Boyfriend won't brush his teeth. Wtf do I do?

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I think it's a pretty basic requirement that someone showers and brushes their teeth right? It's just simple cleanliness!

I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now and I think he's only brushed his teeth a handful of times in my presence. He stays over at my place 3-5 times a week. He has a toothbrush here but doesn't use it!

When we get ready for bed, he just throws off his clothes and hops in. He doesn't wash his face or brush his teeth. When his breathe gets really really unbearable and I ask him to, he just refuses and tells me he doesn't want to.

Wtf, he's a grown ass man in his 30's and he won't brush his teeth. What am I suppose to do here? It's just gross!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's so gross. Explain to him that you have more respect for him than to make him smell and taste your bad breath. Explain to him that you need him to take care of himself not just for him but also for you. If after lots of talking he won't see your side and adjust his behavior, I'd say it's a deal breaker and move on, because 1- it's so gross and inconsiderate, and 2- do you really want to be with someone who can't hear you when you have a need, and who won't compromise when something is important to you, and who won't adjust his behavior even the slightest to accommodate your needs or preferences? Those issues go way beyond the grossness of not brushing teeth. Those issues will touch many aspects of your relationship and leave you very unhappy in the long run.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

In all honesty that would be a deal breaker for me... oral hygiene is so important - not just for his health but because I don't want to kiss a fuzzy mouth with last weeks chicken cacciatore sticking around.
I wouldn't kiss him - or anything else until he started brushing but this is pretty much the one thing I'm really fussy over

Iddy_Bella · Accepted Answer

My ex was/is like that too. I've noticed that if a man (or a woman) doesn't brush their teeth, or shower often, it usually means they are lazy in almost every aspect of their life (not just personal hygiene).

Please no hate for this comment. It's just my personal experience and opinion :)

Davisb · Accepted Answer

So eww there's a dude at my work that we use as standard of breath rating. He likes to get really close when he says something to you and I've had to hold down vomit before it's so bad at more than 10 ft. So if one of my buddies has bad breath I'll be like your a quarterdanny Or halfdanny and they run to find gum, candy Or Mouth wash... but y would he refuse, the idea someone is turned off By my breath is mortifying to me. If he refuses basic hygiene what else is he not doing , washing hands after using the restroom? Do you want to start a family with someone who can't take care of them selves. I find it disrespectful that someone your close with or work close to doesn't respect your space enough to at least try and remove the problem.

MusicMayhem · Accepted Answer

Maybe he just gets really lazy when he's tired so crashes into bed. If I were you I'd try getting him to brush his teeth earlier while he still has some energy, like right after dinner. Failing that, I'd leave him, smelly breath is gross.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I sympathize with both of you. I can understand where he's coming from also as I ABSOLUTELY HATE brushing my teeth. I do it, but I really have to make a conscious effort and FORCE myself to. Lots of times I'll only brush once a day, and I'll admit, some days not at all. I don't know why I hate it so much, I just do, and always have all my life. I'm guessing that he feels the same unless he just doesn't care? He's not the only guy though (look around the internet, some people rarely brush, if ever!). BUT, I have a healthy mouth despite this! I go to the dentist regularly and he tells me my mouth is very healthy. Does your boyfriend go regularly? Hopefully. Yeah, like others have said, I'd just sit down and have a very serious talk with him and let him know how much it bothers you. Refuse to kiss him until he does etc. You can't force him to do it, but maybe he'll make more of an effort?

es20490446e · Answer

You can send this photo to him:

Exterminatore · Answer

Doesn't wash his face? Depends if it needs washing. Doesn't brush his teeth before bed without prompting, and you ask him and he still doesn't?

Fire him. He's a lazy ass with low standards. Can't have a serious relationship with a little boy.

Anonymous · Answer

The health of your mouth relies on the sanity of his. I have seen 3 people get bacterial peoblems in their mouths due to a spouses neglect. One is currently having all their teeth pulled and another suffers not just rotten teeth but constant uti's due to oral with a dirty mouth. If he won't brush you won't... anything... If he neglects his mouth what else does he let slide? You deserve health & happiness... nothing less

anaspie · Answer

Hm dont take this the wrong way but HOW AND WHY have you put up with this for so long?

Chico_brah · Answer

Wtf lmfao. He is a grown ass man in his thirties who doesn't posses the self discipline to brush his teeth? Hmm

bunanababa · Answer

ewww then don't kiss him or do anything intimate until he brushes his teeth

Zebadee88 · Answer

It's gross and inconsiderate. Politely tell him it is a deal breaker and that this is the end. But also ask him why he doesn't want to protect his teeth and health for when he is older?

katieschlesener · Answer

I would break up with him because oral hygiene is very important to me

JanaTalks · Answer

Tell him in a serious tone to go brush his damn teeth or he won't get your cuddles

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

If I was you, I'd refuse to kiss or be intimate with him unless he brushes. That's BS.

soccerchick4eva · Answer

you need to have a serious talk with him, let him know how u feel about it!

little_bird1 · Answer

He obviously doesn't care about his well being and he also doesn't care how it makes YOU feel. Putting up with this says a lot about you as well, you must be really desperate and stupid. He is a selfish lazy ass who obviously has you wrapped around his finger. What's next, taking a shit and not wiping? I just can't understand how you can tolerate this? GROSS!

rocsteady12 · Answer

dont have sex with him and he will get is act right. if that doesn't work break up with him cause its nasty

aaa94 · Answer

Have a serious conversation with him about how much it bothers you. It's gross. Brushing teeth is everyday is vital to good health

BMWE92M3 · Answer

Nothing. Scientficclllyyy proven that brushing teach increases the chsnces of tranfering germs. Cuz when u brush them u nake the germs flow around ur nouth

Heirio · Answer

Ew. Tell him that it's  a.) a requirement for his dental health b.) disgusting for those near him

Anonymous · Answer

Ultimatum hun. As you deserve better. and maybe he'll learn then

Smarter · Answer

who cares it not your job to tell him what to do. putting poison in your mouth is gross... there are billions of people who have not as clean of mouths clean and here you are saying it is gross...

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