How can I avoid attractive women forever?

Question

I'm only 23 years old and I'm already giving up on love. Women don't want anything to do with me. They don't want to date me and they don't want to be my friend ( they actually have said that ). I'm just tired from crying everyday from rejection. I'm always grieving from what could have been but will not. It doesn't help that I happen to be attracted to really beautiful women.

I'm starting to realized that I don't need anyone in my life. Love doesn't seem to be all that great anyways, so I'm not sure why I'm being a cry baby over this. There's too much pain and too much trouble. The chances that I'll find my true love without going through multiple relationships is very slim. I'm already suicidal over a girl, who I barely knew, because she didn't find me attractive. A break up will surely kill me. 

I just want to avoid attractive women all together. How can I avoid attractive women forever? Where can I go? I know that I'm lonely but at the same time I just want to be away from everyone.

You know, I didn't always hate myself. I didn't always have low self-esteem. I used to have confidence. You think I grew up like this since I was one?

MrNameless · Accepted Answer

Don't give up!

First and foremost, you need to have confidence in yourself and everything you do. This is key. You have to change you mindset and will yourself to get out of your comfort zone, as its making you sabotage yourself. Tell yourself you got this, and that if something bad happens, its not the end of the world.

Talk to women more often. Even if its not for dating, just casually talking to classmates, friends, women at a store, at a club etc. This will make you feel more comfortable talking around women.

Make yourself look approachable if you aren't already. Dress nice, have decent hair, having cologne (just make sure you smell good).

Approach a woman. Act confident, act casual. It might take several times, but you learn from your mistakes on how to behave and not to behave. Really its one of te most rewarding experiences ever. If you change your mindset to this, its really not that bad. Rejection isn't that bad at all anyway. It happens to all of us, men and women alike. You just gotta pick yourself up and go for another women. AT least you can say that you tried instead of doing nothing on a missed opportunity. There's so many women out there.. You need to forget having oneitis. Me personally, I would not allow myself to get attached to one woman. Always have options. Talk to as many girls that you find attractive (looks and personality) at the as me time. Once you find someone you really like, then focus on her.

Best of luck! You are not alone in feeling this and you will never be. Having confidence is the biggest key. You just have to tell yourself that you got this, and you go through it, and the confidence will show in your relationship and all areas of life.

UtopianLobotomy · Accepted Answer

No, you can change. Self destruction can hurt others not just yourself.
I know you don't want to hear this right now, but there are many guys who have given up, but not on LIFE! I wanted to once when I was 19 about to turn 20 over a girl who rejected me, but when I figured in the factors later in my life I realized how ridiculous that was. I also was self destructive recently, and I learned how selfish that is and dangerous it can be, not just for the person self destructing.

And you definitely don't want to hear this; there are attractive women out there that have been raped and/or cheated on and they just don't want a relationship with ANYONE, at least at this time in their lives... so don't beat yourself up, especially if its some shallow superficial chick either - their looks will fade - and most of the time quicker than men's (looks as in what society deems as attractive for females).

Hold your head up and put your chest out like you have 9 lives. Don't worry about this gynocentric culture we live in, but don't judge so much - people who judge a lot tend to judge themselves a lot and hold themselves up to ridiculously high standards. Only you can "make" yourself feel happy or sad.

Ghosted · Accepted Answer

awww im sorry ur having such a hard time with it. i know its hard to shake off, but in moments of clarity, u need to stop and reflect on what keeps putting u in these situations and what u can do. some things are out of ur control and we shouldn't worry about them or we make ourselves sicker. but think what u can do. maybe try to surround urself in more positive atmospheres of women... when u are ready of course. its okay to be single for a while to recuperate. but otherwise, maybe u need to meet some good girls for a change to restore ur faith in the opposite sex so u can fulfill ur attraction/companionship needs better.

my mom used to say dont worry so much about what went wrong. learn from it, c what u can do, and do it. u will be okay, im sure. u are also a handsome dude. i think u will find a girl to appreciate u, but first step is learning to appreciate urself. u are healthy and deserve happiness too. ur worth isn't determined by others tho i know its hard to accept that sometimes. good luck to u. hang in there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You don't sound mentally stable. You attempted to commit suicide because a girl didn't find you attractive? Talk about being melodramatic.
I honestly hate people like you. There's a whole world out there with people who suffer in such horrible ways and you're sitting and contemplating life because a girl didn't find you attractive? That makes you more unattractive than anything.

Stop being so weak, make yourself into an interesting person and things will turn up for you.

Vivianespinoza · Accepted Answer

Having a low self esteem is not going to do anything you need to grow a pair and find yourself a normal girl then you can work your way up beautiful girls like confidence not someone who throws a pity party for themselves I'm sure your a great guy! know that

MrMystery28 · Answer

Stop thinking about yourself. As long as you think about me me me and what I am not getting. Then you will suffer. Make everyone smile and stop looking at whether they find me attractive as a measurement for confidence. You are giving them >your< power by doing that. Be your own man. Learn and grow. In your head decide what you want in a woman and what you don't want. Go one with your life pursue your dreams and goals. If a woman comes by cool if they don't keep focused.

JuicyBrain · Answer

Stop whining and lower your standards. Scarlet Johansson wouldn't look at me twice either and I don't jump off a bridge for that. There are other girls, sweet and open minded who are maybe not as perfect visually, but that's the trick. If you give them a chance, you might fall in love with them and discover that the more you love them the prettier they get. And since they know rejection, they understand how you feel. You'll have a much better connection with them than with a bimbo.

MeLoveBogota · Answer

MAN UP! girls don't want to pursue anything with you because something is off with your personallty, maybe you are too clingy, too desprate. First start to love yourself and be happy with yourself. You don't need a women to be happy! In fact when you are not happy with yourself you will not be happy with Miss Universe.

ClassicRocker · Answer

Start online dating. Almost no attractive women on there. Not Tinder though stay away from Tinder you might find a few cuties there I'm talking like OK Cupid and shit...

Jackblue · Answer

Honestly I am surprised, I thought women liked muscular men like you appear to be. Anyway, if girls do not appear to like you try to focus on other goals in life. Aim to be the best at your job or something. It is all about how you focus your energies.

Anonymous · Answer

How about just look past appearance all together and find someone who is nice and has similar interests. But honestly if you are suicidal over rejection you don't seem mentally stable enough for a relationship anyway

HeyItsAnto · Answer

How about start looking for unattractive girls instead? Is sad you label a specific group and ignore other who you don't find attractive. Because of this mentality I believe you are better off alone. Don't get into a relationship. I don't like you.

Anonymous · Answer

become a hermit in a men's monastery. you won't be tempted by women ever again.

courtney06 · Answer

I feel you. I feel like I should avoid attractive men because they always ghost me or get distant :(

Scrambledagain · Answer

Man this worked so well for me. Be genuinely nice to all girls. Treat everyone of them like a princess. They will run the fuck for the hills to get away from you.

tupperware · Answer

Congratulations, sir. You just figured out how to attract women. Not shitting you.

ashley1996 · Answer

I gave up on love a long time ago, I was 16 when I gave up. You can just ignore the ladies and walk away from them. That's what I do.

Anonymous · Answer

pls never ever give up on love. the best is yet to come. trust me xx

abundantlyrich · Answer

Date an ugly woman and fall in love with her.

Anonymous · Answer

Become a hermit. Problem solved.

Jared____ · Answer

Become a monk 💁🏻 or a priest

Anonymous · Answer

You sound very sweet

Anonymous · Answer

Be gay

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