I put a GPS tracking device in her car....was I wrong when I was right?

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I kinda knew something was wrong with her when she wasn't showing up when she was supposed to and other things like that so I put a GPS tracking device in her car to find out where / what she was doing.  I asked her about where she was all the time.  Gave her MANY chances to be straight with me and she never fessed up.  It turned out I was right and she was at her ex boyfriends place more than with me just about. One night I finally flipped and we fought about where she was and everything and she just kept on lying.  So against my better judgment (because it might proved useful in the future) I told her that I had a GPS in her car and knew where she was 24/7.  So after that and she was caught in countless lies she was beyond p*ssed at me? Said I was violating her privacy or something like that.  So the question I want to know is... was I wrong cause I sure don't think so?

bigguy2 · Accepted Answer

I put one in my gf's car after catching her in a lie about where she was, and finding out that she was saving text messages from a much younger guy. I am not able to be secretive like her. Within the first few days I was blowing the whole idea behind it. I kept asking her why she was here or there, and she knew about it right away. She even named it "the google lady" and would always joke with me about "where does the google lady say I am now?" She never would just communicate her feelings, and ask me to stop it. I began to think she really did not care bout it being there. For a year and 5 months she would always call me on the cell as she went everywhere.

Then she broke up with me after running to the police acting as though she had no idea it was in her car. She had gone to a Ford dealer to have it officially "found" and had pictures taken of it. She had been seeing another man ever since the day I caught her lying one 1/2 years ago. She went everywhere in his car that whole time, and even had him move into her condo during the last couple of months, while she kept on sneaking out to see me a few times a week and even going on an overnight trip to the mountains with me. He never knew that she was double timing us both. I was told by the police that she will not have me charged if I agree to never contact her again. So I was very open and honest from day one, but she just saved it all up to use against me in the end. I now feel very happy that I am not in any way connected to this cheating low life woman that has everyone believing she was just an innocent little victim. I am actually glad it turned out this way, because I sleep much better these days knowing how my lif has improved without her in it.

ArtistBboy · Accepted Answer

You were right about her cheating, but wrong to install a GPS device in her car.

Dump her, there is no sense trying to dwell on why this is "your fault"- she already started the failure of the relationship by being promiscuous with other men. There is nothing worse than a cheating-lier that doesn't know when she is caught. She was being phony throughout the relationship if she said things like "i love you" and other bullsh*t - so yeah... Her fault again man, she could have broke it off and left you to scratching your head.

The whole GPS thing - it's not fair in any way. Would you like to hear someone say "Yeah I trust you, that's why I check our bank statements and stuff - I just wanna make sure we don't go into debt... Oh by the way, I put a GPS in your car cause I think your cheating! See ya later"

- Even I would flip the hell out, and I have never cheated still to this day.

Safe bet - Sell the GPS tracker, seal the deal with her, and then move on.

Step 1) Sell it to your neighbor - I bet he was cheating on his wife with your girlfriend (sarcasm)

- Lol sorry I couldn't resist

Step 2) "Hey -ashley-, I appreciate the relationship. You've taught me a lot about my life- but regretfully this will not be happening again. Best of luck to you, bye"

- Maintain your composure, it makes her go "oh sh*t, what did I do?!" + makes you more attractive

Step 3) Take your time to find a woman that loves you and don't use a GPS tracker on them, haha

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

so as from I read about 95% of people think it was wrong who answered. guess what I think it was f***ing genius. if my boyfriend did that guess what GPS in his back pocket if I could, ohh yeah sure its wrong to invade privacy yeah but its perfectly fine to lie to someones face and cheat on them. if she wasn't cheating id still support it, as long as you took it out after you found your answers. heck if my boyfriend put one in my car and caught me in my lies id be more ashamed than p*ssed shows me he ain't bullsh*ttin around. so no I think that's cool you did that, you got to have your own back when no one else does, even if stalking is the answer. ill bet you anything some of these people who say its wrong has went through there partners texts or emails before.

vmw2008 · Accepted Answer

Yeah it was wrong. She was definitely wrong for cheating and lying. But instead of walking away as the victim, you walked away as half a criminal. You did invade her privacy in kind of a creepy way. If you have that many doubts about where someone is and what they're doing that it got you to the point of having to hide a GPS in her car, you should've dumped her. It's obvious there wasn't enough trust in the relationship for it to work. Tracking her like the FBI was unnecessary and weird. Your suspicions were justified, but whether you were cheated on or not, if I ever found out a guy I liked did that to his ex girlfriend, I'd run sooo fast. It would constantly make me wonder what you'd do to me the next time you felt a little insecure. Just being 100 with you.

jujujings · Accepted Answer

I'm not going to judge you for doing it but I will say that was very creative on your part. She must have been absolutely shocked. You really didn't need the GPS though because your instincts were right on the money. Sometimes you do have to be true to yourself and listen. Sorry, you found out that way and of course it could have been avoided had she been honest.

justin55304 · Answer

well fam there's 2 ways to look at it the first way you can say the end justify's the means in which case you say it would have been wrong if she was not cheating but she was so hell naw it ain't wrong.  then you can look at it like yea that's a little extreme which it was but you had multiple reasons to do so.  I think that you were justified you didn't break her privacy you had suspicion you acted on it and you were right point blank period. if she left you with no other choice then more power to ya

Anonymous · Answer

wrong about putting a gps on her car to find out if she was cheating? maybe, it's a little creepy but you wanted answers and she wasn't giving you the truth. you should never really invade someones privacy as you did but you found out what you need to know. where you messed up is actually telling her you put a gps in her car LOL that was none of her business, and made it much worse for you. all you should have done is say something like, "i know you have been cheating on me." "frankly darling I don't give a damn" then you should have just broke it off. I mean one of the greatest quotes off all time. walk away, look like a badass, leave it at that, simple, easy.

a person who is unfaithful isn't a person you should be wasting time on. basically she's just trying to turn the guilt on you, she's a liar and a cheater. just kick her to the curb.

TexPlayboy · Answer

You were right IF you ended the relationship. If you did not end the relationship, then you should. If you just wanted some leverage over her and are still with her, then you are wrong. She is wrong to lie to you, you deserve to know the truth. So time to move on and find a girl you can trust.

I do not agree with most of the posters. I think to just end it with without knowing for sure would have been wrong. So there are too many "wrong options". So you went with the least wrong, and learned the truth. But the real question is: Why do you care what she thinks now?

Now you will be wrong to do this to the next girl, if it is because you don't trust this one.

Good Luck,

James

sadnddepressed · Answer

it doesn't matter whether you were right or wrong anymore. You found out the truth. She's trying to turn the situation around. Let her be p*ssed, it doesn't matter anymore. She's a cheater and a liar. You and I know you don't deserve that bro. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Her cheating on you is a horrible thing to do, but I think you had absolutely no right to but a GPS in her car. That is just wrong, and it is an invasion of privacy. If you felt like your girlfriend was lying or hiding something from you and you are not able to trust her then you should have just broken up with her, because trust is a very important part of a relationship.

Justbug87 · Answer

I think now that you have found out she was lying it was ok some people you just can't trust. Now I'm nto saying it's ok for everyone but if you know somethings going on and you want to decide what is the best step for you to take then yeah to be sure your doing the right thing it's a good idea

dunc17 · Answer

ya it was wrong, if you knew something was up, you shoulda asked for a break or something. if she didn't wanna be with you, just break it off. it's def wrong of her to cheat and I'm glad you caught her but it's pretty crazy and extreme to have her car tracked!

theross · Answer

it was 100% wrong... though your instincts were correct your actions were wrong.  if you didn't think you could trust her you should of ended it with her.  but what if she wasn't cheating then would it of been wrong to you?  would you of felt like an idiot... would you have ever told her?

windyone · Answer

Yes that's a bit stalker of you. I mean damn it would of came out that she was there sooner or later. Yes you are wrong. Did she cheat? I woud assume so since she is at her exes and lying so just give it up and let her go

ixi10 · Answer

Of course you were wrong, that goes without saying. Whether or not she was cheating doesn't matter. It's ridiculous that you violated her privacy, you had absolutely no right to do so.

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mikkie180 · Answer

Yes you were wrong, it might even be illegal, but at least now you know to move on and leave this liar.

killion · Answer

well if you already suppected it and she wasn't being honest with you, you should have just broke up with her instead of wasting your money on putting a gps in her car... in a sense you have violated her privacy...so yes you were in the wrong.

enlightenment · Answer

right or wrong is hard to say, but you did what you needed to do and you knew the consiquestnecs.

Anonymous · Answer

how did you do it and how much did it cost you to do it?

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