concerned that you're worried you'll sound like you're overreacting. You should be furious and he should know you're fucking furious. Definitely not a dude you should trust ever. Move on.

[code3]

If anything, you're undereacting. I would wreck him.

[IronDr4gon]

So you'd physically injure somebody for something that is partially your fault?

[Asker]

Thank you! Im glad someone else thinks im not overreacting about it! <3

[code3]

Who said anything about being physical? There are reputations to ruin! Besides, that's why I think sending nudes is like the most insanely fucking retarded thing anyone can do.

Anyway, wouldn't you be a tad upset if you trusted someone and they screwed you over?

[code3]

@IronDr4gon

[IronDr4gon]

Absolutely, but I would not hold any kind of grudge in THIS situation. It's 2015, there's really no excuse for sending nudes without understanding the consequences.

[code3]

We can say things like that, but really, how many humans are capable of admitting 100% guilt and feeling no need for revenge? It would take an insane amount of self control and passiveness. Almost no one is capable of that. @IronDr4gon

[DodgersGM]

I'd find a way to castrate him, dump him, and never speak to him again.

More importantly, you need to feel like you're worth more than this. You have every right to be outraged, but you seem like you're afraid of being angry.

[Asker]

I like your way of thinking! Thank you for your response

[koko124]

You're a creep. Why don't we go around chopping people hands off for petty larceny as well?

[DodgersGM]

We should literally chop off appendages to punish any and all offenses. Literally. @koko124

[DodgersGM]

@ Asker you're welcome. Good luck! :)

[koko124]

As long as we're castrating men for doing offensive things, we might as well
@DodgersGM

[Neurath]

If you are in the UK report him to the police. It is a criminal offense. If you are in the usa unlucky because they do everything last and claim it was their idea so this law won't be arriving any time soon over there.

[Asker]

I live in the UK and didn't know this at all? Thank you for letting me know i just might report it then because its made me feel like crap

[Neurath]

The UK government has called it 'Revenge Pornography' however, the bill that was passed has outlawed passing around any pornographic images of anyone you do not have permission from.

Explain to them that he has abused your trust and you did not give permission. Let them have a word with him so he learns not to do this to women as soon as possible. Stay safe.

[WhoTheHellKnows]

You're not overreacting at all. He should have more respect for you than to show off those pics. With that being said, once you send those though, that is a chance that could happen. But he shouldn't have done it.
So either talk to about it, or show your friend his nudes. :)

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[WhoTheHellKnows]

No problem. Two can play that game. That wasn't nice of him to do that. To make him understand, show off his little wee wee to your friends

[Klaatu51]

"Do all guys do this? " <--- please never think about this again... the fact that a guy is a jerkand sends your nudes to his friends it doesn't mean it's a"guy thing".

you should DEFINETELY tell it and dump him. and no you're not overreacting. what he did was really disgusting and "brat-ish"

[Dragonblood21]

Do all guys do this? No, believe it or not some of us are actually out of high school.

Let me ask you this, does it sound like a good idea to not say something when someone, whom you are in a relationship with, has done something to upset you? If that was my girl, I'd be pretty pissed.

[Ryosanada]

Let him know those were only for him, but you need to realize that once you send those to someone else, you're no longer the owner of the pics. He needs to see from your point too, that you were doing it to please him and not his friends.

[chrisbigman]

Not all guys do it. But you are very stupid for doing that. Pardon me for saying that, but I'm just surprised women still do this. Do you learn nothing from "Dr. Phil"? We are in the electronic age. If you post a picture of yourself electronically somewhere, it's there forever.

[abzence]

You are not overreacting.
It's a very disrespectful thing to do but sadly it's pretty common that guys show of nude pics to friends as some kind of trophy.

[abzence]

I would also say that it's a pretty clear indication that he doesn't want anything serious with you because a guy with romantic feelings for you and who see a future with you wouldn't pass your nude pics around. He would keep those to himself.

[Asker]

Thank you!! x

[Kiwifun]

Yeah! Agreed!

[Anonymous]

A girl sent me naked photos of her several times, and I never shown them to anybody! I have friends that girls sent them nude photos and they have shown me when I have not even asked to see them! It depends on the guy! You reap what you sow! You go after an asshole, then that is what you get!

[Anonymous]

tell him not to do it cause if you piss him off everyone will get them.

[Opinion Owner]

try telling him that they aren't your nudes, you just got them off the internet. just dont piss him off.

[Asker]

That's actually a good idea!

[Bandit74]

I don't get why guys do that. If I had a gf send me nudes I'd want them all to myself. I wouldn't want anyone else to see them.

I hate sharing ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[Kiwifun]

That's not good. Doing this is something private between you two only. Tell him not to do this as it makes you feel uncomfortable.

[Asker]

Thank youu

[Kiwifun]

You're very welcome! :))

[Resoglass]

Fuck that guy. NEVER send anyone stuff like this unless you COMPLETELY trust them. Even then you should do so with caution.

[nerdybirdy42]

Tell him you sent those just for him and you shouldn't share it then don't send hI'm anymore

[Anonymous]

All guys won't do this. This guy is either insecure about himself and feel like he has to prove his manliness to his friends, that or he just a dickhead.

[Opinion Owner]

Not saying it's the right thing to do if you are insecure by the way

[Opinion Owner]

It's still very disrespectful to do this because it means he probably value what the guys think of him more than he values you.

[Roycaryn]

Definitely would not recommend pursuing anything further with him.

[Anonymous]

I would never ever do this. All the guys I know that do this are ABSOLUTE trashbags of human beings.

[IronDr4gon]

While that's definitely disrespectful, its definitely your fucking fault. Lesson learned. You don't see nearly as many naked men on the internet. Know why?

Self respect.

[Asker]

No i'll tell you the real reason why you dont see nearly as many naked men on the internet its because women dont do stupid shit like that, posting someones nudes on the internet is childish and immature, self respect has nothing to do with it, i sent a picture of myself to someone i trust and love

[IronDr4gon]

Lol women don't do stupid shit like that? Proof please?

Men and women both do it, but men as a whole take less nudes of themselves and are in general less obsessed with the destructive "selfie culture"

[Asker]

"Men and women both do it, but men as a whole take less nudes of themselves" Proof please?

[runfun]

dump him straight up he was playing you

[Ilovetolove1]

Ph thats bad