Guys! What does it mean when you show a girl your soft side but you show everyone else your a** hole side?

You show her your weakness and your fear when no one is around. You tell her how much you love talking to her. And you always show her how attracted you are to her and how you can't help yourself around her. But around other people you show that your tough and cold and the only thing you care about is sex. Which side should I believe?
Guys! What does it mean when you show a girl your soft side but you show everyone else your a** hole side?
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