Do you have someone that was "the one that got away"?

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how'd you screw it up?

Manda321 · Accepted Answer

yes! I dated a guy for three years..we were in love and had the kinda of relationship people always dream of and we even talked about marrige..here is how the break up went...we had decide that fridays was our date night ...so every friday we would ALWAYS hang out...and every friday he would even give me one red rose...that lasted for along time...then my best friends had a bad break up and wanted me to come over and it had just  happend to be on a friday...i talk to my boyfriend at the time and made sure it was okay if I hung out with her just this one time on a friday..he was fine with it...when I got to her house later she said that she like this guy from our school and that he was asking to hang out and asked me if it was okay if he came over...though I told my boyfriend that it was a girls night because I wasn't expecting this...but I said okay any way because I wanted to cheer her up...but when he was there and she  went up stairs for something he started hitting on me and trying to kiss me and I told him to get off me and that if he can't just be friends then just not to even talk to me...this p*ssed him off so he left ( at the same time he was leaving ...my boyfriend was just stopping by my friends house to give me my friday rose)..he did see the guy leaving..and did ask what it was about...and I didn't want to start anything so I just said nothing to worrie about...but the next day the guy went up to my boyfriend and told him that he didn't know that I was dating him and that if he did he would have never have sleeped with me ( I never did ...i didn't even let the dude kiss me)...so my boyfriend flipped out on me and break up with me...i found out that people I know were moving to another state...and  was looking for another roommate...so I said that I would move with them...about a week before I moved my boyfriend ( now ex)  asked me to forgive him and said sorry for not letting me say my side of the story...i told him no and that I was moving...never saw or talked to him again...and I still  4 years later miss him soo much...

emzy-89 · Accepted Answer

i've never been in love. I had a friend who I thought for many years was 'the one that got away' but he just turned out to be a tool! lol. I believe everything happens for a reason, if someone got away then you were never really supposed to have them anyway.

cheerona · Accepted Answer

I think that everyone at some point in their life will have someone that gets away. In my situation I was too busy focusing on my rep to see that he was actually a good guy. I didn't give him a chance and ended up regretting it later.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

By being foolish and dumb. It was my first relationship, I was too unsure of myself and how best to assure myself to her, what to say and do. I felt so sure of my feelings for her, I just couldn't quite express them the way I wanted andd needed to. I was going through some things in my life at the time and she made things less difficult, I woke up just so I could be around her and talk to her, we talked almost everyday, and often times from the start of night until the early morning when I'd go outside and watch the sunrise, because it reminded me of the way she smiled, and even though I would be absolutely exhausted after a long day and a long night talking/being with her I couldn't sleep until I seen the sunrise or she said goodnight (sometimes she'd fall asleep talking to me, so I wouldn't get a goodnight, so I'd wait until she woke up to have her say that to me. I'm not exactly sure where it went wrong, but I know meeting her was the first time in my life up until then that I'd ever felt truly happy, and ever felt truly alive. I still miss talking to her and everything, so I just wish her and her beloved best of wishes and happiness, she brightened my life so I'd hope her's will forever be just as bright if not brighter.

Anyways, that's my patheticness. You asked I answered, out of curiousity, mind telling us what yours was... if you had one that got away?

BlueXeno · Accepted Answer

She got away, I never had the courage to ask her out. I finally decided to ask her to prom, but I was too late by one day! Another guy asked her out.

Fast forward 5 years, we are both in graduate school and both recently single. We catch up for old times sake, and sparks fly! This time around I had the courage to ask her out, and we've been dating now for the past 1 1/2 years!

Lesson learned: Never give up!

Anonymous · Answer

I knew she loved me and she knew I loved her. We would hang out all the time but we would never do anything sexual because we didn't want the way we felt for each other to change. At the end of Junior year of high school I was going on vacation for two months and I knew her parents wouldn't let her come along, she told me didn't know how we could see each other if I wasn't around I told her I would be back at the end of summer and we can pick up where we left off.

When I returned home she didn't return my phone calls, she didn't say anything till the first day of school when I seen her making out with another guy. Looking back at it now I still really miss her. Maybe it was It took me a while to open up and be affectionate, maybe it was because I didn't want to take the relationship to the next level, or maybe she felt I left her when I went on my trip.

The sad thing its been 3 years now and I'm still living in the past thinking we could still have something. Part of me knows she moved on and I should to but every time I think about her I end up feeling real sad that I couldn't of been the guy she wanted and it had to end that way.

T_Beezy · Answer

My high school sweetheart. We got together the end of freshman year and stayed happy until senior year, so three years. My family was going through a lot, my father died, and I was about to graduate. I guess I felt like I had too much on my plate so I dumped her idiotically.

When I came to my senses not even a week later I find that my high school best friend asked her out the night before I was going to call. I found out at work from whom is now my best friend. I didn't bother her seeing as how I had just broke her heart. Now she lives out of state and we talk from time to time but we're seeing different people. She's the one that got away and I still love her.

ArtistBboy · Answer

Being too unaffectionate (I would play video games / talk with my buddies / etc... More than I would give her attention).

She fought with me for 4.5 years to make things work, and nothing changed things. My external belief was at an extreme level, where I didn't want to love her. There was some loyalty issues that she encountered while dating me, which made me feel unappreciated regardless of what she did to prove otherwise.

Ultimately, it was a learning lesson, but I'm completely through with that relationship. Now I'm ready to move on with my life. I'll be enlisting in the military when I can ( 2 year wait due to liability )... So everything is a blessing in disguise. She would have dumped me when I enlisted due to her losing a close person every other month (she works as a nurse); which I completely understand, but it would have torn me apart if I had waited.

~ ArtistBBoy

abra_b · Answer

A couple. Most of them wanted to get away. I guess I overshot my potential.

Once, though, I projected all my bad feelings from the past relationships and actually chased the poor guy away. My fear of being hurt and rejected ultimately caused him to reject me.

ryanontario · Answer

there is a few actually , its been really tough on me as I lived in a small town for a while and ever girl I meet seemed to be a disaster in itself and she always ended up geting away and moving to somewhere else it seemed for school or something . its all been really frustrating as I did like some of them a lot .

Citizen_Snips · Answer

There was a girl that I really liked during my senior year in high school. I decided that I wouldn't date her because I was going away for college in a few months. I don't know if she can be considered the one that got away because I didn't date her, and she hasn't gotten away just yet. She's just a bit out of reach.

dlop3z · Answer

I found out that my best friend was into her too. So I just backed off to keep the friendship. Little did I know that he knew that I liked her so he backed off too. So, neither of us got her :(

Anonymous · Answer

Haha, I made it seem like I never wanted him in the first place.  Big screw up.  In fact, the day I left him was the day I fell in love.  But, you can see I wasn't very emotionally stable, therefore I always justified it saying that he wouldn't want to be with the real me anyways.  And I was right.  He didn't.  So, we're not talking right now, not even 'friends'.

Anonymous · Answer

meh, its a long complicated story and I don't even know how I messed it up, all I know is he beautiful, cold and fascinating and I would do anything short of mutilating myself to get him back. Plus he has a really common name so I see it on book covers, movie credits, all sorts of places it drives me nuts. he's just a scrawny little blond nerd with a bad attitude, so my attraction to him puzzles me to no end. when I think of him with another girl I want to snap their necks literally.

Jpalms56 · Answer

I went out with her and we broke up, I had the chance to ask her back out but screwed up. Lack of confidence I guess. But we're still friends which is good and she's still really important to me.

nadiya · Answer

actually he left me, but somehow it still feels like that. because now he's a completely different person so I guess I somehow changed him from the wonderful person he was to the douche he is now.

Anonymous · Answer

my friend liked her too and I diddnt think she liked me... so I kinda ended up tellin her my friend liked her and they went out ... but I found out after they broke up that she liked me more than him the whole time so we are together now :P

EddyMetal · Answer

Every one of them got away. Lucky them too. I really wanted to kill them.

Kayne · Answer

The first love always gets away. We both messed up. I got distant, she cheated. long story short.

BrettH · Answer

being the jealous boyfriend.. so she left me for a friend of mine... that I was always jealous of.. because how she acted towards him

Anonymous · Answer

It wasn't love, but we definaltely liked each other. Both of us were too Stubborn, scared of rejection and commitment to act on our feelings, and start going out. Then we sort offell out of touch, but I still think about him every day.

audreymarie21 · Answer

if you're in a relationship with him/her, how are they the 'one that got away'?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, it was my first relationship and I was too niave to realize what I was doing wrong. And he was too much of a p**** to tell me. He left me, but I still think about him all the time.

ifyouloveme__ · Answer

1st love. i f***ed upp. :/ lol we all make mistakes.

liz4455 · Answer

Well for one it was a long distance relationship and I also cheated on him but he also was so obsessive

oilmandan · Answer

she cheated and got pregnant with the other guys kid

itsneshaa · Answer

I went with the one who I'd been with longer. FAIL.

whiteeye · Answer

I am not sure if ti was completely my fault, because I tried.   I actually believed her when she said she loved me.  She showed it.  She said it.  And I believed it...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I thought my boyfriend was cheating on me so I started cheating on him with one of his best friends. Come to find out his friend was plotting our break up from the beginning.  He of course was mad and didn't care.

jacksoni349 · Answer

Didn't screw it up, just haven't gotten back yet to her.  Stuck in france till may.  Then she's all mine.

annonymo794 · Answer

I never told her. We hung out, and then eventually she drifted away towards the guy who almost got us together.

hippie-101 · Answer

i didn't take the opportunity when it was there. didn't tell her how I felt

ihatecopcars · Answer

I was just young.

Anonymous · Answer

I married him last month

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