Is it okay to ask him out on a 7th date myself?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

We have had 6 dates and he has been the one to ask me out,

We have chatted a bit today, I know it’s a matter of short time till he tells me when we should meet.

I want to ask him out on a 7th date though, just to communicate my interest because I feel like I have been sending mixed feelings and this once I want to show him that I am also interested in him.

Is it a bad idea?

[AviatorTom]

Of course you can ask him out. The more concerning thing is that you are keeping a count of dates. How many dates you go on is not important... just enjoy them... and him.

[avery58]

It's a good idea. I don't think a guy should have to take the initiative every single time. If it's just him doing it he might think that the other person isn't really interested, so it's only fair

[4ngelic]

yea it's totally fine go for it. it's not weird for the girl to ask the guy on the 7th date

[Mr_twoface]

No, when is it a bad idea if the women wants to ask him out for a date?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Don’t know, don’t want to come off too interested

[Mr_twoface]

lol... isn't 6 dates already a sign of interest? If u don't want to come off as too interested, drag out the next date.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, but we meet once a week and we aren’t exclusive. I feel like he’s meeting other people too and he thinks I am seeing others too. He is also very attractive and I think he’s used to the female attention and I don’t want to be like one of the too eager girls to spend time with him. I set a new date on Saturday. Hope he doesn’t think I set it too late, because he told me he is free on Wednesday evening and on weekends. I chose a weekend because I am busier on weekdays.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

From the beginning we have both expressed the sentiment that we want to take things slow and see where things go.

I agreed to this because I initially met him to forget the another guy, of course, I’ve never said that to him.

[Mr_twoface]

Didn't you end it with the guy (whom you've reconnected with) after he told you he dated other women, yet here you both are okay with seeing others? Question is why did you break it off in the first place?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes. I had feelings for him and I felt shocked because I thought he had feelings for me too and I didn’t think he’d be dating other people or that he would tell me about that given our 3 month daily communication and weekly video calls and his active engagement and interest in my life…

The reason I went out with this guy, I think it has to do with the previous guy.

I was hurt…

I went on a date with this new guy a few days after I ended things with the old one.

I was hurt…

I was not interested in this new guy, other than knowing that he was very handsome, so I didn’t care whether he was seeing other people or not, as long as he treated me respectfully, nicely and sweetly… Which he does.

But now we have been kind of getting along and even though our connection is nowhere as deep for me as it was with the previous guy, now that I get used to him more, I figure my less interest to him in the beginning and my wish to take things slow was more because of my attachment to my previous guy rather than my lack of interest to the new guy.

The thing is I am unable to make superficial connections and I feel like I have shown myself to be a bit more superficial to him than I actually am… Because I had my feelings reserved for that previous guy.

When I ended things with that previous guy. I soon regretted it.

Because I felt I missed out on someone I had an amazing connection with.

With this new guy I tried to compensate for it.

We are attracted to each other, but emotionally I feel nowhere as close and natural with him as I did with the previous guy.

After reaching out to him after a month, our conversation still felt so natural, as If we never stopped talking.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

In a way, I started to meet this new guy because of the old guy.

Because I wanted to let go of the feeling of hurt.
I didn’t expect it to work out and us to end up going to 6 dates.

[Mr_twoface]

Do you think, you will ever be able to let go of your dates and stick to one? I have hard time seeing it, coming from a place where you were hurt, and jumping into the new one (which now lasted 6 dates) and more to come, you will always find something positive vs negative about them all... and the comparison will drive you mad that you can never truly let go. Do you agree with my assumption?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think I can easily let go of my dates, if I feel in love and being loved.

[molonski2]

NO its not a bad idea , and YES fine is the answer to your question , its simply that simple you are six dates in , go for it.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As long as local laws & ordnances allow it I say go for it.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sure, why not? I have a hard time believing that anyone would go out on 6 dates with someone they didn't feel a vibe with.

[LaurenM1997]

No I would go for it ask him for your 7th date and see what he says ☺️

[Ms_Facesitter]

Of course it is. It doesn't really matter who asks out who.

[handsomelad70]

Sounds great, because you're a girl, he's a boy and you're conveying your interest in the lad by asking HIM out for a seventh date.

[sawno]

Absolutely, in fact if she didn't ask me out at any point i'd stop asking assuming she's not interested.

[DryGermanGuy]

„And on the seventh day, God rested.“
- Genesis 2:2

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hahaha

[Amur8711]

I think its a good idea. I know myself, i would like it if the girl would ask me out on another date so I am confirmed on her interest.

[GoodEnoughThen]

I think he will be thrilled when you ask him on any date, 1st, 7th, 100th. Shows you are as interested/invested as he is.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I don't see why it wouldn't be OK. Let him know you're just as interested in him as he is to you.

[MGTK7]

Not a bad idea. Why would it be?

[spartan55]

I think it's a great idea, do it!

[Anonymous]

7th date and you haven’t decided to call him a boyfriend or not?

[RedInnocent69]

Not at all. Most guys appreciate it.

[CrabCakes11]

Yes. Taking initiative is a good idea

[laly520]

its fine to do so

[nevooo]

Sounds like a good idea

[RMSTitanic]

How are you on date 7 but nothing serious yet?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Both of us have said that we want to take things slow.

[RMSTitanic]

I feel like at that point you're each wasting each other's time. Yeah you can take things slow, but if you're committing to that many dates with one person, make it happen

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Also, we have had 6 dates so far, 7 th will be at the end of this week.

[RMSTitanic]

Even still, you should know by now

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I like him enough to keep seeing him and he likes me enough to keep seeing me. I am in no hurry to label us.

[RMSTitanic]

But what difference does it make? If you're on the 7th date in a relationship, or 7th date not in a relationship? It's not like you're living together

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Exactly… What difference does it make?

[elaphe]

I think it sounds fine.