I hate guys who like me?

[Anonymous]

Maybe hate is kind of harsh but I have developed a strong dislike of guys who pursue me. It could be because of past issues and the fact that I have never had a boyfriend. The whole wanting to be with me and take me places and go do stuff together things really just annoy me and get irritating. I'm super busy all the time and by the end of the day I just want to go to bed. Once a guy starts to like me as more than a friend the relationship pretty much ends. My problem is though...that I really do want a boyfriend, even though I act like I don't. I've been through so many guys who were complete jerks who pretended to like me and say they wanted to date me, who only wanted to fool around. It's like getting tricked into bed by someone you really like and care about and then they ditch you after they get what they want. Happens all the time. Or they tell me they want to take me to dinner or a movie or hang out...and it never happens. One of my so called friends even told me I would never be able to get a guy because I'm secretly so insecure and don't trust anyone. You would never know just talking to me.

I just want to know if this is kind of normal, it just seems like I'm stuck in this terrible heartbreaking cycle. I try to give guys a chance but then I always end up messing it up before anything even starts. Can guys tell if a girl is insecure? Would a guy that really liked me try to make things work even though I'm not really girlfriend material? My friends all think I'm crazy for not loving all the attention and taking advantage of it...

[Stefan_R]

This is completely natural, and you're not the only girl to think or act that way. Many girls put off an impression that they're not interested and play cold to many guys due to the fact that a girl, gets hit on by guys at least 20+ times a day if you are the type to go out to public places a lot. Getting hit on is nothing new for you, and I am almost 100% sure that 99% of the guys that do try to talk to you use the same exact techniques that are plain old boring and useless. The whole thing that guys do to try to get girls with the buying of gifts, the taking girls out on a date is honestly pointless. I for example wouldn't buy anything for a girl if she's not my gf, and if she was I would only on occasion. But this is because I don't want a girl to feel that I'm buying my way to her. Girls like you are very insecure, it's not a coincidence that you put on make up, and the clothes you wear don't just fall on you. You chose them to make you look a certain way, to attract people to you. But anyways, I think the best guy for you would be a guy that you can't figure out, someone where you will ask yourself, why can't I figure this guy out, and why is he so different than everyone else. If you need anymore details in what to look for, feel free to message me, as long as you don't blow up my inbox :)

[intra]

How do you want the boyfriend to treat you like a friend or a romantic partner. What is it you want out of a relationship it appears you are not interested in what they are offering. And you end the relationships you did have when they become intimate. Were you attracted to any of them physically or just mentally.