I've been dating this girl since May and everything was going really well. We both are very invested in our spiritual lives and thats where we found attraction and common ground with each other. We had one big friction point and it led to a debate but essentially we broke up over it. During the breakup I slept with one of my friends that she was always suspicious about, and admittedly i knew it was a mistake, doing it out of frustration and weakness. She wanted to get back together shortly after but I felt like i had to tell her so I did, and she was very hurt. She still wanted to be with me, but was struggling trusting me again and rightfully so. We made it work for about 2 weeks before she said that it was driving her crazy and she couldnt trust me or see me the same and so broke up again, but still wants time to figure it out and remain close friends in the meantime. I met up with her last night and told her I’m willing to work on the relationship but she says she's not ready for that yet, but is still in love with me and needs time to figure out what she really wants. I’ve made my intent known that I’m willing to reconcile and build up the relationship again but every question of intent on her part is a big “IDK.”We’ve lost a lot of that intimacy and connection and I’m torn between being there for her to see if she's willing to rekindle and going cold to see if she comes to me or just cutting my losses altogether. Right now in a place where we’re both working on ourselves but still sort of talking every day and hanging out every now and then.
Working things out with ex girlfriend?
I've been dating this girl since May and everything was going really well. We both are very invested in our spiritual lives and thats where we found attraction and common ground with each other. We had one big friction point and it led to a debate but essentially we broke up over it. During the breakup I slept with one of my friends that she was always suspicious about, and admittedly i knew it was a mistake, doing it out of frustration and weakness. She wanted to get back together shortly after but I felt like i had to tell her so I did, and she was very hurt. She still wanted to be with me, but was struggling trusting me again and rightfully so. We made it work for about 2 weeks before she said that it was driving her crazy and she couldnt trust me or see me the same and so broke up again, but still wants time to figure it out and remain close friends in the meantime. I met up with her last night and told her I’m willing to work on the relationship but she says she's not ready for that yet, but is still in love with me and needs time to figure out what she really wants. I’ve made my intent known that I’m willing to reconcile and build up the relationship again but every question of intent on her part is a big “IDK.”We’ve lost a lot of that intimacy and connection and I’m torn between being there for her to see if she's willing to rekindle and going cold to see if she comes to me or just cutting my losses altogether. Right now in a place where we’re both working on ourselves but still sort of talking every day and hanging out every now and then.
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It would be kind of hard for her to forget about her feelings for you if the two of you are still talking everyday. I suggest that the two of you agree to go no contact for two months, whereby ideally you both don't date anyone else, but you both just use that time to get over your emotions for a little while, whereby the two of you have more power to look at the relationship rationally and list the reasons why the other person is the right person, as well as list the reasons why you two separated, and contemplate whether the reasons to be together outweigh the reasons not to be together
it was while separate she is over reacting. dump her. don't even bother.