He hugs me so tight it hurts. Do other guys do this?

[melalalanie93]

I recently started seeing this guy, and he does this thing where he hugs me so tightly and hard that it pushes the breath out of my lungs and makes the joints in my back go "pop" like when you do it with your nuckles.

The first time he did it, it actually kinda scared me a little, I thought he was going to hurt my back and I'm not used to hearing popping sounds coming from my back.

He did say he's a bit of a sadist, so maybe that's part of it? He also does other small things that hurt me little like press my hand really hard in his hand

Do other guys do this?

[Baggz]

I do that only when I feel (the word is at the tip of my tongue: When a person wants to squeeze a super duper cute baby) or when I miss her. But i try to squeeze our pillow or blanket to avoid hurting her. She likes her arms and feet being squeezed hard, so I've been squeezing her there.

Hugging someone tightly means you miss them a lot.

[melalalanie93]

Aww that makes it sound so adorable.. like when you see a cute bunny or hamster and you just want to huuuug it

[Baggz]

bwahaha... you crazy 😂

[Octavius]

"he's a bit of a sadist"

that's the part where you start running. No I don't hug girls nearly that hard. I can give firm hugs but I know how to give a firm hug that's comfortable. Other sadists do that but guys who don't get off on the pain of others don't (that is the definition of a sadist)

[melalalanie93]

Okay so guys in general don't normally do that

[Octavius]

correct.

[Azara]

if he says he's a sadist id I would take him at his word and leave--bc im not into that, but maybe you are. its your call. im just not sure why you're surprised he likes to inflict pain. he told you he likes to.

[Azara]

i wonder why you ask if its normal? is that your experience with your male relatives?

i think of all men were sadists, moist women would be lesbians or single for life on purpose.

its not normal. if you dont like it tell him and if he doesn't care, leave. if it was normal id say the same thing. your body your choice.

[bigboi22]

um you seem to insinuate that he is hurting you on purpose. Do you think so?

[melalalanie93]

Yes I'm pretty sure

[bigboi22]

if you dont feel comfortable, let it be known now.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Like. sadist? Was that suppose to be charming? That's creepy as hell

[Anonymous]

wtf! redflags, redflags everywhere! but women dig psychos so.. .

[sjoes006]

Sometimes tell him to stop.

[fenixx0083]

I never mean to... 😪

[fenixx0083]

@crystalt70?

[crystalt70]

My back cracked once, but it actually felt good.