Does my crush care about me?

[Anonymous]

I disappeared. I mean I don't know him but I think he realizes I'm sad right now and want to be left alone.

I see him posting all these pictures of him having fun with his friends and it makes me wonder if he gives a shit.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

You don't know him? So you two don't know each other, I take it?
Also, just because you are feeling sad and upset does not mean that he cannot have fun. I am not trying to say this in a rude way either, it's just the truth. I doubt he is deliberately trying to hurt you.

[Asker]

Well I guess I was miserable and sad and he started being my crush. I thought he liked me, what got me to notice him in the first place was his reaction to me.

Anyways I started acting weird where I was crying in class, looking sad. Not talking to anyone.

I'm pretty sure he knows the reason: I didn't do well at school. Not that I expect him to get it because he's a perfect student.

It still hurts. Made me feel like a stupid girl.

Anyways, I can't expect someone I don't know well to not have fun because I'm sad lol, but it just... it does make me think he's heartless.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

As harsh as this sounds, his world isn't going to stop for you because he saw you crying. He was probably upset to see you crying, but he has his own issues to worry about and his own life to live. He can't sit around and sulk over you crying. I definitely hope this doesn't come across as harsh or hostile, because I don't mean for it to. But if you guys don't know each other that well, you don't have the connection like that yet.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

He also could have felt like he needed to give you space to work things out rather than being with you. Some people, me included, are embarrassed to be seen crying and would rather be left alone. If you two don't know each other that well, it would also be less likely for him to feel comfortable approaching you while you're upset.

[Asker]

You know ever since that day that I was crying, he's been acting like he wants nothing to do with me. Like he just changed 360 degrees.

I think maybe he thought this girl is a bit of an emotional wreck and I don't want anything to do with her? Like she'll cling on to me for moral support or something like that.

Plus the weird part is from what I've seen of him, he's really not an angry guy at all. He actually seems like a pretty friendly nice person.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't think he's trying to be angry or hostile, I think either he still feels like that was an awkward day or he doesn't put much thought into it.

[LifeEqualsLove]

Maybe he doesn't wanna keep his eggs all in the same basket

[aficionado]

You disappeared (for whatever reason, best known to you) and now he does NOT give a shit. He has moved on, and so should you. Or else, initiate contact with him.

[Asker]

You know, sometimes I feel... if someone disappears without a trace, it may send the message I want to be left alone.

I don't expect him to sit around all day thinking of me. It's not like we were friends for him to do that.

But I do wonder. Does he care that I'm gone kind of thing

[aficionado]

I highly doubt that he cares, but you could turn things around by initiating contact with him. Otherwise, how will he know?

[Asker]

Why do you say he doesn't care?

I went out the other day on this amusement park thing and enjoyed it. Doesn't mean I don't care about him, it just means life is too depressing for me to just sit at home and be sad.

maybe he just wants to enjoy with his friends?

The thing is, he saw me crying once and the very next day he changed and became all rude and pissed. I didn't understand.

He's normally not like that from what I can tell of him

[LouisvilleGirl826]

You said you don't know him... so probably not

[Anonymous]

He doesnt!!

[Opinion Owner]

Just because he's your crush doesn't mean you are his. Move on.