So my girlfriend wants to go back to dating (more to the story), am I taking this the right way?

so me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months and we been happy and got into no arguments. 3-4 weeks ago one of her old flames came back to town and tried to force himself back with her. telling her to" leave me I'm here now w/e" or some mess like that. she tells him off and says its" me and him now go away"

2 weeks after this she tells me that she wants to go back to dating and that "she thinks we moved too fast" I'm thinking in my head, WTF? but being a nice guy I try to be supportive and say OK. she tells me that I'm still her boo however

fast forward to the present (2 weeks later) her and him are together like all the time now while me and her have only seen each other once since this day. and are talking less and less.

im not planning on being a "fallout guy" for when this relationship obviously goes down the drain.(it fell apart the first time cause he is a liar) and he's spoiling her ATM like crazy, I honestly fells he's only doing this to see if he can steal her away and when after that pul the old "switcharoo" back to his old self. so I'm in the process of cutting all ties. cause I'm not sticking around any longer for this BS. plus my family and friends noticed that I changed as of late cause of this.

at time point I reached the point where I'm walking away no matter what. I'm just waiting to get back to her place one last time to get some of my stuff out safely before offically cut the ties and lock the door.

am I doing this the right way? I think I am and I think I'm being fair. I would have liked a friendship if this failed but at this point I don't even like her character anymore. so I'm just going to cut everything and go my way.

i finally understand why some guys take the "no guy friends" route with their GFS. at first I thought it was an insecure thing but now I see some chicks really can't handle this.

inputs and similar stories are all greatly asked for. thanks for reading this.


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  • u are doing the right thing ..let him have her and dump her,she obviously hasn't learned a thing the first time around, and has no idea what a real man is..(YOU) she will regret it in about a month..don't let her friend zone u,you do not even treat a friend like that much less a bf.

    • i have this saying (I know others do as well) but "a ex is an ex for a reason" they can have each other. what's funny is she said she hates when people do that to her (friends/romantic interest w/e ignore her or spend all their time with someone else and not them) but yet here she goes doing it to me. irony/hypocritical <_<

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What Girls Said 1

  • You are doing the right thing... all girls go through that phase of dumping a good guy for their ex. I'll admit I've done it too. You've been a great guy, move on. She will burn with her mistake, and she might even try to come back into your life when he leaves her with no money and nothing. Say "you snooze, you lose"

    • why do that (leave the good guy for the ex)?it seems like a braindead thing to do IMHO. I get that some people need to learn things the hard way but then again I figured that common sense would stop things like his from happening.

      but yea since then I been keeping my distance and I been happier since.

    • Because we are brought up with the idea of "if you love it, let it go. If it comes back, its meant to be" So when the ex comes back, apologizing for everything he did, the girl thinks "Oh, so he's changed the bad, and the good that I liked is still there, therefore, he's PERFECT!"

      Which of course, after maturing, we all know this is NOT TRUE. Noone is ever perfect. So when the girl realizes this after dating the ex, she dumps him and says "Hum, let me go back to current boyfriend. He was better."

What Guys Said 1

  • I went through the Exact same thing but the diffrence is I was dating the girl for damn near a year. But I believe you are doing the right thing by cutting all ties its the right thing to do when a girl goes back to her Ex.

    • damn a year, and she did that ? smh some people just don't know what they want. that would have definitely been a immediate "close the door and lock it" situation.

    • Yep a year lol its a close the door situation

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