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Am I crazy for just cutting my girlfriend abruptly out of my life?

Honest-Matt

I had a 'friend' I met off Tinder, we went on a few dates but wrote her off as a friend because she was wasting my time. After years of her dating shitty men and myself with my own relationships, we tried dating. I felt like her last option she saved and finally showed interest in. I gave it a shot despite this.

I'm putting in effort, attention, space, support and even financially when she was in a tough spot. I made the effort to acknowledge her family as an important part of her. Which no man had ever done for her.

The contention starts when she would argue quickly, assign blame, avoid responsibility, rarely reciprocate things like a goodmorning text, or other efforts. She never really showed physical interest in me, kissing was nice for a brief moment but eventually felt like it was a chore to her. We never had sex and admittedly I purposely delayed that because men always slept with her right away and she deserved someone patient who wanted her not just for sex. But I never got the feeling of real interest, I couldn't even make out with her without it feeling off.

I wrote things off when she started ignoring me for days while messaging her guy friends or exes constantly. Saying she's here for me, but not. Ultimately not going anywhere in life, showing no effort in anything, our personalities clashing, and me compromising on too much.

In early August my Mom was in hospital after nearly dying and my Dad in late August was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. She was nowhere to be found, not even a 'hey how are you' and I had no time or energy at this time. Early September I found my Mom dead in her home, the hospital's at home care team never came so she fell and laid there for a week. She was not supposed to die. I tried calling my girlfriend because I needed her, and she cancelled the call, I said it was important, she said she was tired, tired to what, hear a 1 minute phone call in the afternoon? So I blocked her and the entire social circle.

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5 mo
So many details left out, here's a crazy one. Took her on a thousands of dollars trip to Niagara Falls, did all the touristy stuff, all expenses paid, fine dinners, do whatever we want, took her to see Matt Rife, defended her when she picked a fight with a couple and I BARELY even got a thank you for anything let alone the entire trip.
Am I crazy for just cutting my girlfriend abruptly out of my life?
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