Why do I attract weird, creepy guys?

[melmel16]

Somehow, I always attract the weird creepy dudes. For example, (I commute to college, so I take the public bus) and this guy sits really close to me and keeps asking me if i am single (while rubbing close to me) even though I am trying to hint him that i am not interested. Next day, he sits right next to me again and asked me out. I told him a lie (said I was a lesbian and not interested). Thank goodness he took the hint. And recently, this other dude in my class follows me everywhere, asks if I need help and when I say no, he literally stands there and stares at me (stares at me during lecture too). When I go outside, he follows me. It creeps me out. And he's still actively doing this. And there are more incidents like this. So why do I attract creepy guys? Do I do something wrong?

[NotMyUsername15]

"this guy sits really close to me and keeps asking me if i am single (while rubbing close to me) even though I am trying to hint him that i am not interested. Next day, he sits right next to me again and asked me out. I told him a lie (said I was a lesbian and not interested). "

"his other dude in my class follows me everywhere, asks if I need help and when I say no, he literally stands there and stares at me (stares at me during lecture too). "

... you wouldn't label these two guys creepy, if you found them attractive.

[melmel16]

These men weren't ugly, I just don't like men being touchy or pushy. And regarding to "they wouldn't be creepy if you found them attractive", I would think that even then I would be creeped out.
Thanks for the opinion :)

[Anonymous]

Relying on 'hints' was probably your first mistake. Don't do this.

[melmel16]

So be direct? Tell them straight up to leave me alone and that im not interested?
Yeah, the problem is I am too nice. I don't like making anyone feel bad (I know this is a bad habit of mine) but thats who I am :/

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly they will feel even worse if you don't be direct. Much much worse.

Have you ever been waxed down there? Note how they rip it off really quick. Imagine if instead they pulled out each and every hair, one bye one, VERY slowly with a nice long yank. It's like that.

The quicker they know it's a lost cause, the quicker they can move on to finding another hot girl who will help them forger about you!

[melmel16]

Ouch, just imagining that scenario *shudders*. I see your point and when you put it in that way, I can see I do more damage than good. Thanks:)

[TheSpartan]

I don't know about you, but I don't take hints, ever. Body language and facial expressions are meaningless to me. I don't respect subtlety.

If a girl isn't totally and completely direct about her disinterest towards me, I assume that I still have a shot.

[spuitkaas]

Sounds like they're a bit socially awkward and don't know how to handle the situation. Try to be more direct to guys like that one in the bus. Just say 'no, I don't want to go out with you. I'm not interested'. Lying is last resort if he really doesn't take no for an answer.
The other guy, that's a difficult one because you can't really reject him if he hasn't took a move. Just ignore him, keep saying no and he'll give up.

[peachblossomluck]

Some people are so awkward that you need to be completely direct with them. They might act all snivelly and butthurt about it but that's the risk they took by making you uncomfortable in the first place. "I just need you to leave me alone" is something I had to say once.

[peachblossomluck]

Thank you for MHO:)

[Mesonfielde]

That's just how they establish contact, I guess.

If he didn't get the hint, your hint wasn't direct enough.

[jman46241]

Because guys are attracted to women physically. No need to double lie to the weirdo. Now the guy that follows you around is a different story.. Anyway besides lying you haven't done anything wrong. Aren't there guys that you're at least attracted to that show interest?

[melmel16]

No, not really..

[jman46241]

Well that's a shame. I'm sure a great guy will come along and sweep you off your feet someday.

[Jon_Gre_g]

What you need to do is just tell everybody you are a lesbian. This will stop guys from approaching you.

[Anonymous]

Well, if the answers to this question here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1926732-why-do-only-ugly-girls-like-me

is anything to do by - then you are weird and creepy

[melmel16]

Wow. I just checked out your question and the opinions. Dang.. they were harsh.
Anywho, these men weren't ugly, to some, even attractive, but they're socially awkward. And since I am awkward too, maybe thats why I attract them.

[Opinion Owner]

Not my question; just thought the answers from the girls were absolutely disgusting. It was just a fluke of luck that I hadn't closed that tab from last night when I opened up the browser today; I think the answers from the girls speak much more about themselves and their personality than the guy that asked the question

[DasVoz]

Be more direct about your level of interest and these "creeps" won't continue pursuing you.

[fueledbythc]

Yeah I could see you attracting creeps. I'm a creep myself and I find myself attracted to your picture.

But honestly speaking I attract creepy women.

[melmel16]

LMAO! Im curious, what makes a woman creepy?

[fueledbythc]

The way they look at me. Like I had women grab my ass. And one time this lady stopped right in front of me while getting off the train and I accidently bumped into her and my hand touched her ass. She didn't react but she was smiling at me the whole train ride.

[melmel16]

Hahahahahha! Omg thats hilarious. So its the same thing as a creepy male -pushy or touchy or who stares at you more than it is appropriate

[fueledbythc]

There's a lot of aggresive females where I'm from and there's more females then men in my city. Creepy women are more hidden within society. They come out when they are attracted to a man.

I got too many stories about creepy women hitting on me or just flat out staring at me. It's usually the shy ones who come across as the creepiest. But I attract late 20s to middle aged women. And I'm only 22

[melmel16]

Wow.. maybe its something with your looks (maybe you look mature enough).. by the way what city are you from?

[fueledbythc]

I'm from Vancouver. And regarding that I know I'm not attractive so what could possibly attract these women to me...

[melmel16]

Ohhh cool. Im from Chicago. I don't know, maybe it has to do with your demeanor

[fueledbythc]

You're onto something. I'm pretty reserved and quiet looking on the skytrain. It's the women in my class who seem to be more attracted to me once I open my mouth as I got a very deep voice. I need to observe myself more.

[melmel16]

Nothing makes a man more attractive than his deep voice (in my opinion). Lol.

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about black guys? Yeah, most of them are actually creepers.

[akanetuk]

Mix with the beautiful ones, then

[melmel16]

These men weren't ugly, for others they would be attractive. But I don't like how pushy/touchy they were. Like they're socially awkward. (Maybe bc I am awkward too).

[Lynda_The_Devil]

Sounds like you need a bodyguard 😀

[takumii]

I say get used to it.