So I’m a naturally quiet type of female and I’m not really talkative unless I’m around people who I like or who I’m comfortable with. But within the past couple of years of me talking to a few guys, 3 of them have told me that they didn’t know I was interested in them or they had no clue I liked them in a romantic way.
Now first, I will admit that I’m not good with expressing myself (due to being rejected in the past) but they know that I’m more talkative to them than I am with other people. I’ve flirted with one of them a lot and even showed him that I was interested (smiling, playful banter, finding ways to be near him, complimenting etc.) but somehow he was oblivious to it all. I even mention how cute he is but he was still clueless.
But I don't know am I just bad with showing interest or do guys act oblivious on purpose to signal me as them saying “I don’t like you that much” but these 3 guys have told me that they liked me that I’m pretty and stuff but things don’t go anywhere. Are they just intimidated?
If this had happened to you before (with a guy or girl) how did you go about it?
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Playful banter, being pleasant and giving compliments are usually things people do around friends. If you want more then escalate: platonic touching --> sex jokes --> intimate touching, etc. If you want them to make the move dating wise, maybe bring up a problem they can provide a solution for i. e. "Man this sucks, I really want to go see *date thing*, but I dont have anyone to go with." Wait for them to offer to go w/ you and if they still dont get the idea, spell it out: "can you come w/?"
Maybe they think you're too attractive for them to have a chance of dating you.
You aren't as obvious as you think you are and are expecting people to pick up on things that only someone close to you would know.
I’ve told them that I’m attracted to them or said they were cute to me but still didn’t ring any bells.