Did he miss me or just want a hook up?

[Anonymous]

we were FWB for like 5 months then ended things about a month ago cause it got too serious. he never texted me once if we talked it was cause I texted him. I saw his friends last night at the bar and was talking to them and left with them and he saw... 10 min later I get a text asking what I'm doing, I didn't answer and then he came to where I was. I didn't make eye contact at all then finally said hi and he gave me a hug and had his arms around me and asked me to stay and eat pizza with him and then wanted me to come over. we did hook up but I don't know if he missed everything or if he was just looking for a hook up cause he was jealous I was with his friends? this happened 2 nights ago and I left with his friends and he didn't act that way at all...

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not FWB.. we were talking for 5 months

[giovanniazael]

It all depends on how close you were with his friends to begin with. If you were never close with his friends, but only spoke to them because of him, you hanging out with them shows a sign from you. I really don't see where the jealousy comes in because the only way for him to have known you were there was for one of the present friends to contact him letting him know you were with them. From the information I've gathered, I can conclude that he saw a window of opportunity and went for it. Is it just a hook up? Well the actions of "just a hook up" can only be proved according to what happened after the hook up. Was there any contact or communication after that on his part? If not, seems like he got what he wanted and that's the end, but if there was any sort of communication initiated by him after that, then, in my opinion, it's more than just that.

[ArizonaRX]

May-be he had information that you don't have after it happened two nights ago? May-be he got wiff of one of his friends considering hooking up with you and he decided that he wasn't for it? SO you tracked you down and marked his territory.

Don't you feel great?

[Asker]

Wait what? I don't understand that..

[ribbonsandlace]

Just reading through the other responses... honestly it kinda sounds like you just want to hear that he missed you. You ask the question and you don't seem to like the fact that people's answers aren't what you want to hear.

My guy friend is sitting beside me and he said to say that if he wanted to be with you, he'd find an excuse to talk to you. He'd be texting. You wouldn't have broken up.

I'm really sorry, but I think he just wanted to hook up sweetie.

[Asker]

No its just I know he still has feelings for me and if that was the case and he just wanted a hook up why did he pick me of all people? I know so many girls that fall all over him so why didn't he pick one of them? instead he chose to see what I was doing and came to where I was, it might have been that he got jealous cause he saw me leave with his friend... or who knows it might have just been a hook up but I know that our hook up wasn't just a hook up, it had feelings involved, I could just tell

[ribbonsandlace]

Why are you asking, then, if you have all the answers? My point was that from an objective perspective, it seems like he just wanted to hook up. But you don't seem to wanna hear that because you keep arguing that "no, he still has feelings for me".

I'm telling you what it seems like from an outsiders perspective, and you're insisting that you know what was really up. So there's your answer, you say you know that he still has feelings for you, so yeah... : /

[raven333]

It seems to me that you were just a friends with benefits because there was no effort beyond the physical part. Not texting and no talking on the phone. And, when you did see each other, he asked you for pizza to butter you up so that he'd get you into bed. He did not miss you, to better have tested it, try not sleeping with him the next time you see him and see how he reacts.

[lovehelp]

Babe, he is a weak man. He got jealous that you were able to move on faster than he could and you were hanging out with his friends. You need to leave him asap otherwise he will leave you when he meets someone else.

Girl, Move on!

[bennynthejets]

As soon as you said "FWB" three words into your details I knew the answer to this question. I find it kinda funny that somebody that describes their relationship to a certain person has to ask if they were "missed" or "just a hook up". Actually the right answer to your question is probably both...missed hooking up with you...

[Asker]

It was actually talking.. we were not FWB we were talking I should have corrected that

[bennynthejets]

You let everybody else answer the question about a hook up but not til I mentioned FWB in my answer that you want to clarify? Doesn't add up. Sounds like either you were fishing and FWB made your story better to answer, or you really don't understand FWB and sex yet.

[Asker]

He called us friends with benefits then he said we were talking. in his head we were FWB cause he didn't wnat a relationship but we weren't just FWB because we didn't hook up every time we hung out, we talked every day, and went out to dinner and stuff. I said FWB cause that's what I'm used to calling us from his perspective but I finally did get him to admit we were talking

[Tamikaze]

Huh? It sounds like you were having sex with him but are trying to classify it as not-FWB and calling it "talking" as some sort of gradation between FWB and a relationship.

If you are having sex with a guy who will not call you his girlfriend after 5 months, that is FWB or a casual sexual deal. In that case, again, he missed hooking up with you, nothing more.

[Asker]

I don't understand. we had feelings for eachother. FWB just have sex and are FRIENDS, we were more considering we didn't only have sex when we hung out and we hung out sometimes without hooking up at all, and when we ended things he said we "broke up" so I don't know how you consider that FWB

[CrazynKinky]

He may not want to be with you but he doesn't want anyone else to be with you.

Boys are dumb like that, hell we all are.

Don't dwell on it just go off have your fun if he really does want you he'll fight for you

[fotogirltn]

Sweetie, he just wanted to show his friends he could still have you! Don't fall for that again, well, unless the sex is that good, because, heck, there's nothing wrong with you using him for sex!

[Asker]

Ha yeah well of course I was missing his sex but his friends weren't around they had no idea that I left with him, they saw him with his arms around me and stuff, I know he still has feelings for me so I'm not really sure..

[DanielSan]

He wanted some sex...

He also didn't want you to hook up with a friend of his...he might still consider you "his"

[Asker]

Yeah but he knows I would never hook up with any of his friends. that's what I want to know is if he still considers me to be his girl cause I was before

[DanielSan]

Maybe not "his"girl per se ...but he deff thinks he is still allowed to hook up with you if he wants to ...and you never know what's up with guys...he might feel threatened by a friend

[Cluelessguy]

If he wanted something more with you it would've happened already... If you want something more, then move on.

[Anonymous]

He wanted to hookup. Not that he didn't miss you, but he missed what you had, which was FWB, not love or a relationship. Usually when girls wonder if someone missed them, we think it means more than it does.

[sumina7]

If you have to ask this question, he was looking just for a hook up.

[audreymarie21]

sounds like he just wanted to hook up. and guys can be territorial over girls they've slept with.

[Anonymous]

hmm sounds like just a hook up. BUT to be honest it is difficult to tell when only you really know the exact situation. what do your instincs tell you? go with your head not your heart. trust your feelings but don't get caught up in them so much that you convince yourself of something that deep down you know isn't true but something you just wish was true. hope this helps.

[bambamcam73]

Well soundslike a hook up. He was probably afraid that you would leave with one of his friends and was jealous.

[Asker]

He knows I would never do anything with any of his friends, they are my friends too

[serenityatmidnight]

most likely, he just wanted a hook up.

[mikkie180]

He wanted sex.

[Asker]

How can I tell the difference?

[mikkie180]

You can tell the difference because he has not been contacting you.

[Asker]

Well that's the thing.. I was contacting him.. but also don't people say distance makes the heart grow fonder? so he could have realized he missed me because he saw me out for the first time in a while? or am I wrong

[mikkie180]

Has he been contacting you since you hooked up?

[Asker]

Kinda I mean I had to contact him for some things but he would make convo out of it, I can't really say he hasn't contacted me cause we talked at least a couple times a week due to something we had going on that we needed to take care of

[Anonymous]

just a hook up hun