But in reality, there are so many single moms who have guys marrying them? Most single moms i have come across end up remarrying or dating. So why is there is notion that nobody wants to date a single mom?
There’s a lot of reasons men don’t want to date single moms. However there are some who will. But in all honestly there’s not a lot of benefit to getting w a single mom. You can’t just randomly call her up, say let’s go out. Even if you plan ahead she still has to find someone to watch the kids. We can’t really go away for a weekend. Kids will always come first, so you’re competing w the children for affection. A lot of times you’re expected to foot the bill on many things even if she doesn’t say you have to. Let’s say I show up m, bring dinner, I have to bring dinner for everyone else as well. Depending on how old the kids are things could be good or bad. If they’re much younger, chances are they will take to you more as they older as opposed to kids who are older who despise you. Not to mention if their father is involved and he’s a POS, he might be telling them things about you to get them to dislike, distrust you. You can’t really discipline the kids how you want in most cases. You’re expected as the man to protect not only her but her kids as well, to provide financially, etc, but when it comes to disciplining the kids you have no authority. You have to prove yourself to her more than her previous man even though she most likely didn’t require much from him. Single moms tend to have a lot of emotional baggage. A lot of them really want a partner not so much for love but to help ease the burden of being a single parent, especially financially. A man may see a single mom he really likes but he doesn’t realize all of this till he gets into an actual relationship w her. Most men don’t want to take on another man’s responsibilities. It’s a big financial obligation. Depending on how long she’s been single, those kids may have mental health issues as well that most likely came from their mom from how she’s been coping all this time trying to make it on her own struggling.
u Guys who refuse to date single moms are quite vocal about their opposition and will talk about it whenever they have an audience. Guys who date single moms don't feel a need to get validation for their behavior, so they talk about it far less often. So people incorrectly assume that what they hear is representative of the entire population of dating miles, when it is not.
This phenomenon is similar to the way that guys who prefer women with big boobs talk about their preference while guys who prefer women with smaller boobs do not talk about it. And girls think that ALL guys prefer big boobs.
As others have said they’re probably just more vocal. My parents have been married 40+ years, my mom was a single mom when my dad met her. Then they got married and had a kid together.
My sister was a single mom too and got married as well.
Just one more untruth bitter men on this site spread around… One more way to make all women look bad 🙄A single mom is bad (yet what about the dead beat dads making women become single moms🤔🤷♀️🤦🏼♀️)
@THC1717 well obviously YOU don’t have brains or you’d get if more MEN stopped bailing on the women they knock up (means to get them pregnant in case you don’t get that one) there’d be less single moms out there in the first place. I was also pointing out that people try to shame single moms but not dead beat dads (which is so not the same thing as a single father) and you tried to come at my intelligence🤦🏼♀️😂
@THC1717 wait aren’t you only 14? Shouldn’t you be in school? Fake account detected😂😂
Such an opinion only comes from people that MATTER 😂😂😂 Since you can’t read English, the question is only referring to single moms, but you as expected go off into tangents to make a counter response. You do realize that 70 - 75% of all break ups are initiated by women right? I didn’t think so.
@Brainsbeforebeauty Oh I get it now, you’re just jealous that I’m still young and have options, while you have the laborious task of email management.
@THC1717 😂😂😂
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Well, it's obviously true that some men are dating single moms because there are so many single moms that a lot of guys would have no one to date if they would never date a single mom. That said, what you're talking about doesn't tell us whether the single moms are getting better men than the women who don't have kids (something I very much doubt). And there is a huge difference between merely dating and never meeting her kid (s) and marrying her.
I would also question whether single moms are more likely to date men who themselves don't have kids. That seems unlikely to me.
Reality is, it's much more difficult to date a woman with kids. It's usually more chaotic and her financial situation is usually worse. Sounds like something the best guys would want to avoid.
Asker, it's look like your suppositions are not accurate:
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/.../jomf.12527
Men are more open to single mothers than women are open to single fathers? Lol, not so much.
https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-statistics-and-research/dating-statistics/single-dads/
https://www.aarparrow.com/sex-relationships/why-women-are-so-attracted-to-middle-aged-dads
https://goodmenproject.com/families/tmb-why-single-dads-turn-me-on/
https://www.heybaby.com/post/why-i-prefer-to-date-single-dads
https://www.ocregister.com/2015/07/28/calling-all-single-dads-women-want-to-date-you/
It's true single mothers often find men willing to date and marry them. But that doesn't change the fact that most men shy away from single mothers, and for good reason.
And no, men are NOT more open to single mothers than women are open to single fathers. The opposite is clearly true.
I see more single moms dating / remarrying than single dads dating
Of course because women can't handle the stress of raising a child and taking care of business so they spend considerable time looking for a man to save them from their poor choices. Single dads can and cope with both and they get it done. It is why statistics show that a child raised by a single mom are more prone to a host of bad things while the child of a single father or both parents present have nearly identical odds. Man present = good future. Man not present = not great future. For the child
m I agree with @caitycat21 on this, life’s a rollercoaster, in the real world people have far greater things to be worried about. People marry all types in society, tall, short, poor etc, this includes single mums and dads getting married.
What can be hard is fitting things around the social calendar of a single mum, she has her own life with her friends, school nights with her kids going to clubs etc and maybe when her ex has the kids. getting a date sorted can be fun lol, however you do and date without too many problems.
Some people also say "oh my god" when you pound their assholes, but is there anything godly in ass-fucking?
Focus on the most significant part. Is this single mother a shitty person or does she enjoy some anal?
Yeah it is more often than not a turn off to have to take care of another dude's kid. But if that mommy cares for her kid, might mean mommy is a caring person overall and worthy of receiving the bone, after which she will prepare a delicious meal so you stay there filling your belly and emptying your balls.
Other mommas are careless whores, and I'll be afraid to get near even with a condom.
Most single mums end up dating someone else who has kids or get with another toxic guy. The fact is that they usually do not want anymore kids and guy without kids wants kids, and they usually got with a toxic guy and then try and settle down with a good guy later on, and by principal us good guys should reject them. Why on Earth would we want to bring up and father some toxic guys spawn as our own.
And the guy is never going to be put first in that relationship so that is not ok. Plus there is baggage and drama right from the go
Single Mums who find a guy are usually being used for sex or a stop gap girlfriend or find themselves with old men.
The good quality men that have options won't be with single mothers because they don't want the extra stress, expense, unpeaceful house, or to have a kid that doesn't want to listen to him because he isn't their real father, even though it is his house. Also, at the beginning of the relationship, the single mom would already have obligations and not be available to the man as much, plus she would have contact with her ex. Only low quality men that have few options would consider being with a single mother.
They also know that the majority of single mothers are that way because of their own poor decisions. The majority had casual sex and ended up a single mother, and on top of that, many lie to the courts about the father and try to prevent him from having equal custody of the kid so she can get child support, which makes her a manipulative thief. The MAJORITY are that way.
Getting married isn't a problem. Nearly 3 out of 4 in the U. S. are divorced in less than 5 years though. Ask any guy what can be an insurmountable issue in a potential relationship for him and it's the possibility of THAT. I've met thousands across the country who's lives have been completely destroyed by that... but the female just keeps getting government benefits.👍I know 1 guy in Seattle, had 2 kids with his childhood love... they weren't even married. They still lived down the street from each other. The kids were with her... but he went over there every single day to play with them, babysit, take them out. She didn't even work at all, or go to school. 1 day we went on a job together shoveling gravel. 8 hrs. Got back to get our pay... and he wadded up his check and threw it away. I asked him why... she had put him on child support... and his check for 8 hrs of shoveling gravel... was slightly over $4.
There are a lot of men who were raised by single mothers to have no self respect. What else are they going to do but exactly what they were indoctrinated to do? Ell oh ell!
When people say “Nobody wants single mothers.” what they mean is ‘No self respecting man would lower himself to be with a woman who chose to be a single mother.’. I, for one, agree.
Whatever makes you feel comfortable at night... In reality though census data in the USA reports the following statistics on single moms.
1.2% of are widowed
15.7% are married; in most cases, these numbers represent women who have remarried
40.6% are currently divorced or separated.
42.6% have never been married.
The only people I see bashing single moms like this are terminally online men who have no grasp of the real world. Many people Mary, have kids, divorce, remarry. Life’s an emotional roller coaster
I'm not sure what you said in your update is true. As a single mom myself I've found it really hard to find guys willing to date. And I get it, but it feels very unfair sometimes. I would love to find a single father to date because I think it would negate most of the concerns other men have with dating single moms. And personally I find a single fathers attractive in some ways because they tend to me more mature and stable. But sadly for me, there are not a lot of single dads around.
Of course some men will marry single moms. They do so because they can't get a different woman. Same reason those women marry that man. They can't find a better man. It is the equivalent of the trash and the mud combining together. You look at the real men the ones who can provide have stable careers, decent looking. Mentally and emotionally stable few bad habits etc they don't marry single moms.
Entitled culture.😒
When a man breaks up with a girl who's childless is easier than when a man break up with single mother because they have to break ties with the child as well. y'all only think of yourselves, Selfish bum holes.
While you should be facilitating the child and father's relationship and raising your child for the benefit of his future, your only concern is to get back to the dating scene, to prove to your delusional selves that you're still worth it. The false notion of entitlement.
According to my wife, her single mom friends all settled for the first guy who would accept them with their kids.
Totally depends what kind of single moms.
A divorced single mom and a woman that was whoring around is different from a widow single mom.
Also, the age of the man and child is a big factor.
A young man in his early 20's most likely isn't going to take single moms especially of little kids seriously compared to a man in his 30's or 40's.
Single moms are bottom of the barrel. They have usually been in toxic relationships, clearly have a child with toxic men, and expect another man to raise some loser's kids. No real man would raise another man's kids, real men have their own kids. It's biological.
Men are reticent to date/marry single mom's because they have proven themselves not to be able to consider the consequences of their actions re; birth control, etc. The exceptions to this are single mothers who have lost their spouse through accident or illness, In both cases though the men know it will be difficult to bond with the children unless the mothers actively include the men in the children's lives and allow them to discipline the children if needed.
That is just something delusional, bitter men say. In reality, it is far from true.
Most men wouldn't date a single mom because most likely there's another man involved in their lives and a lot of them don't want to deal with a kid that is not theirs.
People will say what they believe to be true, not what is true for others. Maybe it's a way of controlling women?
The single Mom I rejected was being chased by a lot of guys but it all comes down to quality. Obviously none of those guys were considered good enough or she would have gone for those instead of me.
Keep telling yourself that, kiddo. Those guys marrying "single moms" are either pedo's, deluded, or just hooking up.
Single moms get cucks and simps who don't mind broken sloppy seconds.
Because men don’t want to have to take care of another man’s kid just because a woman wants him to.
Those men dating single moms typically have kids of their own, so it's mutually beneficial. But none of this disproves the fact that single moms are unappealing to most single, childless men, for lots of obvious reasons.
No most single moms actually marry men without kids. Men are more open to single mothers than women are open to single fathers.
Bullshit. I challenge you to show some valid evidence of that claim.
@opinion owner
I have seen this through years of observation and experience. I promise you its true
Yeah, that's what I thought. You have nothing. I am roughly the same age as you so we have the same number of years of experience in this world, and my personal experiences and observations are completely opposite of what you claim yours have been.
If you're going to make a claim that flies in the face of what the vast majority of people actually see in the real world, at least have some facts to back up your claim. "I promise you its true" means nothing.
It's not true that men don't want to date/marry single moms. The actual problem is almost none of those guys are quality guys who can get other girls without children.
Many of them are so controlling that those moms even had to stop contact with other friends/family. Some were secretly abusive and those moms tolerated that. It will be very rare to date a quality guy.
No idea because all my friends that were single moms eventually got remarried
There's a reason OnlyFans and Fansly are still in business. It's these types of guys, that are marrying single mothers.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard of anyone saying that. But I have heard guys say “don’t marry single moms”. All the little Andrew tate fans say don’t date single moms.
They remarry beta male cucks who couldn’t get a respectable unsoiled woman with kids. It’s a major L And I feel horrible for every sad soul who had to sink that low to get a woman.
Baggage 🛄🛅 right there, I said it - no thanks 👍🏻🙏🏻
Because no man of value wants to play another man's saved game.
For the same reasons everyone's saying they don't want to date broke ass guys. But they are dating, marrying those broke ass guys and having kids with them.😆
Nobody wants to date a single mom because when the relationship ends it ends for two people instead of just one.
There are those pathetic guys out there who wind up settling for girls with kids, but, for the most part, no, guys don't want single mothers, sorry
Desperate or men who have kids are always an option.
there's so many single moms guys dont have a choice if they dont want to die alone.
Not true! I would love to date a single mum
It's only on the internet.
No it is not. Here in the UK so many single mums are single because they have kids and so much so that a group of them have set up a dating site just for single mums in hope they can find someone. Single mums can find a guy but they are either just using them for sex or a stopgap girlfriend or are old men.
@DarkLegacy
There is an app for everything. For rich elite people to date, people of different religions, hook up apps, racial dating. doesn't mean a thing
@asker you are just making stuff up
@DarkLegacy
Im not
Because nobody wants to date single moms?
Because they won't date me
I've never heard a single person say this
No one wants to raise some other guys kid
@LadiesFavoriteToy
I beg to differ. Where do you think the name Stepdad comes from.
You shouldn't generalize by saying NO ONE because there are plenty of guys who love kids and make a nice family with him, her, and the kids.
Because they failed to be one☠️
It's true though!
who says that?
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