I met this guy online a handful of years ago, and I didn’t like him at first, but he liked me a lot. We lived 3 hours away from each other, and I asked him to meet with me at a public area if he could. He said yes, but was a no show, claiming that he didn’t have a drivers license and felt embarrassed to tell me.
Once I went to a new undergrad school, I ended things with him since I was tired of him and wanted to start fresh because it was clear that we weren’t going to see each other in person unless I made that drive (as a woman, that felt very unsafe for me). However, I did think about him often and saw that he wrote very cringe poems about us separating. He also started to text me again a couple of years later, disclosing he’s heading out to military boot camp soon.
We were planning on meeting halfway with him getting a ride from someone, but it was very last minute and I had to take care of a family member. He proceeded to have sex with another girl later that day, told me about it a few months later, and apologized since he got her pregnant (she ended up aborting later). I was shocked because he always given off very strong emotions/feelings about wanting to be in a relationship with me.
He obviously wanted to date me still and me being stupid said “sure, I guess” while he’s stationed halfway across the world. He slowly started texting less and less, so I figured it was going to fizzle out anyway. But, he did say that he would help me with finances since I am in grad school. We both planned on meeting in Cali next month since he was going to be stationed there and I had a conference there. But, again, he canceled last minute which made me upset and every time I asked him if he was going to send me money to help cover these now trip expenses, he says “I don’t know.”
I blocked him for now but I’m not sure how to feel about all of this or if I got played emotionally at least. He did request for nudes often which is gross thinking back in hindsight.
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