He called me a player? What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I've liked this guy for a while but I finally gave up on him cause he said you wasn't a challenge for him, and now I'm dating a different guy. The guy I used to like is mad at me now and he is asking all kinds of questions about my new boyfriend. Stuff like how long have I known him and how he treats me and stuff like that.. But now he is mad at me and he blew up on me last night and he said something like I say I like people but I don't mean it and he called me a player..

[ludacris4477]

Okay well first off it all depends on how much you really like him. If you are happy with your boyfriend right now and he makes you feel good enough about yourself then your best bet is to stay with him. I say this because this guy that rejected you before is displaying a lot of qualities that might not help in the future relationships wise. Jealousy, Oversensitivity, Unneccessary anger, and it basically looks like he's whining about the whole thing. This is not good because of the fact that he is not displaying normal male behaviors in a dating and relationship setting. You want a real man don't you. Don't take this the wrong way but all those traits that he is showing are more feminine traits relationship wise. Thing is that it is healthy for a girl to show these traits in a relationships because a girl's attraction is built on her emotions so showing all those traits I mentioned usually just means that a girl cares enough about her guy to be angry and show all those traits. However when a guy does this it's not healthy for the relationship. Sure everyone can have outbursts like this but it seems like in your case he is persistenly mad and gets on you bout this stuff repeatedly. Best thing to do? Let it go he's not making you feel any better especially with everything he is saying and this is just showing how weak and desperate he is. You might sympathize with him for acting like this but since he is acting like this repeatedly it shows that its part of his behavior and you'd probably regret it in the long run. It's not healthy and there's no point in getting rid of your current boyfriend over this.

[ludacris4477]

Yes, he definitley likes you. He probably regrets it hardcore for not accepting you. But there's something you gotta understand too. You didn't put too many details about why he rejected you the first time but it could be possible that when he said you weren't a challenge for him he might have hoped that you would try harder to pursue. A lot of guys know that girls are looking for a challenge so when he played that little game of hard to get he might have been hoping that you would try harder. He probably didn't want to just accept right off the bat because some guys don't want it to seem that any girl who likes him can easily take him. Now the fact that he gets mad at you now definitely makes him think that he probably made a mistake the first time around. Now he's saying all this f***ed up stuff in a last hope to make you feel bad about what you've done in an attempt for you to take him instead of your current boyfriend. I could give you some advice on what to do from here but that's not what you asked but I will tell you that he absolutely likes you especially since he is straying away from all the natural male behaviors in a desperate attempt to get you back.

[ame24]

Sounds to me like he's jealous. You're probably a really nice girl and most guys love challenges and when they meet a girl who is sincere and not a challenge that is boring to them. So now he sees this other guy as a challenge and he wants to know if he can take you from him. Don't fall for it